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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 29.09.25
Leyla
Community Manager Posts: 374 Listening Ear
This is a space to chat or vent about whatever might be on your mind right now, nothing is too big or small!
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and i've gotta agree with @eylah i'm quite chilly myself this afternoon
@sinead276 I hope you had a good Monday and Tuesday too ❤️
@Cutelivejazz It can be really tricky getting to sleep when your overstimulated. And it sounds like the anxiety might also be connected to the feeling of being overstimulated right now. It might be worth trying to attempt some grounding techniques before bed to calm that overstimulation as best you can. Sorry, this is probably useless advice, but it's all i really know about overstimulation and sleep.
@Redemption sometimes, different online communities can be hostile. The community here is mostly a good supportive one, but not all sites have that same supportive community aspect to it. Can i ask which sites you've tried where they've had a go at you?
@DonnerKebab sorry bro, I worded that quite wrong, its people outside these services going at me and communities, not on them.
@Redemption Ah, i see. Well, i say screw them. You're on your own path redemption, and your breakthrough will come eventually. Nobody has the right to judge you, let alone have a go at you. It simply isn't right at all that anybody treats you like that, because you deserve to be treated with respect and decency, anything less than that is wrong.
Anyway, it's a good thought to try settling into other services too, rather than simply leaving it for the next several years and having to jump into a new community overnight, years down the line when aged out here. It can help you to settle and ease into new places. I'm on side by side myself.
And another thing is that you yourself redemption are a nice guy. You've had a huge impact here, and whichever new communities you join, you'll have just the same impact there, because of who you are as a person. Does that make sense? Who you are, helps make this place what it is. And if you join new communities to prepare for aging out, you'll have just as much of an impact there, making those communities more like home for yourself over time.
@DonnerKebab thank you so much , that does make sense. I just hate being seen as the bad guy, I hope it doesnt affect my sleep, I have got a meeting tomorrow about just I'm interested in so hopefully that goes ok and something comes from it.
@Redemption fingers crossed for you mate that things go well for you tomorrow. I'll be on here tomorrow to chat to about how it goes if you want.
Thanks so much bro, we'll talk tomorrow for sure @DonnerKebab I hope chat and your day went well.
@Redemption yeah, the mods were absolutely amazing in chat. Hope things went well for you in support circle.
@Redemption thats understandable mate. There isnt much you can do to change other people's minds, but the most important thing is that you understand yourself, that you aren't the bad guy. Screw what other people think about you.
Really appreciate it my guy @DonnerKebab
@Redemption it's normal to feel that. Hurtful comments and nasty words can really linger for days and weeks and even years. What sort of hurtful comments did they make redemption if you don't mind me asking?
@DonnerKebab I have had comments like "Do not think youre getting old now and need to get a job" like I'm not trying, I know I have not made the best decisions and fumbled stuff a few times in the moment but Im not sitting here on games all day, Ive had interviews, I’m currently doing a course, I’ve done other courses yet I still get comments its because my journey hasn't been as quick as others. I get treated like I'm sitting on games all day.
@Redemption that sounds tricky mate. You're doing your best and if they want to ignore that, then let them. These are the sorts of people who think if you're not in a job, regardless of the job market or situation, they automatically think your lazy. It's sad stuff but it isn't true. You aren't lazy, your trying, and your doing your best.
I appreciate it @DonnerKebab
@Cutelivejazz i'm here if you want to chat. I'm not here 24/7, and i might not fully get everything your going through, but you don't have to be alone with it all.
Edit: I guess bc ive always had to deal with everything myself i never really felt safe enough to talk abt everything it gets to a point where it starts to feel really lonely and everything feels a bit pointless and like well if I want here no one would rly notice.