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Sick of people's 'games'
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I'm really sick of the games people at my college play. They just want to put me down all the time, I'm just getting so I don't want to hang around with them anymore, even if it means having no-one to go to the pub with or whatever. Things is, I'm not basically just not a loner, and I'll put with quite a bit of shit just to have friends and stuff. Strange, I know, but it's the way it is. I'm beginning to think these people aren't my friends though. I mean the things they say are f***ing hurtful. stuff like 'You'd have a problem with going on the game because the other person has to want to do it with you' - and if I'm not sexy they certainly aren't either, I can tell you, and then this making fun of my surname calling me 'William Nay Cock' :mad: Ok, maybe I haven't always been that polite but I haven't continually put someone down like that.
Are these people really my friends? I begn to doubt it sometimes :rolleyes: Anyone else who has to put with these games, I'd be interested to see what you think about it.
Are these people really my friends? I begn to doubt it sometimes :rolleyes: Anyone else who has to put with these games, I'd be interested to see what you think about it.
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anyway, why not just make new mates?
I wouldn't just take it if my mates called me names and put me down all the time, I would give it back to them!
My mates are on the whole mostly cool, I've got few that are wankers and like trying to turn my words around and making a joke of it, but I never let it get out of hand!
Just have a word with the main guy doing it, or win over some of the other group of mates so that they will stick up for you.
Well, to be honest, I haven't. It does seem to be me who gets undermined most of the time though. I think I get picked on because I don't quite share their values (like having a flashy mobile phone for the sake of having a flashy mobile phone). I generally try to ignore it, but the things they say seem pretty hurtful to me (I don't know how you interpret it?). I guess it's worth saying something to them, but if they keep on like that, then I'll just find new friends.....
Think this is what I'm starting to do. I think I like some of them more than others. There's one of them who I don't like that much, and I generally don't hang out with him, but he's part of the group and everything. As for the thing about me being ugly, this seems to be a bit of a class joke. Personally, I feel it's a bit inaccurate. They don't exactly look amazing themselves. Why do they pick on me? If they genuinely think i'm ugly, then there's going to be a bit of conflict, because I like my looks. Beauty's in the eye of the beholder anyway.
I think the put-downs come my way mainly because I'm a bit different from them, and because they feel shit about themselves. So they have to play these games. Too many of them like that. I'm confident I'll find real friends who want to be themselves but it may take some time yet....
Yeah I'm like that too. Half the time I'm bubbly, joking, cheerfull me, then other times I need my own space.
Will, try not to let them get to you. Lads can be like that sometimes, and it's shit. Like bad seed says, make new friends if you can. No-one deserves constant shit from people like that.
Just remember - you are better than them because you dont go saying nasty things like this to them
I mean, they might be just taking the mick because you take it so seriously, which means you're an easy target....and they get more of a laugh out of doing it!
On having an old mobile phone......just go "yeah, so what....is life supposed to be a competition??" or I'd even be tempted to make your self look cool by going "Yeah, I'd like a new one, but it mean less money for booze......I was surprised I thought about it for like a whole 2 seconds"......hehehe!
Oh, I forgot to say.......I thought that not getting involved in the status sortof games (if you know what I mean) was quite trendy at the moment....????
If you smile and even play along with it-showing it doesn't effect you it'll soon ware off, most groups of people that hang around together (not best mates) have the "gilly" they pick on.
I wouldn't take it too personally- just give as good as you get without being emotional or serious. In fairness one of my best mates gets the piss taken from him all time- at times he desrves it but we never mean or say anything to harmful and slagging your name is not seriously slagging you- its when it gets really personnal you should move
I've no real idea, but it isn't in my college :rolleyes:
I generally just ignore their games on the outside but kind of go away feeling hurt. They probably know that, maybe as you say, I should try to see the funny side of it. Everything's worth a try, I suppose. Thanks for the advice.