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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 29.12.25
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@eylah Aw that is so sweet and the Eeyore blanket is lovely.
I’m really sorry to bother you again, and I hope this is okay to ask. I realised after my last message that I might’ve been mistaken, and I wished to ask whether Teddy might be a Pugzu instead.
I also just wanted to say I’m very sorry if asking about Teddy’s breed is at all rude or intrusive as I did not mean to cause upset and I completely understand if you’d would prefer to not answer so I truly apologise if I have overstepped here.
Aww that's adorable - I love the eeyore blanket too, that looks really cosy. I got a blanket for xmas as well (an Ado one of course hehe)
no no it’s fine! yeah he’s a shih tsu x pug!
ooh! nice
just checked with my bf! you are correct. he’s a pugzu!! sry! 😊
one last pic of teddy before i sleep!
I think a ‘Pugzu’ is just the short name for a Shih Tzu x Pug, so what you said before I believe was totally correct. I really appreciate you checking to make sure, it is very thoughtful of you.
Goodnight to you and Teddy and hope you and everyone has a restful sleep.
Morning , I hope you're ok
morning
I wonder, when a mistake like that happens with the tangled cord, what kind of options do you have to help you get through that moment or find a solution? E.g. I wonder if there's anyone at work who'd feel like a safe person to ask questions? Or a way to allow yourself a little breather, re-set, and try the activity again?
I really hear just how daunting it feels to think of making a mistake and the fear of getting sacked, and at the same time, oftentimes what is most powerful at work is the way we can respond after a mistake is made and to work towards finding a solution, rather than never making a mistake at all. What has it looked like lately to be taking care of yourself outside of your work-shifts? I hope you've been able to do something nice and calming for yourself on your journey's home maybe, especially as you're adjusting to the newness of this role and in this position of learning.
@Sian321 I can ask my manager or a colleague about the cables being tangled like they did, but he was confused how I got it like that and I felt dumb, like I’m broken, like I’m going to get sacked for doing it. I felt like I broke the thing, but it got sorted in the end so I got shown how to do it properly and now I know.
When they looked confused it was probably a combination of thoughts like, “I’m dumb, he’s going to sack me here, I can’t do anything right, I’m so broken,” and I worried a lot about what people were thinking.
After it got sorted, I still felt done, but felt a bit reassured as I was able to move on to the next task and got shown how to do it properly so I know now.
They just asked after how long I had left and I said, so they told me my next tasks; they didn’t really say anything about my abilities, etc. Even without anyone saying it, I did follow the tasks after that, thought about what needed doing, and did it I just was overthinking after.
Outside of work, I’ve been trying not to let overthinking or catastrophic thinking take over, trying to keep venting here and using other services, etc. I think I notice the overthinking is quite intense, but I also question, “Is it a dumb mistake? Should I be worried I’m doing this sort of thing? Thank you anyway Sian
No worries at all about venting @Redemption, this is what the thread is for after all. It's okay to complain - no-one says your life has to be perfect now you have this job, and we'll listen to you no matter what
I just wanted to remind you, because I know you said before you were worried about making mistakes, that it's very normal to feel worried about that, especially since the job is still do new. I can relate honestly, I was also very worried about that when I started my job a year or so ago, convinced that if I made any mistakes my employer would be unhappy with me.
I also struggle with overthinking and worrying a lot due, to my social anxiety, and when that happens it's useful to remind yourself that we are our own worst critics (it sounds cheesy but it's true) and most of the time other people end up being a lot nicer about things like making mistakes than you thought they'd be.
This was a bit of a ramble, and I don't want to sound like I'm dismissing anything you've said or are feeling, because it's all completely valid. I'm really proud of you keeping on going despite things being difficult, and we're all here for you always
Learning a new role can be frightening, especially when you’ve already been through uncertainty and you’re relying on this job as a stepping stone. When something goes wrong, even something small, it can suddenly feel huge , like everything is at risk. Making a mistake like that doesn’t say anything about your intelligence or your worth. You didn’t break anything, and you didn’t get into trouble—- you learned something new, got shown how to do it properly, and carried on which is an example of learning and growing. Everyone makes mistakes when they’re new, even if it doesn’t always look that way from the outside. The difference is that you care deeply and are trying your best, and that effort can’t be taught and matters more than getting everything correct on the first go.
I can see how hard that moment felt for you, and I’m so sorry you had to sit with such scary, heavy thoughts of ‘this is it’ or ‘I’m going to be sacked.’ It makes perfect sense that your mind went straight there. When something feels high-stakes, your brain can spiral and that feeling of dread can be exhausting. And as @Nemuritai said: though those thoughts felt overwhelming, they weren’t facts. They were trying to protect you by imagining the worst possible outcome. And the reality is so different. No one criticised you, no one doubted your abilities, and you were trusted to keep going with your tasks. Your thoughts might be loud and harsh, but they do not define you, and they do not reflect your true abilities. One moment or one mistake does not erase all the effort, care and skill you are bringing to your work.
Please remember that you are not alone, and even on the days it feels impossible, you are doing far better than your fears are letting you see.
You’re building confidence slowly, step by step, and that takes time. The fact that you’re noticing the overthinking, talking about it, and reaching out for support shows your self-awareness and strength, which is something to be proud of. Even on the days you feel “done,” you’re still moving forward and persevering.
You are far more capable than you give yourself credit for, and you are absolutely allowed to take this one day at a time.
I’ve heard the weather is usually warm and nice around September/October and it might be less crowded than in the peak summer months. I hope it is a relaxing, memorable and enjoyable trip for you both. Do you happen to know what kind of activities you are thinking of doing?
jet skis and paragliding!! it’s all booked etc picked our plane seats too!
@Ech0 woah thats so long and insightful thank you so much for this, I really appreciate you taking the time to write it. It genuinely means a lot and made me feel understood and less alone. I’ll try to hold onto what you said and take things one step at a time.
@Nemuritai hugs, if you're comfy with them, I hear how you're feeling and you aren't a failure for not wanting to go out for a coffee, I think I relate, when we have been down or low, we don't want to do stuff, its tough. You aren't a failure for not wanting to do this stuff. I hope you feel better soon
Thank you so much @Nemuritai , it seems our feelings are quite common, people think these jobs are ok