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Okay, Hmm
Girls, do you like your bf's (If you had one) to be little jealous- {Using the term very loosely here} when you tell them that a boy likes you?
How should a guy acted?
Blokes, do you get jealous when your gf (If you had one) tells you that someone else fancy's her?
How would you act?
And if the roles where visa-versa how would you be?
I don't really get anywhere near jealous I don't think, Is that bad?*
I don't want the girl thinking I don't care & love her, but then I don't want to be over protective of her!
Girls, do you like your bf's (If you had one) to be little jealous- {Using the term very loosely here} when you tell them that a boy likes you?
How should a guy acted?
Blokes, do you get jealous when your gf (If you had one) tells you that someone else fancy's her?
How would you act?
And if the roles where visa-versa how would you be?
I don't really get anywhere near jealous I don't think, Is that bad?*
I don't want the girl thinking I don't care & love her, but then I don't want to be over protective of her!
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Turns out she'd rather be with him than me. Broke my heart she did
Anyway, I think girls can sometimes sense jealousy in their boyfriends, and it drives them away big time.
Jealousy is a really bad thing. It's split me and guys up on more than one occasion and is a sign of lack of trust, along with insecurity and weakness on the part of the person who's jealous. If a guy gets jealous I feel pushed away, like I'm not trusted, and to be honest it's likely to make me act that way and not be faithful because I don't see why I should when it doesn't make any difference.
Girls like to tease their blokes right, to get little reaction out of him
You kinda want him to show he cares for you without it getting out of hand (Am I way off here?!)
This is too much to think about right now, I'm off to a cold bed:(
Just one of the many pathetic games and tests they play.
I find it hilarious that girls HATE a bloke getting overly jealous but can't help but get extremely jealous of other girls yet I (like many other blokes) just brush it aside as a compliment!
Aye we play games and we test guys, but guys do it back as well.
But I sure as hell don't get jealous of other girls trying it on whatever, it's a compliment to me cos I have the guy and they want him. Hmm....I do get jealous of females with a better body than mine, but I'm working on that
If i wanted to make you jealous, i'd do it a bit better than that!
I never was before but am now with boyfriend as he has a fucking stunning ex who still wants him :rolleyes:
His Ex was in the club last night, whom I've never seen before in my life. Shes blonde, slimmish, attractive, but has no sense of style whatsoever.
I'm no jealous of her , but I got slightly jealous when I thought about what they might have shared etc. But, I never let my boyf see that I'm jealous. Ever.
Anywhoo, I don't mind my boyf getting jealous, I find it quite funny actually, but like me, even if he was, he wouldn't let it show. :rolleyes:
(keep forgetting things lol) Also the blokes ex's are things to jelous over, been with my new bloke for 5 months, but fancyied him for 10 yrs, (along time!!) and he was married to this right minger, nice dress sence but that was the best thing about her, i work @ a nite club and he generally comes into see me, she was there at the w.end and they were having a goss (i dont mind that) but its when they start refering to things they done together thats sooo annoying! (her new husband was there and laughing with them) if he can do that then why cant i join in? grrrrrrrrrr:mad:
But I need to know the right answer.
She basically told me someone else fancy’s her and my response was “Ok” (Was that right or wrong?)
I don’t know what I should have said, and she not helping me (Maybe it was a test/game) in which case I’ve failed!
I’m not bothered or unborthered with the fact someone else likes her (I don’t feel threatened in anyway) I know she’s a beautiful girl and some blokes will naturally like her. But I just don’t want to come across as uncaring in just saying 'ok'.
Also I don’t want to ignore it (or do I?)
So what’s the right thing to say (generally?) in things like that!??! *Little help please ladies!*
(And yes I’ve done the wrong thing in bring it on here:( , but it may help future bf's/men;) !)
This has happend to both me and adam.
When he told me a girl at work liked him I went off on one! Just something inside me sparks and makes me think well this girl lives near him, works with him, and she knows about me yet sstill tells him she likes him. Makes me think she isn't very respectful as if somebody has a boyf/girlf you shouldn't really interfere with their minds telling them you like them.
A guy who claims I lost my virginity to even though it didn't really happen as we stopped as it was hurting me, hadn'tr spoken to me for five months then turns up at work saying he likes me. This annoyed adam but he took the more calm approach and said he knows I love him and trusts me so he doesn't see it as a problem. It annoys him in the fact that this guy tries to twist my mind saying he probably cheats as it's long distance.
It would seem that the better approach when your girlfriend/boyfriend tells you someone likes them is to take it as a compliment that somebody likes them but can't have them cos you've got them! It is quite frustrating especially since your not living close by but saying ok probably appears that perhaps you aren't bothered in which case she may think you don't feel for her as well as you say. This doesn't mean that you don't care for her but perhaps she sees it that way. As for the best thing to have said I'm not sure, everyone is different and reacts in different ways but maybe she wanted you to be abit jealous that somebody else liked her? Just to show that you really care that somebody else looks at your girlfriend this way.
Just because adam stayed calm when I told him I didn't feel that he didn't care but just thought that he feels safe enough that I'm not going to do anything and its him that I love so why worry about somebody else.