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luckyduckyluckyducky Posts: 3 Newbie
in Sex & Relationships
Hi Im 16 and have friends older than me (in their 20s). Im a girl and theyre guys. I sometimes feel like theyre pushing me into bad things but at the same time Its fun being part of their group. Theyve said Im mature for my age but I dont think I am. But I hate feeling alone and left out so I always go along with what they want.

How do I know if its ok to trust them and be friends with them?

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  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,758 Boards Guru
    I just wanted to say, the fact that they’re calling you mature rings alarm bells for me. I think you’re right to be cautious / skeptical about it.
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,152 Boards Champion
    Hey @luckyducky

    That sounds like a tricky situation to be in, figuring out whether the people you are friends with are people you can trust. I think listening to your gut is such an important thing.

    If situations or feelings have left you in a position where you question the type of people they are, the person you are with them, and their intentions when you are with them - then you should listen to than gut feeling and have your reservations. Not saying you have to make any decisions right this moment, but it may be worth doing a little bit of thinking about the entire situation to see what conclusions you come to.

    Sending hugs
    Sinead <3
  • luckyduckyluckyducky Posts: 3 Newbie
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    I just wanted to say, the fact that they’re calling you mature rings alarm bells for me. I think you’re right to be cautious / skeptical about it.

    Why does it ring alarm bells? I think they mean it as a compliment but it feels wierd.
  • luckyduckyluckyducky Posts: 3 Newbie
    sinead276 wrote: »
    Hey @luckyducky

    That sounds like a tricky situation to be in, figuring out whether the people you are friends with are people you can trust. I think listening to your gut is such an important thing.

    If situations or feelings have left you in a position where you question the type of people they are, the person you are with them, and their intentions when you are with them - then you should listen to than gut feeling and have your reservations. Not saying you have to make any decisions right this moment, but it may be worth doing a little bit of thinking about the entire situation to see what conclusions you come to.

    Sending hugs
    Sinead <3

    Thank you Im only a bit unsure cause of them being older than me so its like we dont always have much in common and I havent had many friends before so I dont know whats normal.

    I met these 2 guys at the gym and what we do together is playing basketball, online games, smoking, or they drive me around in their car. They said theyre my brothers now so theyll protect me. Sometimes my gut tells me Im not really part of their group they just find it funny to bring me along. Does that make sense?
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