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distracting isn’t enough especially when you’ve been called names like abusive manipulation controlling possessive vile
I’m tired of explaining my story
@LolaPumpkin13 I know how explaining your story can be so difficult and exhausting, you are strong for being here and part of our community. We have a support chat on tonight at 8pm which might be useful to get some support from some of our moderators. There is also the PeerChat service which is a one-to-one support chat to help you see what next steps there might be for you. You can also chat on our venting thread to see how other's might help you out (there is also the triggering edition if you need). We're all here for you.
hey I’m sorry I have seen this I’m just not in best headspace I just want to be me again
I’ve had enough
@LolaPumpkin13 , how are you doing today? It sounds like yesterday was really exhausting, and you'd had enough. I really hear how badly you want to feel like 'you' again. When was the last time you felt that way?
when I was with my ex and I just don’t really know what to do anymore
I’m just stuck
Tbh I don’t really remember what has happened and I’ve tried talking to every mh service I can think of
I’ve had thoughts that he hit me but I know he never did but im just really scared
I don’t think I can do this anymore
Hi @LolaPumpkin13 I can see that these thoughts are quite frightening. It takes strength to manage them and share them with us. Can I ask what you've tried to help manage these thoughts and if there's anything you are willing to try today?
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There is also a support chat on today at 8-9:30pm (click here to go to ChatWee). Do you think perhaps sharing your intrusive thoughts with others/looking for some support from your peers is something you're willing to try today? You deserve support.
I’ve tried take your mind back but it does take a while for them to get back as I know they’re talking to others but I don’t want to talk about it anymore
I have friends but no one comes out to see me or message me unless I message first
@LolaPumpkin13 how was the mind chat?
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It's completely understandable if you don't want to talk about it for now, talking can feel quite draining and exhausting. I'm wondering, what plans do you have this evening to help keep yourself safe? It doesn't have to be any big plans, it could just be dinner and TV, or a hobby like art / Youtube / reading? Or if there's anything else you'd be willing to try to help yourself tonight?
I don’t understand why I have to use things to distract myself when I need help
@LolaPumpkin13 It's often a good idea to have some ways to distract yourself for when things get too tough, such as when you start to get those thoughts about your ex hitting you. When these become so overwhelming, distraction techniques can help to relax and ground yourself through that, while also keeping you safe. What do those look like for you?
but how did that help anyone when I can’t remember anything
no one has helped and I’m sick of it
I’m literally suicidal most of the time
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 not being able to remeber stressfull moments in life makes sense, sometimes when somethings feels traumatic, we tend to forget those moments as a way of coping, would you say you relate to this?
We're really sorry to hear that you are going through suicidal thoughts, you are not alone. Would you say you feel safe right now?
I have to be
no one has helped and I’m done all I want is to be able to move on and prove him wrong
@LolaPumpkin13 when you say prove him wrong, what does this mean to you? I'm hearing that your ex has possibly made you feel like you are a certain type of person that you don't agree with, is this correct?
with the thoughts that I had with him
@LolaPumpkin13 from what you've shared with us before, I understand how you could want to prove him wrong that those feelings arn't true, could you go into a little more detail on what that looks like for you?
I honestly don’t know I’m stuck don’t know who I am anymore
no one has helped me one bit
I know that's frustrating @LolaPumpkin13 but we're here for you through this! It sounds like these thoughts have you questioning how well you know yourself now, which must be so distressing.
it is but I’m just done