Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 29.09.25

Cutelivejazz · October 3

@Redemption just saw this. Hope you're okay and sending hugs. Remeber to be kind to yourself and maybe try doing some voulenterring? It does help you make connections with new people and you feel good about yourself. Hope that helps if its a tiny bit. Also smth to make you laugh (hopefully) I was tutoring some of the year 10s in physics and they kept calling me miss (for context im not that tall nor do I look like an adult I look like im 12) but yes I felt very very old. (Hope that made you laugh even if it was just a tiny smile

) again seding hugs hope you feel better!

Redemption · October 3

Cutelivejazz wrote: »

@Redemption just saw this. Hope you're okay and sending hugs. Remeber to be kind to yourself and maybe try doing some voulenterring? It does help you make connections with new people and you feel good about yourself. Hope that helps if its a tiny bit. Also smth to make you laugh (hopefully) I was tutoring some of the year 10s in physics and they kept calling me miss (for context im not that tall nor do I look like an adult I look like im 12) but yes I felt very very old. (Hope that made you laugh even if it was just a tiny smile ) again seding hugs hope you feel better!

Thanks, that made me smile! I’ll try to be kinder to myself. Hugs back .

Redemption · October 3

Im feeling lonely

Sian321 · October 3

Hey @Redemption , thank you for sharing this here and naming that feeling. It can feel really vulnerable sometimes to say that we're feeling lonely and craving a bit more connection. And that part of you deserves so much time and understanding.

What kind of connection are you noticing yourself feeling lonely for right now? What does it feel like is missing?

We're here and we're listening, and your emotions contain wisdom about your needs.

Redemption · October 3

Sian321 wrote: »

Hey @Redemption , thank you for sharing this here and naming that feeling. It can feel really vulnerable sometimes to say that we're feeling lonely and craving a bit more connection. And that part of you deserves so much time and understanding.

What kind of connection are you noticing yourself feeling lonely for right now? What does it feel like is missing?

We're here and we're listening, and your emotions contain wisdom about your needs.

@Sian321 thank you I think I'm noticing a few connections I'm feeling lonely like maybe for example some people might be going out either their romantic partners as its Friday and heading into the weekend so people might spend it outside work with them yet but I don't have that and less support services on etc. It just feels a bit isolating and boring.

Redemption · October 3

Its only a matter of time till people will go at me again

Cutelivejazz · October 3

I feel broken

Cutelivejazz · October 3

I really need someone to talk to just to idk get everything out but idk if anyone will listen and I dont want tobe a burden

Redemption · October 4

Cutelivejazz wrote: »

I really need someone to talk to just to idk get everything out but idk if anyone will listen and I dont want tobe a burden

Im here @Cutelivejazz what's on your mind?

Cutelivejazz · October 4

@Redemption thank you. Sorry I didnt respond my mom yelled at me to get to bed. Everything just feels so depressing lately like I feel really lonely like I have people I talk to and stuff and I'd want to be friends but they dont have the best friends or like I'm worried that if I become closer to them or try to open up to them they'll either spread rumors or abandon me. Like I have friends who left to go to college and we still text and make plans and stuff but it doesn't feel the same. My best friend went to college and she was like the only person I trusted and now I rarely get to see her. And everything going on in the world feels so scary and everything is changing so much at such a rapid rate and its overwhelming. Also sometimes I get like old memories and they feel overwhelming like to the point where I want to hurt or punish myself.

Sian321 · October 4

Hey @Redemption , thank you for sharing this, and that makes so much sense. It sounds like it being a Friday night really highlighted that lonely feeling, especially seeing others going out for the evening with their romantic partners or colleagues, and wishing the same for yourself. It's hard to be at home on your own and to feel so isolated. How did the evening go in the end? When that loneliness sets in, is there anything you find especially comforting?

eylah · October 4

hes broken up with me.

Sian321 · October 4

@Cutelivejazz , how are you doing this morning? Thank you for your trust in making this post. I really hear that feeling of loneliness you describe, and how, while there are people around you, it's not those deep, safe connections that you crave. And yet at the same time, getting close feels scary - it's vulnerable, and opens you up to that risk of being abandoned. That sounds so painful @Cutelivejazz , and I wonder if that's something you've experienced in the past? It is valid that there's a protective part of you maybe that's afraid to get close to others, while at the same time, a different part of you really wants those best friends.

You also mentioned how the state of the world right now can feel overwhelming and bleak, like everything's changing and nothing's the same anymore. There's a feeling of loss in that almost? Like the world you knew is slipping?

