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Tight on him......
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I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. The sex is fab, and we have a great relationship on all levels. The only problem is i feel really attracted to a couple of other guys and i keep getting thoughts about having sex with them. I cant help it, they are all gorgous and i do fancy them, but i keep having thoughts about having sex with them when i see them. I fancy my boyfriend more then these guys and i want him over them. Do you think i am being unfiar to my boyfriend by having these thoughs? I know that he fancies other girls, but we boht prefer each other. I just feel nasty when i have these thoguhts. Any one else been there?
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Just because men and women enter into committed relationships doesnt mean they stop noticing and/or fantasizing about others. It's not the thoughts its the doing something about it that would be troublesome.
Even married men and women look and/or fantasize about others. Relax.
As long as neither you nor he attempt to make your fantasies reality in this context, don't let it bother you.
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you could just be like most other people who fancy almost everyone they see.... I know I do
Drum
If you think you're the only one having fantasies, and that it's strange to have them, then you should read some of Nancy Friday's books, which are a collection of real fantasies from real people, and you can buy in most bookshops. They'll make you feel normal.
Mr_Wobble
Or maybe not, eh?
The old saying is true, just cos you look at the menu it doesnt mean you have to have the meat. Looking never did anyone any harm, and you can be sure hes eyeing up other girls. Its natural to look, it doesnt mean youre gonna fuck every one you see. Think of it as admiring natures beauty and youll be fine:)