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am i over-reacting??
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on a public message board(not this site) my bf of 8.5 months made a comment saying he thought a certain pop star would be good for only one thing (implying sex), would i be over-reacting or being silly if this upset me, he knows i occaisonally read the board, and lately he seems to have become relaxed in our relationship eg. i see him checking out other girls when we're out together. The comment really bothered me becase he says he'd never wanna be with anyone but me but then reading that i wonder who else he thinks about like that. I sent a e-mail asking what it was about but no reply yet.
any advice would be welcome
thankx
any advice would be welcome
thankx
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However...I'd start to worry what kind of man you are with if he ever made such a comment about you!!
You are over reacting about this comment and if he's not replied to you yet its probably because he's still trying to work out the weird an wonderful workings of a womans mind!
When I was going out with Laura she always used to go on about Ewan McGreggor and when I confronted her about it she said it's just cos he's so fit (she was joking) and that really upset me. In the end she said she didnt mean it and was never going to meet him but I know what it's like. Just say to your boyfriend that it makes you feel.. insecure and less special and he might pack it in....
Personally, I point out people in the street and ask what my boyfriend thinks of them! lol.
Back to the problem....You must fancy some popstar or something though? I know my boyf has a thing for Kylie and certain Attomic Kitten girlies but that doesn't mean he doesn't fancy me. In the same way that I have a thing for Duncan from Blue but I still fancy my boyf! It's better he tells his mates that he likes a girl off the telly rather than telling them he likes some girl he knows, so count yourself lucky! If he checks out other girls all the time then I can see why you're a bit worried, but trust me most blokes are like that! Just give him a kick up the arse when you catch him at it
We also point out people with huge bums, huge breasts, crap hair and fashion disasters.
so do we! I'll say to my boyf 'Are you eyeing up that girl?'....and he'll say soemthing like 'No, I was thinking what a fat arse she has' or soemthing along those lines!
Ah yes! The perfect cover up!
it is human nature to fancy other people. But I don't believe for a second that a loved up very happy girlfriend who can look at, for instance, Robbie Williams and think he is nice, won't also look at people in everyday life and think they are nice too?
And when you say this person is unobtainable, you aren't writing off the thought of being with them. If you suddenly got to meet this fave celeb of yours and they fancied a fling then suddenly they are obtainable - So I have never liked the unobtainable excuse.
I fancy my girlfriend loads - I love her to bits - I appreciate good looking girls whether they are celebs or not and WOULD NEVER touch them, even if I could.
I hate it when people do that - Dig holes. "Do you fancy Mr X?" "No he is nice but I could never fancy someone with...erm...that dress sense". OH! So if they improved their clothing you would fancy them?
Correct answer shoudl always be - "Yes But I'm with you" or "No".
If you did meet a celeb what are the chances that they would have a fling with you? Pretty slim I'd say!
From the way you describe it - If the gorgeous hunk actually spotted you, took a liking, threw a few sweet lines your way and you had a bit in common you would be interested.
But because he isn't interested - The situation is awkward - Or you don't know their personality - You are saying it won't happen.
Thats not good enough. Those 3 factors are way too easy to add into the equation. I guess that explains why so many people cheat/dump/move around so much then!
I have actually been in the situation where some lad who I found attractive was chatting to me and he asked if I wanted to go for a drink with him. I was chatting to him in a causal friendly manner bot because I wanted to bed him, but because I was mixing with people at a party (and I won't ignore someone because I think they're nice looking!). I told him I wasn't interested and he asked why, I did not say "because I have a boyfriend" because that would have indicated that if I did not have a boyfriend I would have gone, but I said because I just didn't fancy it. He found out I had a boyfriend from someone else and tried to convince me he was a better person! Fool!
That has always bugged me with girls ive dated in the past - Even if they meant well. A bloke asks them out or comes onto them "No I have a boyfriend" i.e. I would be interested otherwise.
I assume girls mean well when they do this as they don't think of what it implies although I'm sure some do it to keep their options open at a later date.