Thank you for opening up about the fact that sometimes old memories make you want to punish or hurt yourself. I really appreciate you sharing this, and we're here for you to listen. Can I ask, what does that urge to punish yourself tend to look like? And how do you tend to keep yourself safe when it comes up?

I'll share below some resources that might be helpful:

https://giveusashout.org/
https://peerchat.link/distrACT
https://peerchat.link/ditch_SH

Sian321 · October 4

Ah @eylah , that sounds heartbreaking. We're right here with you. Would it feel helpful to talk more about what happened?

DonnerKebab · October 4

eylah wrote: »

hes broken up with me.

@eylah from everything you described, he really didn't deserve you. You're the kindest soul here, and deserve so much more than that. He gaslit you, was disrespectful by bringing up his ex all the time to you, was dismissive of how you felt, didn't care for how it was hurting you and wasn't emotionally available at all. Nobody, especially not someone as amazing as you, should ever have to deal with that toxicity. Try and think of it as the trash has taken itself out.

I'm sending you a huge virtual hug (yes, that does mean give yourself a hug from me), and i'm here if you want to talk some more. I know it will be scary, the thought of being alone, but you'll always have this little corner of the internet to talk to, and one day you'll find someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated. With the same kindness and compassion that you show everyone else.

eylah · October 4

Sian321 wrote: »

Ah @eylah , that sounds heartbreaking. We're right here with you. Would it feel helpful to talk more about what happened?

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

hes broken up with me.

@eylah from everything you described, he really didn't deserve you. You're the kindest soul here, and deserve so much more than that. He gaslit you, was disrespectful by bringing up his ex all the time to you, was dismissive of how you felt, didn't care for how it was hurting you and wasn't emotionally available at all. Nobody, especially not someone as amazing as you, should ever have to deal with that toxicity. Try and think of it as the trash has taken itself out.

I'm sending you a huge virtual hug (yes, that does mean give yourself a hug from me), and i'm here if you want to talk some more. I know it will be scary, the thought of being alone, but you'll always have this little corner of the internet to talk to, and one day you'll find someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated. With the same kindness and compassion that you show everyone else.

we having a big argument rn. something happened to me a few days ago and he’s blaming me for it. i can’t rly say much bc it’s just hard for me but im so alone.

i loved him i rly did but I guess it just idk but im heartbroken.

DonnerKebab · October 4

eylah wrote: »

Sian321 wrote: »

Ah @eylah , that sounds heartbreaking. We're right here with you. Would it feel helpful to talk more about what happened?

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

hes broken up with me.

@eylah from everything you described, he really didn't deserve you. You're the kindest soul here, and deserve so much more than that. He gaslit you, was disrespectful by bringing up his ex all the time to you, was dismissive of how you felt, didn't care for how it was hurting you and wasn't emotionally available at all. Nobody, especially not someone as amazing as you, should ever have to deal with that toxicity. Try and think of it as the trash has taken itself out.

I'm sending you a huge virtual hug (yes, that does mean give yourself a hug from me), and i'm here if you want to talk some more. I know it will be scary, the thought of being alone, but you'll always have this little corner of the internet to talk to, and one day you'll find someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated. With the same kindness and compassion that you show everyone else.

we having a big argument rn. something happened to me a few days ago and he’s blaming me for it. i can’t rly say much bc it’s just hard for me but im so alone. i loved him i rly did but I guess it just idk but im heartbroken.

@eylah just make sure you give yourself that hug, and remember that we're here for you always friend

eylah · October 4

maybe i could benefit from talking to a helpline. im not rly sure who I feel like I can talk to. i dont like papryus bc they’re judgmental. shout idk

DonnerKebab · October 4

eylah wrote: »

maybe i could benefit from talking to a helpline. im not rly sure who I feel like I can talk to. i dont like papryus bc they’re judgmental. shout idk

@eylah ive tried Kelly's heroes once and I couldn't recommend them enough, but they aren't open until 6. I dont know any others personally, but I think a few of the people on here might have a few suggestions based on there experiences with different services.

eylah · October 4

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

maybe i could benefit from talking to a helpline. im not rly sure who I feel like I can talk to. i dont like papryus bc they’re judgmental. shout idk

@eylah ive tried Kelly's heroes once and I couldn't recommend them enough, but they aren't open until 6. I dont know any others personally, but I think a few of the people on here might have a few suggestions based on there experiences with different services.

oh ok! maybe i could try them later tonight. thankyou nathan you’re the best.

