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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 06.04.26
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No one likes me. Im overwhelmed
Hey @Redemption I'm hearning that things we're feeling quite heaving for you last night. The situation with football sounded difficult, I can understand how you felt overwhelmed. How are you feeling today?
@Verity thank you, I think thats a few night in a row youve checked up on me so I really appreciate it. Ive been better, it's sorted out now, it did get heated but it's all ok now, there's a football session on tonight but the person I had the argument on the group chat isn't attending tonight's football session. I was just trying to defend my side which as I was saying on chats and here I'm always going to do. Im probably going to go to tonight's session. A few stuff offline are just a bit on my mind like a couple of other issues and just my next steps after my cleaning job etc, its a bit daunting and pressuring especially with certain ages.
@Redemption I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this at once and it makes complete sense that you feel overwhelmed. Sometimes life just throws too much at us all at once and I hear the feeling of not being able to catch a break.
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It sounds like you are trying very hard to handle things in a thoughtful way. You are noticing your own actions and reflecting on times when you might not have acted as you wanted to which shows a lot of self-awareness and courage because not everyone can do that. It shows that you are really trying to grow and take care of yourself even when things are difficult.
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Deciding to leave the student forum on your own terms sounds like a really brave choice. It sounds like that it has been a negative place for you especially as it has been affecting you and that people have been rude while not taking responsibility for their behaviour which shows more about them than about you. It is completely understandable that you feel frustrated and unfairly treated on that forum. Even though you are aware of your own mistakes, that does not take away from the fact that others have treated you unfairly. It is completely okay to set boundaries and to step back from negativity and you do not need to feel guilty for protecting your peace .
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The situation with the car also sounds worrying and stressful and it makes absolute sense to feel uneasy about someone pressuring you. You are right to trust your instincts and to protect yourself because your safety and well-being are very important.
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The situation in the football chat sounds really unfair and you didn’t deserve to be treated that way at all. You were just trying to join in and have a good time and it’s completely understandable that it made you feel upset when someone tripped you and then you were accused for it. You should have been treated with respect and understanding and the fact that you defended yourself is something to be proud of. I’m glad to hear that the argument has been sorted out and that things aren’t as heated anymore.
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I hear you about the things offline that are on your mind. Thinking about next steps after your cleaning job and other things can feel overwhelming, especially with all the pressure that seems to come at certain ages. But there isn’t really a deadline for figuring everything out though it may feel that way. You can take your time and move at your own pace. Even the smallest steps forward bring you closer to where you want to be and it’s completely okay to go one day at a time and explore what works for you.
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You are not alone and even when it feels like things are going wrong, there are people like us who see your kindness, your humour and your thoughtfulness and you make a difference with the support and kindness you give. The feeling that nobody likes you is not true at all. You are stronger than you realise and you are truly valued and appreciated here for exactly who you are.
Thank you so so much @Ech0 you put sooo much effort into this reply. It unfortunately wasn't me who was considering a new car just yet but hopefully soon, that car situation is sorted, the student forum is sorted too, I've not posted since yesterday morning I think and football was just a misunderstanding with someone and it got a bit heated but them people I misunderstood with aren't going to tonight's session which I might be going to, I think theyre working. Yh its sometimes about them small steps. Its just hard to have that belief sometimes and im just at work sometimes just questioning if I could have done diffrent things to get in a better more fun job. Thank you though Echo, you're an incredible member, how's yourself today?
Another thing offline happened, just there was a small issue with the neighbour and someone separate said we have too many cars as we have 4 because everyone here has a car now, 1 has just been recently acquired but its made me overthink, with other stuff too. I think we have a right to have a car each, even though 2 go on the road and 2 on the drive, its a 2 car driveway but we all need our cars, its quite a spacious road, I need mine for communting to work and even without my job I need it for my errands, same for everyone else here, communting for work and / or daily errands. Its a small issue, I'm just overthinking it.
Had some issues about football a guy has been getting cocky swearing and everything so its got a bit heated, he needs to stay away from me or its going get worse. Im not going again. I've had issues with a few people and spaces but Im always going to stick up for myself.
Im feeling upset
Hey @Redemption, it sounds like tensions were high at football last night, but that you did the right thing by recognising that you need to step away from the situation.
Would you like to share more about how you are feeling this morning?
@Billie Im feeling a bit better, just a guy kept being rude with me saying "pass the fucking ball" , I ignored it but he kept doing it, getting rude so I just asked what his issue was and he just got more rude so it got heated, it could have turned physically because he was making me angry but I just got sent home, its someone I've had similar issue(s) with before. I think I'll just message if we stay distance with him just to make sure things are safe, they are, its just for the extra caution. I think its all done with now, I've just been overwhelmed in general like my next steps career wise, I wanted to move into a job in my store and apprently there was no vacancies but I've seen a few new starters and a note on a wall talking about new starters getting trained so im just scared in management or store colleagues have said behind closed doors specifically not to hire me, it would have been an ideal next step going from my current job progressing to something different, less stigma but same place therefore familiar to me because it seems like a good olace to work in store like now everyone pretty much is nice. Just been scared like I say of specifically not wanting to be hired, like staff and management have said about not wanting to hire and work with me, coz i do make a couple of mistakes every now and then with my cleaning job, I work for a separate cleaning company, my store are like the clients of my company. I might just be overthinking but either way it know I have a way forward after this job. Also I'm working on it but the stigma of my job gets me down too, I worry I've failed and that staff in the store look down on me. Im trying to be kinder to myself about everything, its just tough, I think I feel the stigma lesser than I did but its still tough, Im extremely wary of who I tell about my job, it might just be a gradual thing, as ive said a dozen times on chats or boards I think of it as preparing the store which feels better and it matches my job description right, if anything it matches it better than cleaning. I don't really like the term "cleaner" , store preparation feels better and carries less stigma I feel
Hey @Redemption, glad you're feeling a bit better! You did the right thing by removing yourself from the situation there.
It makes sense that if you are feeling overwhelmed in general then this could affect the way you are feeling and reacting in other areas of your life.
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It sounds difficult to be carrying that stigma that you feel surrounding your job. I want to assure you that no one should make you feel ashamed because of the job you work in. No job is worth less than any other one - we need lots of different roles and people to create a good and functioning society. I see that you are trying to be kinder to yourself, that is a really great thing to do. It is hard at times but being conscious of that decision to be less hard on yourself is a great step.
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Hey hows you?
Thank You so much @Billie
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There's pretty staff at work and its just sad because id never have a chance with them , they could get some massive tall succesful guy over some cleaner
hey @eylah. Just wanted to check in with you to see how your doing today.
hey @Nathan thankyou so much. this means an awful lot to me. and i rly appreciate it. hru?
how is everyone
@eylah you absolutely deserve to have people care and check in on you.
I'm doing okay thanks. How are you?
im ok. and thankyou so much. im going to make myself a roast dinner today. bc i enjoy making a roast dinner.
@eylah ooh, is it roast chicken?
I feel really scared to do my manual licence still like book my test. I just feel terrified not yo sound overdramatic, its just the waiting lists, the pressure and everything. Also not worrying me too much atm but Im still scared to talk to people at work like I just can't do it at all, not at the top of my mind now its actually a little concerning because im gonna end up leaving this place having not spoken to anyone, I really don't want that to be the case.