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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 17.11.25

LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 525 Incredible Poster
edited November 24 in Health & Wellbeing
This is a space to chat or vent about whatever might be on your mind right now, nothing is too big or small!

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  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    hello hope everyone is having a nice day
  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    edited November 17
    @Nemuritai I’m really sorry I didn’t get to reply to your messages on the previous thread earlier. You didn’t deserve to go through any of that alone.
    It makes so much sense that it still hurts. When people act like nothing happened, it can make you feel invisible in your own story. That’s such a heavy thing to carry, and I’m really sorry you’ve had to. I wish you’d had someone back then who could give you the support you deserved and still deserve.

    The way you talk about wanting to work with kids and give them the love you didn’t get is touching and says so much about who you are and about your strength and kindness. Even if it doesn’t feel like healing yet, I think it’s already part of it.

    I know that feeling of wishing you could go back and comfort your younger self. I think a lot of us carry that ache. But maybe, in some way, every time you show kindness to yourself now or imagine a better future, you’re doing just that.
    You’re not alone here. You’re allowed to feel everything you’re feeling. You’re allowed to take up space. And you’re allowed to hope, even if it’s fragile. We are here for you.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    edited November 17
    Ech0 wrote: »
    @Nemuritai I’m really sorry I didn’t get to reply to your messages on the previous thread earlier. You didn’t deserve to go through any of that alone.
    It makes so much sense that it still hurts. When people act like nothing happened, it can make you feel invisible in your own story. That’s such a heavy thing to carry, and I’m really sorry you’ve had to. I wish you’d had someone back then who could give you the support you deserved and still deserve.

    The way you talk about wanting to work with kids and give them the love you didn’t get is touching and says so much about who you are and about your strength and kindness. Even if it doesn’t feel like healing yet, I think it’s already part of it.

    I know that feeling of wishing you could go back and comfort your younger self. I think a lot of us carry that ache. But maybe, in some way, every time you show kindness to yourself now or imagine a better future, you’re doing just that.
    You’re not alone here. You’re allowed to feel everything you’re feeling. You’re allowed to take up space. And you’re allowed to hope, even if it’s fragile. We are here for you.

    Thank you very much @Ech0 for the kind words, it really does mean a lot. I really appreciate the support you give to all of us, and I think others here will agree with that. It honestly made me kind of teary reading this. Thank you so much, and I hope you have a good day as well :heart:
  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    Anytime and I am really glad to hear that.
    thank you very much
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    gd morning everyone! :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    gd morning everyone! :)

    Good morning @eylah, lovely to see you as usual <3 hru?
  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    edited November 17
    hello nice to see you all
    how are you?
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    Ech0 wrote: »
    hello nice to see you all
    how are you?

    Hii @Ech0 - I'm doing alright, just tired heheh. How are you?
  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    edited November 17
    I am okay thank you
    hope you manage to get some good rest
  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    @Nathan I am very sorry I realised I also missed your message in the previous chat.
    I’m really sorry you had to go through all of that. It’s heartbreaking to hear how much you missed out on growing up, and how deeply those losses still linger. That ache doesn’t go away easily, and it’s not something you should ever have to carry alone. I agree with what you said and it really stands out how thoughtful and empathetic you are which goes for everyone here in this supportive lovely community.
    You deserve to be met with kindness, patience, and understanding every step of the way and you have us in your corner.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    im back with my ex bf now. ive decided to give him one last chance. but i just feel like im stupid :/.

    i have a rly heavy heart tonight again. colder months rly impact me. needing someone to talk to. :(
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    gd morning everyone! :)

    Good morning @eylah, lovely to see you as usual <3 hru?

    so gd to see you <3 hru?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    gd morning everyone! :)

    Good morning @eylah, lovely to see you as usual <3 hru?

    so gd to see you <3 hru?

    Hey there <3 I'm kind of struggling to be honest, but dw about me <3

    And about your previous post, I'm here if you want to talk about anything at all. I know things have been hard recently and if you'd like someone to listen, you've always got me <3
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    I don't really know how to say this since talking about feelings is really hard sometimes, but everything just feels so heavy and painful right now, and I just don't want to feel or think anymore. I'm safe, but I'm finding everything really hard right now and I don't really have anyone else to turn to, which is why I'm saying this here.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    I don't really know how to say this since talking about feelings is really hard sometimes, but everything just feels so heavy and painful right now, and I just don't want to feel or think anymore. I'm safe, but I'm finding everything really hard right now and I don't really have anyone else to turn to, which is why I'm saying this here.

