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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 02.03.26
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There was this woman who helped me with something at work and im sure she's left now, I think I just found out officially, I feel a bit upset about it, it's so so so stupid because she just helped me with something I was struggling with and said hi a few times, barely, dont even know her yet I feel upset. Im not sure, I just get like "do I have chance with her" kind of thing or love at first site maybe, I dont even know. Im sorry im being so stupid, whinging about someone I don't even know and never had a chance with her anyway.
i have contacted police n ambulance for them. im just drained from it all. i am going back to sleep bc it’s stressing me out.
@eylah it sounds like last night was exhausting. You have done all you can for them, and like Nathan said, you absolutely deserve some rest now. Going back to sleep sounds like a good idea, I hope you manage to get some rest today.
@Sabah . she’s now saying she’s suicidal again.. idk what else i can physically do? ive done everything i can. im only human. im not mh trained nor medically trained to deal with this.
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i have my own shit going on ( selfish ik). im missing my mum an awful lot. i have no ppl irl to talk to. i have no family. yeah my sister n dad but they are never there for me. well my dads blocked but yk im exhausted. it’s constant with this person.
driving me fucking insane
Hey @Redemption, no worries but I have cropped this image as the name (and thus the location) of this butchers was in the picture! I wonder if you could give us a bit more info about this image?
It was just a butchers i went to @Leyla hehe. I know you're vegetarian but yh I just got lamb chops from this place, not tried them yet but they look flavoursome.
Im upset a bit
this girl is doing it again. she telling me she gonna go harm herself. :(
@eylah absolutely nothing about it is selfish. It's one of the most stressful, and painful things to have to deal with constantly, 24/7. You've already gone above and beyond for them, you've gotten support in for them, you've done everything within your power to help them, there's nothing further you can do beyond what you already have. The kindest thing to do now, is to take a step back, and give yourself a break now from it, because you deserve one, and be kind to yourself about it.
There is nothing selfish about needing to take a step back, and looking after your own mental health. Your already going through so much pain as it is, and you don't deserve to have to deal with this constant struggle on top of it.
Like you said, your only human, and the best thing to do is leave them in the hands of professionals, possibly mute them for the time being, and take some time for yourself friend.
Hey @eylah , I'm just catching up - it sounds like you've had an extremely hard past few days, and it sounds really overwhelming and distressing what's happening with your friend. May I ask what your relationship is with this person?
As Nathan and Sabah said, it sounds like you're doing your absolute best to support her and to re-direct her to the help that she needs, however, you're allowed to feel that you've reached your limit, and you're allowed to be wanting boundaries here, especially when you're coping with your own mental health struggles and grief too. Particularly now that you have alerted emergency services, they have a duty of care to keep her safe and check in with her, now that they know she's been actively suicidal. And therefore, the responsibility for her safety now lies with them. What might it look like to put some boundaries in place here? For example, to turn off notifications, or your phone while you're sleeping? Or to perhaps send a set-text to her each time with signposts to specialist services that can support her such as Papyrus, Samaritans, and SHOUT? I hear how hard this is, and can imagine its really triggering and frightening and you don't want anything to happen to her. But you also are doing all you can here, and you've equipped your friend with all the best next-step options and informed emergency services, and that's amazing
@eylah after last night esspecially, what do you think you're needing self-care to look like today? What would feel comforting?
Hey @Redemption , I noticed you said yesterday that you were upset and it sounds like it might have been a hard day? What's been on your mind? We're here for you
how is everyone today?
Im ok thanks, you?
@eylah i'm fine thanks. How are you doing today? I know things have been incredibly difficult for you these last few days, my favourite twat, and i'm here if you want to talk ❤️.
@Sian321 thanks, I think it was about a woman at work who I kinda would have liked to get to know but she's left, I barely knew her, I shouldn't be upset over it, she seemed nice though .
@Nathan @Redemption hi you both ok?
im ok. k ( her name begins with but im not saying her name. but i havent heard from k since she msged me last night n i rang police. so im rly anxious bc idk what to do :(. i feel like i havent done enough.
@eylah you did everything in your power to help them. You've done all you could to support them, got them the professional help they needed, there's nothing more you could do for them. You should be proud of yourself for being so supportive and caring towards them, but it's important to take the time to look after yourself now. The best thing to do is accept that it's in the hands of authorities now to give her that professional help, and take care of yourself now, and give that same kindness you gave to your friend, to yourself.
i don’t even know if k is alive.. that’s the issue i have.. but hoping ambulance n police have helped her.
just heard from police. they went round hers. she’s ok.
@eylah that sounds like such an emotionally crushing thing. But emergency services will be there for her, they will have helped her and they will have made sure she got the support she needs and is safe. Multiple calls within days is not something they'll ignore or not provide support for. I don't have a huge amount of faith in services personally, but it's even if there self interest to make sure she got support, because if they ignored it and something happened, then they'd be the ones under investigation. So she'll have gotten support and will be safe.
@eylah that's wonderful news. You've been an amazing friend to them throughout this whole thing and you should be incredibly proud of yourself.
Sorry I didn't reply sooner @eylah I'm glad that person is ok, she's lucky to have an incredible friend like you, you're amazing. I hope you're feeling more relaxed now you know she's ok
im a shit friend. i feel it. bc she’s not answering me :(.
@eylah you are absolutely not a shit friend. You got them help urgently when they needed it, was there for them that entire time, and are still there for them if they wanted to reach out. You are a bloody amazing friend.
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Heck, just from my personal experience being friends with you, you've stuck up for me against a pair of bullies, and you've supported me through such hardship and have been a ray of light across the entire community.
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You are not a shit friend. Far from it. Your the most awesome friend ever.
ill always have your back. always will <3
I hope the same goes for me
You aren't a shit friend, everyone needs a friend like you