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I’m honestly disgusted that no one has helped
Hey Lola, it sounds like you are having a tough time. You may already have joined but just to let you know our Support Chat is currently running which you may be able to find support from other members of the Community from.
Take care
I don’t think so cause no one has listened
no one has helped me I’ve my ex boyfriend accusing me of stuff when I haven’t done anything and I’m trying to prove so he doesn’t think I split up with him to do that I’ve spoken to so many people and it is just distract yourself I’ve been doing that but I’m getting frustrated
when I’ve tried and tried and I’m tired
IM JUST GETTING REALLY ANGRY I JUST WANT SOME HELP TO GO BACK NTO ME AND NOTHING IM CONASTLY EXPLAINING MYSELF OVER AND OVER AGAIN IT IS SO TIRING IVE BEEN CALLED SO MANT THINGS AND I JUST WANT TO GET BETTER BECUAE AT THIS POINT IM JUST GOING TO END IT SO IM OUT OF PAIN
I can hear how frustrated you are @LolaPumpkin13, that's perfectly valid as it sounds like such a tricky situation with your ex boyfriend accusing you of things that aren't true. When you say you have spoken to Shout, Samaritans and Kelly's Heroes, I'm wondering if you've had any long-term support, such as therapy or counselling to help with this?
I’ve counselling with Kelly’s heroes but I don’t know how much more I can take
I hear you @LolaPumpkin13 would you say that using Kelly's Heros is difficult because of what you are speaking about or more because it is not helpful?
I honestly don’t find anything helpful I’m in the exact same place as I was when I split with my ex suicidal depressed I just don’t know why no one is understanding
When I was with my ex I had thoughts about being on dating apps Bering in mind I just don’t speak to anyone online I have have people I went to school with friend and family in my socials so I’m not doing it I’ve been on them and I deleted because of weirdos on them. So I give up lots of things happened and it feels I haven’t been listened too
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 thanks for opening up, it's really helpful to hear how your feeling the things you are struggling with.
You mentioned being on dating apps whilst you were with your ex, do you think you were looking for a connection during this time or just intrigued to know what was on there? We're here to listen and not judge you, you havn't done anything wrong.
no I wasn’t on dating apps until after we and my ex split but I was never like that and I tried so hadrd to ignore to the thoughts so I could get better but I was struggling to be on my own
I had thoughts got worried but didn’t act on them until after we spilt
That makes complete sense @LolaPumpkin13 wanting to find a connection whilst you have just gone through a break up is completely normal. If you feel comfortable sharing more on these 'thoughts' that you were worried about, we're here to listen, what do you think brought them on?
I don’t know that is what im trying to figure out
I’ve just given up if I knew I wouldn’t be in this position
Even when I was with my ex I tried the doctors and they told me to go to talking therapists and they said it is not anxiety or depression so they couldn’t help me but told me to go heart to heart counselling which I did but I couldn’t take it anymore
I’m done I can’t take it anymore
are you safe? pls call 111 option 2 for crisis support or call 999 in case of an emergency.
I actually give up
I just want to know what is actually means that’s all
So I can move on
Hey @LolaPumpkin13 it seems like these thoughts of being on dating apps is causing you the most pain right now, would you agree?
nope all of it which no one has helped and I’m done
I’m frustrated all the time I just want to know what all of it means
so I can move on I’m tired
When I’ve tried and tried even spoken to everyone I can think off
I can’t even speak to shout cause I’ve spoken to them so many times
and they won’t speak to me until 48 hours