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its fine, you shouldnt have to keep yourself awake just to keep me safe. ill be ok.
pls txt shout or try calling childline. ( if you’re in the age bracket ). im sry if i go quiet im getting rly tired but pls reach out! you matter.
i just texted shout and now im in the queue. i dont know how long itll be but hopefully it wont be too long. im 17 so im in the age bracket for childline, ill call them if shout takes too long to answer.
@toffuna101 your doing an incredibly brave thing by reaching out. I'm proud of you. I'm gonna keep this tab open, so if you want to talk some more, i'm here. Childline sounds like a great idea if shout is no good, and if all else fails, samaritans are worth ringing.
And like so_very_tired said, if needs be, even though A&E is boring, and very little gets done based on your past experiences there, they can keep you safe for the night.
i had a gut feeling that shout will take too long therefore im just calling childline and im in the queue. id like to talk some more.
@toffuna101 yeah, Saturday nights i assume they tend to be understaffed a bit, or at the very least have a surge of activity. Childline is a very smart move as it deals with far fewer people overall than shout. And yeah, as i say, whatever happens throughout the night, I'm here toffuna. You aren't alone. Keep trying to get through mate to them.
thank you, yeah since childline is for under 19s whilst shout is for everyone really. ive been waiting for 15 minutes to get through to childline which is odd. im gonna wait 15 more minutes before hanging up and calling samaritans.
@toffuna101 yeah, saturdays i assume tend to be one of the busiest days of the week, which will be why it's a long waiting time, even for them. Just keep at it, and eventually you'll get through. In the meanwhile, do you want to talk a bit more about how you're feeling if you feel comfortable? Or anything else you want to talk about?
i just feel desperate honestly. i had a short chat with childline but i feel that it was too short, they kind of just forced me to take a break from talking with them.
@toffuna101 that sounds dreadful. Childline should have kept you on the line talking and offering support. They must just have been a bit overwhelmed and short staffed. The fault isn't on you for that, it's on them. It might be worth ringing Samaritans then instead. I'll post the link here for all there info: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/if-youre-having-difficult-time/
maybe, thanks for the link. i feel like calling them will be quicker and easier so i might as well try it. ill tell you what happens afterwards.
@toffuna101 good luck with it. I'll be here for after the call friend.
ok. i dont know why but i just hear ringing. i thought samaritans would get you through to a volunteer quickly.
@toffuna101 they should do. It might just be an extremely busy day for them or something.
yeah maybe.
@toffuna101 so i've researched a few other options, and here's a few. Papyrus can be called on 0800 068 4141. And i also think 111 have a mental health option, where they connect you to mental health support. So if any of those are taking too long, try these.
im talking to samaritans right now
TW food/eating disorders, Self harm
Hi @Cutelivejazz - it sounds like you've had a lot going on lately, and it's brave of you to reach out here. I just wanted to reassure you first of all that you are not a burden to anyone, and we don't hate you at all. Sometimes posts aren't replied to because it can be hard to know what to say in response, but that doesn't mean we don't care, I promise. You're welcome to vent whenever you need to.
I hear that you're struggling right now, and it sounds really painful to have your parents be so dismissive. Your feelings are all valid and they deserve to be heard. I know saying this won't change the situation, and I wish I could do more to help, but I'm here to listen if there's ever anything you need to vent about.
I know the wait for a response from Childline can take a while sometimes, but that's purely because of how busy they can be, not because you aren't good enough. You deserve support.
I can honestly relate an awful lot to what you said about feeling ignored and unwanted when people don't reply, and I want to reassure you on that point that you are not alone. I know it's painful, and it can feel really difficult when the voice in your head says those things, but I promise they aren't true. You aren't a burden - you are heard and cared about, and we're always here to listen.
I truly hope this helps even slightly. And while it may not fix anything, I'm here for you
I also wanted to let you know that I have edited your post slightly as it included some description of self-harm which is against our guidelines as it could be triggering for others. I'm also mindful that we do have another version of this thread specifically for triggering stuff, so next time you did want to post something like this and it's something that would need a trigger warning, please pop it on the triggering thread version. Click here to go to this week's triggering venting thread.
I wonder how are you feeling after posting this? Sometimes getting our thoughts out of our head and typed or written out can kind of help us make sense of how we are feeling - has this helped at all?
I hear that did you try reaching out to Shout, Childline and Samaritans, as well as to our Community here. I'm also hearing in the end you did get through to Samaritans and you found them pretty helpful which is really positive. How are you feeling today?
Lastly, I also wanted to let you know that we do have another version of this thread specifically for triggering topics, so next time you did want to post something like this and it's something that would need a trigger warning, please pop it on the triggering thread version. Click here to go to this week's triggering venting thread.
We hope you can get some rest today and do be gentle with yourself. You've had a pretty heavy night and we'll be here for you today if you wish to share more about how you're feeling. We will be running a Support Thread here on the boards 11am-12:30pm and also a General Chat over on Chatwee 3pm-4:30pm if you would like to come along for some chit-chat and distractions.
You deserve support around your self-harm, and I can imagine it feeling quite isolating not being able to talk about it, or not having friends you can go to. Masking how you are feeling under a fake smile definitely does sound exhausting and maybe like you can't be your true self. Do you feel comfortable sharing how long you've been trying to mask these feelings? I also wonder if you've found anything that helps you when you have thoughts around self-harming (it could be something little)?
There are also some support organisations that can specifically help with self-harm. I wonder if you've tried any of them? I'll pop some down below just in case:
The National Self Harm Network (NSHN) have a 24/7 online support forum that is closely monitored. The forum provides crisis support, information and resources, advice, discussions and distractions. They offer support to survivors & people who self-harm, as well as supporting the family and friends of those who self-harm too. For more information and to access the forum go to www.nshn.co.uk
Recover Your Life is an organisation that deals with issues of self-harm, abuse, mental health problems, eating disorders, and more. They don't have a helpline, but they have an interactive website open 24/7 that provides advice, community support, peer help, and information. They also run an online self-help group. You can visit their website at www.recoveryourlife.com
https://rightlinesuk.org/
they have a webchat open monday-friday 4pm-10pm. as well you can make an account and can message them but it cant take up to 24hrs to get a reply.
they’re rly helpful tho.
i feel tired honestly. ok ill post on the triggering thread if i post any triggering topics.
Edit: Also im really sorry abt the post i was half asleep when i wrote that and should of been more mindful hopefully im not in trouble again sorry