    sending you my love and 🫂. im here if you need to talk or anything <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    I don't really know how to say this since talking about feelings is really hard sometimes, but everything just feels so heavy and painful right now, and I just don't want to feel or think anymore. I'm safe, but I'm finding everything really hard right now and I don't really have anyone else to turn to, which is why I'm saying this here.

    sending you my love and 🫂. im here if you need to talk or anything <3

    Thank you so much @eylah <3 Sending hugs as well <3
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 6,068 Master Poster
    I cant sleep
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,674 Boards Guru
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    gd morning :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    gd morning :)

    Good morning @eylah <3
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    gd morning :)

    Good morning @eylah <3
    morning hru? <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 6,068 Master Poster
    Nathan wrote: »

    I hope you managed to get some sleep bro @Nathan
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    gd morning :)

    Good morning @eylah <3
    morning hru? <3

    Not too bad, thanks, just feeling a little low <3 How are you doing? <3
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    So frazzled at the moment. If that’s the right word. There’s stuff everywhere, a list of a million things to do that I have plenty of time for, but i feel like i have no time at all. Maybe it’s energy instead. There’s stuff everywhere, well my definition of everywhere which probably isn’t everyone elses but it’s everywhere to me. I don’t remember the last time I did any form of serious self care.. realising I actually don’t know how, because i resort to scrolling on my phone instead. It’s currently 12.11pm as I’m writing this and i’m still fucking about on my phone and not ready for the day at all. As this post might show you, given that I’ve just read it back and I’ve written the same thing twice, my memory is awful. Absolutely awful. Is this the trade off for not living in a state of constant anxiety or not actually feeling depressed? Because i don’t know what’s worse.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,254 Boards Champion
    Hope everyone has had a good tuesday today - and if not then at least the day is nearly over and we can go again tomorrow.

    sending hugs to whoever ends up reading this <3
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    sinead276 wrote: »
    Hope everyone has had a good tuesday today - and if not then at least the day is nearly over and we can go again tomorrow.

    sending hugs to whoever ends up reading this <3

    Thank you @sinead276, that's really kind. I hope you had a good day today as well <3
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,199 An Original Mixlorian
    im buying a christmas tree tmr! just a cheap one :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    im buying a christmas tree tmr! just a cheap one :)

    Yay, that sounds awesome! I can't wait until my family gets our christmas tree but I think we're getting it next month <3
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 556 Incredible Poster
    edited November 18
    So frazzled at the moment. If that’s the right word. There’s stuff everywhere, a list of a million things to do that I have plenty of time for, but i feel like i have no time at all. Maybe it’s energy instead. There’s stuff everywhere, well my definition of everywhere which probably isn’t everyone elses but it’s everywhere to me. I don’t remember the last time I did any form of serious self care.. realising I actually don’t know how, because i resort to scrolling on my phone instead. It’s currently 12.11pm as I’m writing this and i’m still fucking about on my phone and not ready for the day at all. As this post might show you, given that I’ve just read it back and I’ve written the same thing twice, my memory is awful. Absolutely awful. Is this the trade off for not living in a state of constant anxiety or not actually feeling depressed? Because i don’t know what’s worse.

    Hi there @independent_ . I just wanted to say, I can relate to what you're saying in some ways. It sounds stressful and maybe quite exhausting to be feeling that way.

    Sometimes when you're low on energy or have a lot on your mind, it can feel like there isn't enough time in the day to get everything done, or like there's too much to do. I've definitely felt that way in the past. It's understandable and valid to feel that way, although it can be difficult to deal with.

    Self care can definitely be hard sometimes, especially if you haven't practiced in a while, and that's okay. Sometimes self care can simply be taking a few minutes to stop and breathe, or taking a moment to notice how you feel. I find making warm drinks to be quite relaxing as well, but of course everyone is different. I guess what I'm trying to say is, self care doesn't have to be anything big or fancy, and anything that feels nourishing or uplifting works well.

    I hope this helps even slightly, and I hope you have a good rest of your day/night :heart:

  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 67 Boards Initiate
    edited November 18
    @independent_ I’m really sorry things feel so heavy for you right now. It sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot, and that kind of exhaustion is so hard to sit with on your own and shows how much you’ve been pushing through. That kind of mental fatigue is real, and I understand how much of a toll it can take.
    Please know you’re not alone in this. We’re here for you in this community: to listen, to sit with you, and to give you space to breathe. You don’t have to have everything figured out. If you ever need to talk more, vent, or just have someone hear you without judgment, we’re here. You don’t have to go through this on your own.
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