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Self-harmng and telling people
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I've posted before in the really long thread about self-harming but as that seems to be a dead thread now I thought I'd start a new one. As I said I was planning to, I finally went to the doctors about my self-harming (I've been cutting with razors about 3 and a half years) and got some anti-depressants. She said I needed to talk to someone I trust etc about this but the thing is I don't really trust anyone. I've not told my parents, they are totally unaware of how unhappy I've been or that I've ever cut myself. I think my mum would be upset. Have any of you got any experience of telling parents this type of thing? I guess the timing makes it hard too. It's been so long that I've been keeping it a secret. I've not told any of my friends either.
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Id suggest to tell a friend first and talk to them about how you feel/have felt.
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Does your have GP have a surgery counciller, cos thats who i see and its better then seeing someone on the NHS Mental Health side of things.
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For some people it helps for others is dont.
If you tell ur parents, i'd suggest (as you can tell, my sugestions arent very good!) you tell whichever one u closer too first, they'll probably be more understanding.
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http://www.thesite.org/info/health/other_mental_health/self_harm.html
The number at the bottom is for the Bristol Crisis helpline - they may be able to refer you to a specialist counsellor who doesn't charge.
Also, speak to your doctor again and ask to be put on the waiting list for counselling, if you aren't on it already. I'm not sure what kind of person you've been given an appointment with, but if you have been self-harming for three years then counselling or therapy would be very useful to you.
one of my friends wrote a letter to my mum without me knowing, and she was devastated.
but she was really good about it and came with me to doctors appointments and therapy sessions if i needed someone...
the longer you think about it the harder it's going to be. but it's such a nice feeling to know that someone at least knows what you're going through and is looking out for you.
My ex boyfriends mum knows and she keeps an eye on me, if she sees ive cut myslef again she sits me down and makes me tell her why etc. That helps a lot and i havent cut myslef for nearly 2 months now, which is a big acheivement.
I cant talk to my mum about how i feel, it hurts too much.
I know this probably hasnt help but if u ever need sum1 2 talk to send me a private message and ill listen.
Hopethings improve for u
Seeing a mental health nurse is not as bad as it sounds, honestly. I suffered from depression and had anti depressants, I was also given a nurse. she was brilliant, she used to just come and chat away with me, it was just like having a friend round for coffee. Obviously at 1st I didnt open up to her, because after all she was a stranger. After a few months I really did start feeling better. She used to give me loads of advice and help. The thing is, thats all she deals with, people who are depressed, problems like yours and stuff like that.
Have you not got a close auntie, or someone whos a bit older you can tell in confidence what problems youre having? Im a parent and to be honest if my Daughter had these problems and couldnt come to me then I would be devestated. She should be able to come to me with anything, I know the problem you have got is pretty serious and it would be hard to explain. They would most probably be shocked, probably angry with themselves for not noticing something was wrong with you and im sure there would be loads of other emotions going on. Your parents probably would be scared about whats going on, but if they knew how unhappy you were then I think they would do everything they could to help you.
Well done for starting to get help, you have taken probably the hardest step which was admitting that you have a problem, I hope you get all the help you need
After reading some of your posts I decided to go and have a look to see if I could find any information for you. I found a few sites which weren't that good however I did find this one :
WWW.self-injury.net
It seemed to have a lot of info, places where you can post stuff, so have a look there you might get some help
Ive just tried the link I put but it didnt take me where I thought it would. If you go to through the link, scroll right to the bottom of the page to the last update. That will take you to the forum:)
Randomgirl xx