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Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I understand how distracting yourself can feel draining, I wonder what distractions you have used so far?
hairdressing colouring in TikTok
animal crossing but I’m done I can’t take much more of it anymore
They all sound like great ways @LolaPumpkin13 you've done so well to come this far, a year is a long time, can I ask how it's going with your counselling?
it is going ok I have a really nice counsellor but it is just draining explaining myself
maybe I will never move on
this is so painful getting up and thinking the same things over and over again
I really don’t want to carry on without him but I have too
this is the loneliest I’ve ever felt
I know I will never see him again but I just want some help
I don’t want to carry on anymore
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 it's good that you have a nice counsellor but must be exhausting explaining yourself a lot when you feel lonely and upset after the breakup. When you say you don't want to carry on anymore, are you feeling safe at the moment? We're here for you.
I’m safe but I don’t know how much more I can take
I really have no idea what to do
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 thank you for confirming you are safe, I can see how much you are really struggling, feeling lonely is a horrible feeling and feeling like you are stuck in this, is scary, but we're here for you. From what you've shared with us before, my understanding is that there isn't anyone close to you that you can reach out to, would you say that is right?
definitely I have my best friend but she doesn’t live in the same city as me anymore
@LolaPumpkin13 it's a shame that your bestfriend dosn't live closer, do you manage to stay in regular contact with them?
we message all the time it is just so hard
i just want to be me again but I don’t even know who that is anymore
I want to move on but I don’t want to be on this dating my friends are helping me I don’t know
like I don’t understand why I’ve to keep asking for help it is draining
I just want to be happy again
@LolaPumpkin13 feeling like you have lost yourself after a traumatic experience is understandable, I'm curious, what do you feel you have lost since the breakup?(other than your partner).
hey.
regarding the website/helpline i sent. if you can’t get through after a while there is a choice to book an appt 1-2-1 with them. how would you feel trying that out?
unfortunately like other helplines for example shout samaritans etc. It can take a long time to get through but. it is worth the wait. pls keep trying.
I don’t think I want too I’m not getting the answers I want
it is just frustrating and I’m drained
and I’m tired and I don’t want to be here anymore
pls reach out to 111 option 2 if you’re needing urgent mh support rn. as a online anonymous community we can’t support ppl in mh crisis. pls reach out to 111 option 2 or shout bc they can give you the mh support you deserve n need rn <3.
that’s the thing I’ve have spoken to mental health team option 2 when I was with my ex and they did nothing which is why I’m on my own
it is just draining