Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 29.12.25

Redemption · January 3

Im getting these , I can't do this with work tomorrow again, Samaritans don't seem to have their chat open today too.

Redemption · January 3

I really really appreciate the love, encouragement and support I've been getting, thank you so much, it does give me a push, a bit of motivation to get up and keep going. The support I've had with everything has been amazing, the hugs, long replies, replies at all, I deeply appreciate it, means so much , thank you ❤️. I couldnt have done it without y'all

Lottie5433 · January 4

I can’t sleep, usually I’m really tired but I can’t fall asleep
Idk if it’s coz I’m overwhelmed with a lot of things

Ech0 · January 4

@eylah

jet skis and paragliding!! it’s all booked etc picked our plane seats too!

That sounds like a wonderful trip to look forward to. Jet skiing and paragliding seem like such fun and memorable experiences and it’s nice that you have everything planned and booked. I really hope you enjoy it.

just had a call from my sister saying that my dad is unwell in hospital. it’s brought up so many emotions for me bc of course my mum etc. but also bc of of the past history of stuff from my dad .

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That is such a heavy piece of news to hear and it makes complete sense that it’s bringing up so many emotions for you. It’s completely okay if you don’t have everything figured out right now, or if you’re unsure how you’re feeling. There’s no pressure to have the answers. You’ve already shown so much courage and resilience in getting through so much before, and you don’t have to carry any of this on your own. I truly hope she gets better soon. We are here to support you in whatever way feels best right now.

Ech0 · January 4

@Nemuritai What you’re feeling makes complete sense and you’re not silly at all for needing rest or feeling overwhelmed. It’s okay that even small things, like going out for a coffee or walking down the main street, feel like a lot right now. You’re doing your best in a really hard moment, and that is more than enough.

We are proud of you for noticing what helps you, like those small, quiet walks. Taking care of yourself in ways that feel gentle and manageable is so important and it shows just how strong and caring you are toward yourself. Progress isn’t always about doing more , sometimes the bravest thing we can do is to honour the rest our mind and body need.

I know it can feel hard not to tie your self-worth to productivity, but the truth is that your value isn’t measured by how much you do, or how often you go out. You make a difference just by being you and you matter more than you know.

I hope you can feel some comfort in knowing that you are supported and cared for and we are rooting for you. It’s okay to let yourself pause, to feel whatever you need to feel, and to take life slowly.

Ech0 · January 4

@Redemption It is nice to hear you feel supported because you truly deserve it and this goes for everyone here. You’re not alone in this and it’s lovely to know that this community has helped you. It is great that you keep going even during difficult times.

Ech0 · January 4

@Lottie5433 I’m so sorry you’re having such a restless night. I can imagine how frustrating it must feel when your body is tired but your mind just won’t let you rest. It makes complete sense that when there’s a lot weighing on you, falling asleep can be really difficult.

Sometimes small things can help a little: taking a few slow, deep breaths, writing down what’s on your mind so it’s out of your head, or listening to soft music or ambient sounds. Even stretching or drinking a warm, non-caffeinated drink can help signal your body it’s time to relax.

It’s okay if sleep doesn’t come immediately. It can also help to remind yourself that rest doesn’t have to mean perfect sleep. Lying quietly, breathing slowly, and letting your body recharge in any way is still taking care of yourself. Even small steps toward rest, are meaningful. You’re doing your best in a difficult moment, and that is more than enough.

I hope that soon your body and mind can start to feel lighter and more settled, and that sleep can come naturally when your body is ready. We are here to listen if you need to discuss, whether you want to share what’s on your mind or just have someone there with you. I truly hope you’re able to find even a little bit of peace and calm tonight.

Redemption · January 4

@Ech0 I hope you're ok too, I can see you posted at 2am so I hope you're getting some sleep too

Redemption · January 4

This is a bit demotivating too but a bit easier too as it's 9am start so can get up 7 30 am but still on a weekend too and I feel like Im weak like I can't handle 2 and a half hour shifts and find it hard. Its not that I can't handle them, its just hard to get motivated for but people do this as a 2nd job and I feel everyone else would find it piss easy. I've got a day off tomorrow so thats a bit motivating.

