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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 10.11.25

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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 6,121 Master Poster
    Im so proud of you all, it might not mean much coming from me but y'all so strong, brave and amazing. For everyone struggling, it does get better ❤️
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    Redemption wrote: »
    Im so proud of you all, it might not mean much coming from me but y'all so strong, brave and amazing. For everyone struggling, it does get better ❤️

    @Redemption thank you so much, that's really kind of you to say. The same goes for you as well <3
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 6,121 Master Poster
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Im so proud of you all, it might not mean much coming from me but y'all so strong, brave and amazing. For everyone struggling, it does get better ❤️

    @Redemption thank you so much, that's really kind of you to say. The same goes for you as well <3

    No worries, I really mean and thank you to you too I hope you're ok today @Nemuritai
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    hey <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    hey <3

    Hey there @eylah <3 How are you today?
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    hey <3

    Hey there @eylah <3 How are you today?

    i’m tired. can’t wait for bedtime aha <3 hru?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    hey <3

    Hey there @eylah <3 How are you today?

    i’m tired. can’t wait for bedtime aha <3 hru?

    Aw same here, honestly <3 I got a fair bit of japanese practice done today so I'm very sleepy now lol <3
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    hey <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    hey <3

    Hey @eylah, it's great to see you <3 How are you this evening?
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 306 The Mix Regular
    I feel really lonely. Like everyone just leaves the second i get attached theyre gone.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    hey <3

    Hey @eylah, it's great to see you <3 How are you this evening?

    hey lovely! im not so gd. hru? <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    hey <3

    Hey @eylah, it's great to see you <3 How are you this evening?

    hey lovely! im not so gd. hru? <3

    Honestly I'm not the best either, I've just been remembering some painful things recently. I'm holding up okay though <3
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    To everybody here, if you ever want to talk, i'm here for you. Even if you just want to chit chat about light topics to get your mind off things, like passions and hobbies, or if you want to talk about serious heavy stuff you want to get off your chest. You don't have to be alone.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    Nathan wrote: »
    To everybody here, if you ever want to talk, i'm here for you. Even if you just want to chit chat about light topics to get your mind off things, like passions and hobbies, or if you want to talk about serious heavy stuff you want to get off your chest. You don't have to be alone.

    Hey @Nathan - I really appreciate that, it means a lot. Are you free to talk for a bit?
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    To everybody here, if you ever want to talk, i'm here for you. Even if you just want to chit chat about light topics to get your mind off things, like passions and hobbies, or if you want to talk about serious heavy stuff you want to get off your chest. You don't have to be alone.

    Hey @Nathan - I really appreciate that, it means a lot. Are you free to talk for a bit?

    @Nemuritai I am. How are you?
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    Nathan wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    To everybody here, if you ever want to talk, i'm here for you. Even if you just want to chit chat about light topics to get your mind off things, like passions and hobbies, or if you want to talk about serious heavy stuff you want to get off your chest. You don't have to be alone.

    Hey @Nathan - I really appreciate that, it means a lot. Are you free to talk for a bit?

    @Nemuritai I am. How are you?

    I'm not doing great, to be entirely honest. I wouldn't want to trauma dump or anything like that so I won't go into too much detail, but I've been struggling with processing some painful things that happened in the past and it's really difficult sometimes. Especially since I've never really been able to talk about it before, and my parents act like nothing happened which is really hard.
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    To everybody here, if you ever want to talk, i'm here for you. Even if you just want to chit chat about light topics to get your mind off things, like passions and hobbies, or if you want to talk about serious heavy stuff you want to get off your chest. You don't have to be alone.

    Hey @Nathan - I really appreciate that, it means a lot. Are you free to talk for a bit?

    @Nemuritai I am. How are you?

    I'm not doing great, to be entirely honest. I wouldn't want to trauma dump or anything like that so I won't go into too much detail, but I've been struggling with processing some painful things that happened in the past and it's really difficult sometimes. Especially since I've never really been able to talk about it before, and my parents act like nothing happened which is really hard.

