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@LolaPumpkin13 This has caused you a lot of pain, it's completely understandable that you would be frustrated and angry. Are you willing to get in touch with someone (Shout / Papyrus / Samaritans) to help keep yourself safe tonight? Or to find something to help keep you safe?
nope because they don’t help I’m done
I just wanted to understand the thoughts that’s all I wanted to know so I can move on
but know one can tell me anything I’m done
when I just want to be happy again
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I'm hearing how difficult this situation is for you, not understanding and not getting the answers you need. Do you think you are struggling most to understand why you felt that way in your realtionship or is the issue more not being able to put your feelings into words?
a bit of both really
I jus give up tbh I really I’ve conastly reached out to loads of different services and nothing
Thanks for sharing that @LolaPumpkin13 would you say these thoughts are out of your control? I'm wondering if they are thoughts that you feel are struggling to know where they came from or if they are triggered by anything?
i honestly dont know they just say with me all the timw
just tired of this
I hear you @LolaPumpkin13 these thoughts never seem to leave which is making it harder for you to move on, if you feel comfortable sharing, would say they are worse when you have had interactions with others that may be triggering?
when I’m alone when I’m at work just everyday
The only way to get out of this is to take my life
@LolaPumpkin13 It makes sense you are experiencing the thoughts everyday, when alone and when at work, it must be so exhausting. When you mention taking your life, are you feeling safe right now? I'll check in directly via DM too, you're not alone in this.
I honestly don’t want to keep waking up like this anymore I’m done just don’t enjoy life anymore and I haven’t for a while
I just don’t know what to do anymore
I’m just having hard time understanding thisb
I don’t know what ti do anymore
Hey @LolaPumpkin13, this sounds so difficult for you. It seems you're having a difficult time understanding your thoughts. What's your current understanding of them?
that they’re just intrusive thoughts
I just feel sick all the time
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 would you say this sick feeling is brought on from your emotions or is it more physical? I imagine this must be debilitating. We're here to listen.
probably because of all the thoughts
@LolaPumpkin13 it makes sense that your struggles with emotions could be affecting your physical health, I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, I'm sure it's hard to know what to do when it feels like your mind and body are agaisnt you. I had a search and found some breathing exercises that could be beneficial. Sometimes it's hard to look after your body and mind together, but this could be helpful.
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/guides-tools-and-activities/breathing-exercises-for-stress/
thank you once I don’t think about it I’m fine but it is just hard and scary
That's completely understandable @LolaPumpkin13, it's normal to find it hard and scary when you're thinking about it more. I'm wondering whether you managed to try the breathing exercises that @Verity sent, and whether they were useful for helping you reduce the thoughts?
I did see it no I haven’t done I have just been watching YouTube
Watching YouTube sounds like a good way to get some rest and to relax. How did watching YouTube make you feel I wonder? How are you feeling today?
We're all here to support you @LolaPumpkin13, you don't deserve to be going through this alone. Remember, when you feel alone or like everything is too much, everyone here on the boards wants the best for you. I'm sure some other members of the community will have experienced breakups before now, and might have some useful guidance for you. The vent/chat thread might be useful to get things off your chest, if everything is too much. We also have the support and general chats if you need to talk about it all a little more. You can find more about them in our weekly schedule here. You're not alone in this Lola, we're all here for you!
this is my life and it affects my day to day life and I can not cope anymore