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No one likes me. Im overwhelmed
Hey @Redemption I'm hearning that things we're feeling quite heaving for you last night. The situation with football sounded difficult, I can understand how you felt overwhelmed. How are you feeling today?
@Verity thank you, I think thats a few night in a row youve checked up on me so I really appreciate it. Ive been better, it's sorted out now, it did get heated but it's all ok now, there's a football session on tonight but the person I had the argument on the group chat isn't attending tonight's football session. I was just trying to defend my side which as I was saying on chats and here I'm always going to do. Im probably going to go to tonight's session. A few stuff offline are just a bit on my mind like a couple of other issues and just my next steps after my cleaning job etc, its a bit daunting and pressuring especially with certain ages.
@Redemption I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this at once and it makes complete sense that you feel overwhelmed. Sometimes life just throws too much at us all at once and I hear the feeling of not being able to catch a break.
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It sounds like you are trying very hard to handle things in a thoughtful way. You are noticing your own actions and reflecting on times when you might not have acted as you wanted to which shows a lot of self-awareness and courage because not everyone can do that. It shows that you are really trying to grow and take care of yourself even when things are difficult.
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Deciding to leave the student forum on your own terms sounds like a really brave choice. It sounds like that it has been a negative place for you especially as it has been affecting you and that people have been rude while not taking responsibility for their behaviour which shows more about them than about you. It is completely understandable that you feel frustrated and unfairly treated on that forum. Even though you are aware of your own mistakes, that does not take away from the fact that others have treated you unfairly. It is completely okay to set boundaries and to step back from negativity and you do not need to feel guilty for protecting your peace .
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The situation with the car also sounds worrying and stressful and it makes absolute sense to feel uneasy about someone pressuring you. You are right to trust your instincts and to protect yourself because your safety and well-being are very important.
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The situation in the football chat sounds really unfair and you didn’t deserve to be treated that way at all. You were just trying to join in and have a good time and it’s completely understandable that it made you feel upset when someone tripped you and then you were accused for it. You should have been treated with respect and understanding and the fact that you defended yourself is something to be proud of. I’m glad to hear that the argument has been sorted out and that things aren’t as heated anymore.
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I hear you about the things offline that are on your mind. Thinking about next steps after your cleaning job and other things can feel overwhelming, especially with all the pressure that seems to come at certain ages. But there isn’t really a deadline for figuring everything out though it may feel that way. You can take your time and move at your own pace. Even the smallest steps forward bring you closer to where you want to be and it’s completely okay to go one day at a time and explore what works for you.
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You are not alone and even when it feels like things are going wrong, there are people like us who see your kindness, your humour and your thoughtfulness and you make a difference with the support and kindness you give. The feeling that nobody likes you is not true at all. You are stronger than you realise and you are truly valued and appreciated here exactly as you are.
Thank you so so much @Ech0 you put sooo much effort into this reply. It unfortunately wasn't me who was considering a new car just yet but hopefully soon, that car situation is sorted, the student forum is sorted too, I've not posted since yesterday morning I think and football was just a misunderstanding with someone and it got a bit heated but them people I misunderstood with aren't going to tonight's session which I might be going to, I think theyre working. Yh its sometimes about them small steps. Its just hard to have that belief sometimes and im just at work sometimes just questioning if I could have done diffrent things to get in a better more fun job. Thank you though Echo, you're an incredible member, how's yourself today?
Another thing offline happened, just there was a small issue with the neighbour and someone separate said we have too many cars as we have 4 because everyone here has a car now, 1 has just been recently acquired but its made me overthink, with other stuff too. I think we have a right to have a car each, even though 2 go on the road and 2 on the drive, its a 2 car driveway but we all need our cars, its quite a spacious road, I need mine for communting to work and even without my job I need it for my errands, same for everyone else here, communting for work and / or daily errands. Its a small issue, I'm just overthinking it.
Had some issues about football a guy has been getting cocky swearing and everything so its got a bit heated, he needs to stay away from me or its going get worse. Im not going again. I've had issues with a few people and spaces but Im always going to stick up for myself.