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This is similar to another thread by The Gentleman, but I didnt want to hijack his thread and it is slightly different so I'll start my own:) .
Well basically the problem is somebody I've known for a while now and she really gets on my nerves. Theres always something wrong, it brings me right down. I wouldnt mind if she was having real problems, but shes not. She can never be happy or glad of everything.
Just for an example when I see her in the mornings (at college) and ask how she is, she either says "Yeah" in a tone that means she isnt or lanches into a story about how awful her weekend was.
I dont mind helping and being there for someone if they are genuinley having problems, but this girl is just a moaner plain and simple!
Its got to the stage where being around her drags me down and so I've started to avoid her and distance myself from her for my own sake.
Shall I just go on like this and hopefully we will grow apart or should I be cruel to be kind (cruel to her, kind to myself:D ) and just tell her how it makes me feel? Thanks for any input.
Well basically the problem is somebody I've known for a while now and she really gets on my nerves. Theres always something wrong, it brings me right down. I wouldnt mind if she was having real problems, but shes not. She can never be happy or glad of everything.
Just for an example when I see her in the mornings (at college) and ask how she is, she either says "Yeah" in a tone that means she isnt or lanches into a story about how awful her weekend was.
I dont mind helping and being there for someone if they are genuinley having problems, but this girl is just a moaner plain and simple!
Its got to the stage where being around her drags me down and so I've started to avoid her and distance myself from her for my own sake.
Shall I just go on like this and hopefully we will grow apart or should I be cruel to be kind (cruel to her, kind to myself:D ) and just tell her how it makes me feel? Thanks for any input.
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Just make sure you're not abandoning her in her time of need.
Yeah true, its early days yet tho, so I'll see how it goes. I know I sound mean but honestly if you knew you'd feel the same. Sometimes I think you just have to act for yourself and now is one of those times.
It kind of worked but I soon realised that it just wasn't worth the effort as we really didn't get on anyway.
She also told a lot of lies and eventually I did confront her about it...We don't speak at all now and I know that she is doing exactly the same thing with other people and I just feel sorry for them rather than for her.
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