Lottie5433 · January 4

Ech0 wrote: »

@Lottie5433 I’m so sorry you’re having such a restless night. I can imagine how frustrating it must feel when your body is tired but your mind just won’t let you rest. It makes complete sense that when there’s a lot weighing on you, falling asleep can be really difficult.

Sometimes small things can help a little: taking a few slow, deep breaths, writing down what’s on your mind so it’s out of your head, or listening to soft music or ambient sounds. Even stretching or drinking a warm, non-caffeinated drink can help signal your body it’s time to relax.

It’s okay if sleep doesn’t come immediately. It can also help to remind yourself that rest doesn’t have to mean perfect sleep. Lying quietly, breathing slowly, and letting your body recharge in any way is still taking care of yourself. Even small steps toward rest, are meaningful. You’re doing your best in a difficult moment, and that is more than enough.

I hope that soon your body and mind can start to feel lighter and more settled, and that sleep can come naturally when your body is ready. We are here to listen if you need to discuss, whether you want to share what’s on your mind or just have someone there with you. I truly hope you’re able to find even a little bit of peace and calm tonight.

Thank you for that @echo I eventually managed to get to sleep but I woke up early so now I feel extremely tired.
I just couldn’t sleep because I’m getting overwhelmed with various things like with work him moving across departments and changing things in my own department . Then there is the worry about my mh appointment in a couple days, wondering if I ask them about an asd assessment or just leave it. Then the fact that my partner has moved everything into our place and I’m just overwhelmed because I don’t think a lot of my craft stuff will fit in the game room as he wants to get something else for the game room. So I’m kinda overwhelmed with all this

But anyway thank you for your message

Nemuritai · January 4

@Redemption and @Ech0 thank you both so so much for the support, it means a lot and I really appreciate both of you guys

Redemption · January 4

Nemuritai wrote: »

@Redemption and thank you both so so much for the support, it means a lot and I really appreciate both of you guys

No worries at all @Nemuritai , thank you, for your support too, we all help each other here ❤️

Nemuritai · January 4

This might sound like a silly thing to be worried about, but I've got work tomorrow morning and as I work outside, it can be quite hard when there's a lot of snow, which there is at the moment. My employer is very kind and understanding, but I'm really worried about making mistakes and not doing a good enough job. I guess that particularly due to my social anxiety, I tend to worry a lot about what other people think of me and I have a tendency to assume people are angry at me, both online and in real life, even though when I try to rationalise they likely aren't. I know it'll be fine, I'm just feeling quite nervous.

so_very_tired · January 4

@Nemuritai I'm sure you'll be fine tomorrow. I presume if you employer saw your making mistakes or not doing a good enough job, as you claim, they'll help you to make sure it won't happen again instead of getting angry at you.

eylah · January 4

im so upset.

Ech0 · January 4

@Nemuritai Of course Nemuritai and I’m glad to be there for you. I am truly grateful for your support too and the support of this community really means a lot.

This might sound like a silly thing to be worried about, but I've got work tomorrow morning and as I work outside, it can be quite hard when there's a lot of snow, which there is at the moment. My employer is very kind and understanding, but I'm really worried about making mistakes and not doing a good enough job. I guess that particularly due to my social anxiety, I tend to worry a lot about what other people think of me and I have a tendency to assume people are angry at me, both online and in real life, even though when I try to rationalise they likely aren't. I know it'll be fine, I'm just feeling quite nervous.

That doesn’t sound silly at all. It makes a lot of sense to feel nervous about work when the conditions are harder than usual, especially when you care about doing a good job. Working outside in the snow is very challenging and the fact that you’re thinking about how to do well speaks volumes about your dedication and commitment.

It’s also really understandable that social anxiety makes your mind jump to worrying about what others think. Our minds can be very convincing, especially when we’re feeling worried, and they can make us believe others are upset with us even when there’s no real proof. That can be really heavy to carry. What’s important to remember is that your employer has already shown kindness and understanding, and with the snowy conditions, delays are something everyone expects.

You don’t need to be perfect tomorrow. Simply showing up and giving what you can in such difficult conditions is more than enough. This feeling won’t last, and it’s very likely tomorrow will be better than your worries are making it seem right now. You’ve got this.

Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 29.12.25

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