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  • SabahSabah Community Manager Posts: 38 Boards Initiate

    @LolaPumpkin13 This has caused you a lot of pain, it's completely understandable that you would be frustrated and angry. Are you willing to get in touch with someone (Shout / Papyrus / Samaritans) to help keep yourself safe tonight? Or to find something to help keep you safe?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    nope because they don’t help I’m done

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I just wanted to understand the thoughts that’s all I wanted to know so I can move on

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    but know one can tell me anything I’m done

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    when I just want to be happy again

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 281 The Mix Regular

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I'm hearing how difficult this situation is for you, not understanding and not getting the answers you need. Do you think you are struggling most to understand why you felt that way in your realtionship or is the issue more not being able to put your feelings into words?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    a bit of both really

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I jus give up tbh I really I’ve conastly reached out to loads of different services and nothing

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 281 The Mix Regular

    Thanks for sharing that @LolaPumpkin13 would you say these thoughts are out of your control? I'm wondering if they are thoughts that you feel are struggling to know where they came from or if they are triggered by anything?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    i honestly dont know they just say with me all the timw

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    just tired of this

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 281 The Mix Regular

    I hear you @LolaPumpkin13 these thoughts never seem to leave which is making it harder for you to move on, if you feel comfortable sharing, would say they are worse when you have had interactions with others that may be triggering?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    when I’m alone when I’m at work just everyday

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    The only way to get out of this is to take my life

  • CallumCallum Community Manager Posts: 129 The Mix Convert

    @LolaPumpkin13 It makes sense you are experiencing the thoughts everyday, when alone and when at work, it must be so exhausting. When you mention taking your life, are you feeling safe right now? I'll check in directly via DM too, you're not alone in this.

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I honestly don’t want to keep waking up like this anymore I’m done just don’t enjoy life anymore and I haven’t for a while

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I just don’t know what to do anymore

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I’m just having hard time understanding thisb

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I don’t know what ti do anymore

  • CallumCallum Community Manager Posts: 129 The Mix Convert

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13, this sounds so difficult for you. It seems you're having a difficult time understanding your thoughts. What's your current understanding of them?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    that they’re just intrusive thoughts

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I just feel sick all the time

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 281 The Mix Regular

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 would you say this sick feeling is brought on from your emotions or is it more physical? I imagine this must be debilitating. We're here to listen.

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    probably because of all the thoughts

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 281 The Mix Regular

    @LolaPumpkin13 it makes sense that your struggles with emotions could be affecting your physical health, I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, I'm sure it's hard to know what to do when it feels like your mind and body are agaisnt you. I had a search and found some breathing exercises that could be beneficial. Sometimes it's hard to look after your body and mind together, but this could be helpful.

    https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/guides-tools-and-activities/breathing-exercises-for-stress/

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    thank you once I don’t think about it I’m fine but it is just hard and scary

  • CallumCallum Community Manager Posts: 129 The Mix Convert

    That's completely understandable @LolaPumpkin13, it's normal to find it hard and scary when you're thinking about it more. I'm wondering whether you managed to try the breathing exercises that @Verity sent, and whether they were useful for helping you reduce the thoughts?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 411 Listening Ear

    I did see it no I haven’t done I have just been watching YouTube

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