Redemption · October 4

@eylah Like DonnerKebab says didn't deserve you from but I your feelings are definitely valid to feel heart broken and everything. You deserve support, we are here to support you please take care of yourself.

Hsres some helplines you might know some of or all of these but here they are anyway.

https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
These are normally pretty good they open at 6 pm till 10pm Monday to Friday and open on weekends 6pm till 11pm

https://www.myblackdog.co/
These are pretty good but only open Sunday to Wednesday 7pm till 10pm

https://knus.io/
This is a peer to peer support service, someone should set you up through a peer and chats are done through what's app

Shout is a text messaging service, open 24 hours but at night it takes a very long time to get through, text 85258

Phone service
Call 116 123
and has text service but it only works for some
https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/

Redemption · October 4

Cutelivejazz wrote: »

@Redemption thank you. Sorry I didnt respond my mom yelled at me to get to bed. Everything just feels so depressing lately like I feel really lonely like I have people I talk to and stuff and I'd want to be friends but they dont have the best friends or like I'm worried that if I become closer to them or try to open up to them they'll either spread rumors or abandon me. Like I have friends who left to go to college and we still text and make plans and stuff but it doesn't feel the same. My best friend went to college and she was like the only person I trusted and now I rarely get to see her. And everything going on in the world feels so scary and everything is changing so much at such a rapid rate and its overwhelming. Also sometimes I get like old memories and they feel overwhelming like to the point where I want to hurt or punish myself.

@Cutelivejazz Im sorry you are going through all of that, it doesn't sound tough. Your feelings are valid. Not seeing your best friend as much and struggling to meet new people is tough. You could start small with people, just say hi, how's your day, are you enjoying college etc and take things step by step gaining a bit of trust, you have plenty of time to do this so no rush or no pressure. I hear you and understand

River · October 4

We went to a restaurant last night and it got really loud for me so today mum has treated me to headphones cos I forgot mine as we are back there tonight and tomorrow

Sian321 · October 4

@River , thank you for sharing this. It sounds like last night have been overwhelming and over-stimulating. That's so positive that your mum got you some new headphones! How do you like them? I can imagine it feels reassuring to know you might be able to use them next time you're in a loud or busy space like that.

River · October 4

@Sian321 i have 4 sets of headphones, ones for in class, ones that are always at the front door and a spare set and then the ones I got today that we are gonna be keeping at the caravan for me

usually I always have headphones with me but I completely forgot to pack them yesterday 🥲

Redemption · October 4

My overthinking is bad, Im getting stressed with it

Redemption · October 4

I was meant to have a Knus appointment but no one answered, its things like that which are meant to be simple but aren't. Im meant to just be able to go on and go on my chat but that didn't happen. I got the right day and time. I spent a bit pre planning what I wanted to say and then its unanswered, Ive not been told. My peer on there is amazing and I get these are volunteers and I get things come up but more reliability and communication would go great. It was my first chat in a while with Knus and I was sat here waiting patiently all day.

DonnerKebab · October 4

Redemption wrote: »

I was meant to have a Knus appointment but no one answered, its things like that which are meant to be simple but aren't. Im meant to just be able to go on and go on my chat but that didn't happen. I got the right day and time. I spent a bit pre planning what I wanted to say and then its unanswered, Ive not been told. My peer on there is amazing and I get these are volunteers and I get things come up but more reliability and communication would go great. It was my first chat in a while with Knus and I was sat here waiting patiently all day.

@Redemption That sounds crushing redemption, to be planning and preparing all day, only for them to no show. They should have given you advanced warning, and they should have given you and apology and explanation if they couldn't keep that appointment. This isn't on you, but on them. Volunteers or not, at least an email warning would be a basic.

DonnerKebab · October 4

River wrote: »

@Sian321 i have 4 sets of headphones, ones for in class, ones that are always at the front door and a spare set and then the ones I got today that we are gonna be keeping at the caravan for me usually I always have headphones with me but I completely forgot to pack them yesterday 🥲

@River awesome. An emergency pair wherever you are, so you can block out anything overwhelming or that get's too loud. My brother has 3 pairs of ear defenders for stopping loud noises triggering his meltdowns, and nothing is worse than when we forget them somewhere. Glad you got a good solution in place for forgetting them.

DonnerKebab · October 4

@eylah hey eylah, i just wanted to check in and see how you're doing, and just to say Kelly's heroes are open if you wanted to give them a try.

Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 29.09.25

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