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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 27.10.25
Leyla
Community Manager Posts: 486 Listening Ear
This is a space to chat or vent about whatever might be on your mind right now, nothing is too big or small!
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i know this might not make much difference, but i really do understand what it takes for a person to get to that point. Where it's just something after the other, again and again, over and over, slowly breaking a person down over time, until it gets to the point where it just becomes tiring to even be alive. I really do understand what that's like, and whilst i know it might not seem this way at times, there's no guarantee it will be like that forever or will stay like that. You're still here, you're still fighting on day after day, still advancing and making progress by making it day after day, and you should be proud of that. It's one of the hardest battles there is.
I know this might sound silly, but i'm in the exact same place. And whilst it's scary, and exhausting, The thing that gets me through day by day is trying to find even the smallest moments of happiness i can, no matter how fleeting it is, and holding on to them for dear life. Even a 5 minute escape (i get mine from feeding the ducks at the park), makes the days a little more bearable. Sort of like an anchor in a storm, making it easier to hold on. It doesn't fix anything, but it does make things a little bit more tolerable, at least in my case it does.
I really hope this advice helps you, even just a little bit, mai.
@Cutelivejazz hey jazz, i can't see what your post was, but i'm here to chat if you want to talk a bit more about whatever's going on for you?
@Redemption i know how crushing these last few weeks and overall months have been for you, and i fully get how demoralising it is, to have so many things piling up after one another. You've been battling your situation on the job front for a while, which would leave anybody struggling, and then to have all of this stuff from your family for months on end, endlessly bringing you down with insults and demeaning comments, only to then be ignored and be pressured into things you don't want to go to like football, despite saying no countless times, and then finally for things to reach boiling point, and going no contact with some family members, is obviously going to be a nightmare for anybody. And i know this isn't everything, but it's pretty clear you've been through so much.
When things build up, and it's one thing after another for so long, it's human that over time we start to struggle more and more. And eventually reach points of extreme difficulty. I know this won't be much consolation, but by going no contact with certain family members, or at least cutting down on contact with them, you removed one of those many weights weighing you down. And bit by bit, you'll make progress. You've got an interview coming up i recall you said, and eventually, you'll land a job, and that will be another weight. It won't all be fixed overnight, but slowly over time, you'll make progress, and each problem you solve, will be one less weight for you.
Keep going as your going bro, keep pushing through, and eventually, i think things will improve.
@Nathan Thanks bro, I really appreciate that. It means a lot hearing that and knowing someone understands what it’s been like. I’m trying to keep going and hope things start to turn around soon.
@Cutelivejazz I don't know any others outside of samaritans who are open at this time. I know it's not the same, but if you went to vent about things, i'm listening if you want to talk a bit. And i'm sure the mods will be happy to edit any posts you make tomorrow to [blank] if you asked them too, if family finding out your getting support is an issue.
@Redemption it's understandable to feel demoralised and unhappy with everything. I know there isn't much that i can say that can make things better, but your an incredibly strong person redemption for still trying and still pushing through day by day. It takes strength, so well done.
(Redemption, just realised you're my 2500th post lol)
@so_very_tired i'm here if you want to talk a bit more about it. What has she done this time?
As you probably know I can relate to that @so_very_tired , we are all here for you though
@Nathan always appreciate you bro, going to miss you but I have you on mind side by side still.
That's kinda cool
I'm here if that makes you feel any better.
Only if this website gets worse and right now it's bearable. Or if anyone else leaves because the only, reason why I'm still here if I'm being honest is the community, it is really nice. If I do leave though, I'd probably move over to that website @Nathan says he's moving onto, side by side I believe it was called.
So, I am really stupid, I intended this for @Cutelivejazz.
What you struggling with?
@Cutelivejazz Don't worry, you're not butting in at all. I'm not leaving because of anybody in the community, but rather some serious concerns i've had with the mix itself. I want to promise you right now though, people leaving has nothing to do with you, and isn't your fault. People don't ever leave because of you jazz. In this case, it's just terrible circumstances with the platform, but that doesn't mean everybody will always leave. I just want to clear that up.
For what it's worth, i really do understand loneliness and isolation. It's not easy, and i know how painful it is to want a hug for years on end, and seeing others get that daily. It is incredibly lonely and isolating, and it hurts more than most people think. There's nothing wrong with wanting that sort of connection and support. I wish i had some advice to give to ease that, but i still struggle myself with it.
And if you feel unsure about where you stand with your friend, then the best thing to do is try and give yourself some space from them. You deserve friends who make you feel secure and certain about where you stand with them, not ones leaving you in doubt, which contributes to overthinking and worries.
@so_very_tired sorry for the slow reply, but i just wanted to say that your issues are incredibly important. It's not a competition over who has the worst issues. If it's effecting you, then it's valid, and shouldn't be passed off as unimportant. Your mum has no right to take away your bus pass. That is your property. Sure, skipping college wasn't the best idea ever, but it still didn't give her any right. The fact that she won't even look for it is actually quite shocking. I'm struggling to understand how she could turn around, try to stop you getting the internship under the guise of trying to do what was right for you, and then in the next breath, take your bus pass away so it's financially harder and more costly for you, and leaves you with less money. It's not necessarily about the money I'm guessing, but the principle of it that annoys you?
@Redemption like @so_very_tired said, we're here for you if you want to talk a bit more about what you're struggling with