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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 09.02.26
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Im here just spending Valentine’s evening alone ughhh
I didn't take the day as slow as I originally was going to.
I decided to go and get some air, I obviously had to take my son, I just had him in his pushchair and his oxygen tank underneath his seat just incase we needed it. I went to a place me and my fiancé used to go to and sit, chill, and sometimes have picnic dates. I just sat there with my son for a while, then I decided to treat myself, and now I feel so guilty about it.
I did also treat my son to a few new toys.
I dont want to go to work tomorrow
@Animalloverb getting some air sounds like a great idea, and you do deserve to treat yourself (and your son!). Can I ask what you think is making you feel guilty about it?
@Redemption how is/was work today for you?
It's snowing.
@Sabah
I feel guilty everytime I treat myself. I treat my son a lot and I never feel guilty about it but when I treat myself to something I just feel extreme guilt.
I am trying to save up for other things at the moment, I am looking at moving house at some point. I just feel like I shouldn't treat myself, even though I have been through so much, didn't have a childhood or anything I am just not used to using money for nice things.
It was ok thanks @Sabah , im off tomorrow which is good, thats like a bit of a pick me up, I hope work is good for you too
@Animalloverb it makes sense that treating yourself now would make you feel odd or guilty, especially when you have grown up not used to having that little bit extra to buy something nice. But it sounds like you are quite responsible with your money - saving up for things - and so you do absolutely deserve to treat yourself every so often. I do understand though that it musn't be easy trying to let go those feelings of guilt, even when you know logically that you do deserve it.
I know, but it's just a long while ago, I was doing my best, trying to get money just survive, only being able to afford basic things like food and water, even that was really expensive I could barely afford it.
So treating myself feels odd, I am not used to having nice things. I am not used to being able to afford more then just food and water. I feel perfectly okay about treating my son, and the people who age out my free service but I don't feel okay treating myself.
It's strange bit I feel it may be because of my past and things.
Singles Awareness Day is today and I feel a little better about being single because of it.
I didnt know that existed
I only just learned about it today and I think it should replace Valentine's Day.
Hey SVT, yes i didn't realise either! Thank you for informing us of it!
Same , I only just learnt as you told me so thanks for telling me.