    @Nemuritai I just wanted to say, I'm more than happy to listen. it's not "trauma dumping", it's opening up in a safe supportive place. It's not a bad thing to do. Think of it as just getting all those things bothering you off your chest. If you ever feel comfortable talking about them, you don't have to hold back here if you don't want to.

    And it sounds incredibly difficult to have to be dealing with that. For what it's worth, i really understand struggling how to process past things, and how much of a toll it can take. There's no exact right or wrong way to do it. Each person copes and process's things in there own unique way, but having unsupportive people around acting like whatever it was didn't happen must feel incredibly isolating.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 5,243 Part of The Furniture
    Hey @Cutelivejazz just checking in, how are you doing? <3
    ✨ ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝒶𝓋ℯ. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝓊𝒾𝓈ℯ𝒹. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝓌𝒽ℴ 𝒾𝓂 𝓂ℯ𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉ℴ 𝒷ℯ ✨

    ✨ 𝒯ℋℐ𝒮 ℐ𝒮 ℳℰ ✨
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    edited November 16
    Nathan wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    To everybody here, if you ever want to talk, i'm here for you. Even if you just want to chit chat about light topics to get your mind off things, like passions and hobbies, or if you want to talk about serious heavy stuff you want to get off your chest. You don't have to be alone.

    Hey @Nathan - I really appreciate that, it means a lot. Are you free to talk for a bit?

    @Nemuritai I am. How are you?

    I'm not doing great, to be entirely honest. I wouldn't want to trauma dump or anything like that so I won't go into too much detail, but I've been struggling with processing some painful things that happened in the past and it's really difficult sometimes. Especially since I've never really been able to talk about it before, and my parents act like nothing happened which is really hard.

    @Nemuritai I just wanted to say, I'm more than happy to listen. it's not "trauma dumping", it's opening up in a safe supportive place. It's not a bad thing to do. Think of it as just getting all those things bothering you off your chest. If you ever feel comfortable talking about them, you don't have to hold back here if you don't want to.

    And it sounds incredibly difficult to have to be dealing with that. For what it's worth, i really understand struggling how to process past things, and how much of a toll it can take. There's no exact right or wrong way to do it. Each person copes and process's things in there own unique way, but having unsupportive people around acting like whatever it was didn't happen must feel incredibly isolating.

    @Nathan Thank you, that really does mean the world right now, honestly. It's such a relief to have people here who listen, and just to chat with in general.
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  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    anyone watching im a celeb? angry ginge is on it!!
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    edited November 16
    @Nemuritai i won't include any of that as part of this reply so it can be edited later, but i think i understand that to an extent. Looking back and seeing opportunities missed in the past can really hurt, and be painful. Nobody should be denied something as fundamental as that.

    And for what it's worth, I can really relate to that feeling of looking back and grieving. My own circumstances growing up meant i missed out on all the typical childhood, teenage and educational experiences too. And even though our circumstances are different, I think i do understand the exact grief and pain your suffering through.

    And about getting upset over hearing kids say that, it's okay. Grief isn't always about thinking in precise logic and rationalisation. Sadness over seeing people take for granted what you always wish you had is entirely reasonable, and it's an okay reaction to have to it. It isn't unreasonable.

    One thing that helps me when the grief is the heaviest, is remembering that whilst nothing can change the past, or give back those lost times and experiences, the only things we can do is change our future's. And you're already building and making plans. That takes incredible perseverance. So i do just want to say, you should be proud of yourself. How you feel is entirely valid and normal, and i wouldn't wish that grief on anybody, but your doing an amazing job making it through each day and making plans for the future. Well done.

    (also sorry for the slow reply)
  • Ech0Ech0 Posts: 98 Budding Regular
    @Cutelivejazz I’m really sorry you’re going through that. I can imagine how lonely and confusing that must feel and you don’t deserve that kind of hurt. You deserve people who stay, who choose you, and who make you feel safe and valued.
    I hope you know there’s nothing wrong with you and you’re absolutely someone worth caring about and staying for.
    We are here for you and we aren’t going anywhere Jazz.
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    @Nathan I can't explain how much of a relief it is to share that, and I really appreciate you listening. Thank you for that. I'm so sorry that you've had to miss out on those kinds of experiences as well - I do understand how it feels, even if your circumstances were different. Everyone deserves experiences like that, and it genuinely makes me so sad that it's even an issue for some people growing up. I find I feel more strongly about the topic the older I get, somehow.

