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im scared of getting hurt
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ever since i split up with my ex last year ive been unable to get into a relationship with anyone else. the reason for this is because im scared of getting hurt!! my ex didnt really do anything to hurt me, it was just us splitting up that hurt me, but i was the one who ended it.
now theres this guy, who ive liked since before me and my ex split! we got together 2 weeks after me and my ex split, but cos i wasnt over my ex it didnt work!!
i still really like this guy, and weve talked about trying again now that im over my ex, the only thing is im scared of getting into a relationship, even though i really like him, cos i dont wanna get hurt!:(
how can i get over this fear, and stop myself getting hurt should me and this new guy split up???
thanx in advance for your replies, i hope this all makes sense!!!
now theres this guy, who ive liked since before me and my ex split! we got together 2 weeks after me and my ex split, but cos i wasnt over my ex it didnt work!!
i still really like this guy, and weve talked about trying again now that im over my ex, the only thing is im scared of getting into a relationship, even though i really like him, cos i dont wanna get hurt!:(
how can i get over this fear, and stop myself getting hurt should me and this new guy split up???
thanx in advance for your replies, i hope this all makes sense!!!
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Just stop thinking about the past and try to move on, you say that it was the break up with your ex that hurt you, so you dont want to go breaking up with this lad as well now. You shouldnt break up with him just because your scared of getting hurt else you'll be feeling like this everytime someone new comes along. I dont know how to suggest to get over the fear, just be strong I suppose and try and let it work out. You need to get over your ex and move on with your life.
Good luck
That's what life and relationships is all about, sometimes we're ecstatically happy, other times we're really low and depressed about things. Try and take a risk. You really shouldn't miss out on what could be a great relationship, just on the off chance that you'll be hurt again. That's what I keep telling myself anyway.
Good luck
If you keep feeling this insecure then its just going to make it worse. Just try and be happy with the relationship and there shouldnt be any reason for this guy to split up with you, keep feeling this insecure and you could scare him off. You need to realise that this guy is not your ex, he's a completely different guy and its not fair to dwell on the past so much. Your bound to feel like this after having such a hard time after splitting with your ex, but just move on and get on with it, you can learn from your past mistakes!
Hey,
to be honest, I think the biggest thing you are going about in the wrong way, is, that you are just thinking about it far too much. Relationships either work or they don't, at this age(i haven't checked your profile, but am gussing you are 18 or thereabouts) most relationships don't work out. If you are together with him, then that is great!!! I'm seriously happy for you, but just don't go and screw it all up by thinking about it. Afterall, I can guarantee that you will feel ten times worse later on when you realise that, "hey maybe I should've just let things go as they are."
So my advice for you (if you can't pick it out of above, don't worry I talk crap a lot) you should just have fun, and don't worry about whether or not it will break up, cos tbh it prolly will, worry (if about anything) about how much fun you have with him. cos that is what really counts.
My thread *sighs*
Don't know if that'll help or not.
Goodluck and dont worry to much and always remember if you need a chat PM me
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Just try and get on with it, and not think about what you are doing too much...
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