    It's really difficult to look back and know that there's nothing I can do to change anything, and sometimes I really wish I could go back in time and comfort my younger self, though of course that's not possible. It feels like there's a huge hole inside me where those experiences should be, and although I hope to rebuild some things when I'm older, it doesn't feel like I'll ever fill that hole.

    I know that because of what happened, finding employment will be a lot harder when I'm an adult, but I really want to work with children if I'm ever able to, and I think a bit part of that comes from wanting to give other little children the experiences that I missed out on, and making sure they're safe and supported. I suppose it's a good thing that what I went through can be channeled into something like that, and I feel like it'd be really healing, if that's ever possible.

    Anyways, I really do appreciate being able to talk about things, and it really means a lot that you took the time to chat. Take care of yourself, you deserve it :heart:
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    i just get ignored lol …
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    i just get ignored lol …

    Sorry @eylah i was just replying to someone else. I haven't seen I'm a celeb since lady C was in it if you remember that one?
  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 650 Incredible Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    i just get ignored lol …

    @eylah I'm sorry your post got ignored, I honestly didn't see it until now. We do care about you <3
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    sry.. i sound like a horrible person there in that msg im rly sry. i’m so selfish.

    i’m just crying my eyes out. my heart feels heavy with sadness.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    sry.. i sound like a horrible person there in that msg im rly sry. i’m so selfish.

    i’m just crying my eyes out. my heart feels heavy with sadness.

    @eylah you've got absolutely nothing to say sorry about and you are in no way shape or form selfish. You've been through so much, yet despite all that pain you've gone through, you still have that same kind heart you always have, and support so many people on here despite that pain. You are not selfish at all, i promise you that, and you are absolutely not a horrible person. You've got the kindest heart in the world.

    I'm so sorry you're suffering through all that sadness and pain. If you want to talk about it, or even just talk about a different more jolly topic, whichever you want, i'm here for you my favourite twat in the world <3
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    edited November 16
    Nathan wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    sry.. i sound like a horrible person there in that msg im rly sry. i’m so selfish.

    i’m just crying my eyes out. my heart feels heavy with sadness.

    @eylah you've got absolutely nothing to say sorry about and you are in no way shape or form selfish. You've been through so much, yet despite all that pain you've gone through, you still have that same kind heart you always have, and support so many people on here despite that pain. You are not selfish at all, i promise you that, and you are absolutely not a horrible person. You've got the kindest heart in the world.

    I'm so sorry you're suffering through all that sadness and pain. If you want to talk about it, or even just talk about a different more jolly topic, whichever you want, i'm here for you my favourite twat in the world <3

    thankyou so much my favourite twat <3

    off topic but i just made this in minecraft haha <3
    r7sqjfdl6k25.jpeg

    winnie the pooh 🥺
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    edited November 17
    eylah wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    sry.. i sound like a horrible person there in that msg im rly sry. i’m so selfish.

    i’m just crying my eyes out. my heart feels heavy with sadness.

    @eylah you've got absolutely nothing to say sorry about and you are in no way shape or form selfish. You've been through so much, yet despite all that pain you've gone through, you still have that same kind heart you always have, and support so many people on here despite that pain. You are not selfish at all, i promise you that, and you are absolutely not a horrible person. You've got the kindest heart in the world.

    I'm so sorry you're suffering through all that sadness and pain. If you want to talk about it, or even just talk about a different more jolly topic, whichever you want, i'm here for you my favourite twat in the world <3

    thankyou so much my favourite twat <3

    off topic but i just made this in minecraft haha <3
    r7sqjfdl6k25.jpeg

    winnie the pooh 🥺

    @eylah it's entirely true what i said, and i think everybody on the mix would agree with me on that. And that looks so awesome. Also, that looks like an amazingly well designed castle in the background btw too. I absolutely love minecraft. Ooo, can i show you something i made a while back in it?
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