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Hey not a problem, I care about you.
And your not at all bothering me, you deserve support.
I totally understand that, starting education, especially like six form can be really scary.
I am so sorry all of that has happened to you, you didn't deserve any of that. Social side of things can always be tricky, people stay with their groups and just don't seem to let anyone else join. Hopefully you will make some Friends that deserve you, there is no point wasting time on people who Don't appreciate anything about you.
And with the academic side of things, that's totally understandable. A levels are more tricky to what you are used to learning, and they may feel like more pressure. But trust me you are smart. And it's okay if you do fail, non of your grades define your worth. I know someone who failed history a few times and they really wanted to become a history teacher and they eventually made it and now they are doing really well and have gotten a job as a history teacher.
It's okay for grades to drop, you are able to pick them back up again, loads of my grades dropped and I failed quite a few things but I put in the work and effort and I eventually managed to pass.
If people judge you for grades then that says so much more about them then it does you.
You know all you can do is your best, and that's all that matters.
Your not being rude at all, and I am so sorry if I'm not helping. You deserve someone who can give you the right support and understand you. I am sorry I am not that person for you. Hopefully somebody else here will be able to help you better then I can. You don't have to be sorry. I am so proud of you for speaking up, that's a really brave thing to do.
It does sound exhausting. And I am so sorry that you are putting in all this effort and feel like your getting nowhere, that must be really difficult.
I can't really help with how exhausting it is for you pulling all nighters as I never really sleep and I get up to 4 hours max when I do sleep so I can't relate to that, so I am sorry I am unable to give you any support with that.
I have been there, if a friend ever needs me I am right there no matter what I am doing, a few years ago now, I had a friend and she was really struggling with her mental health and I was on high alert 24/7 incase she ever needed me, day and night, I was always there. I ignored my own mental health and my own problems to be there for her, and doing that can be so exhausting and can affect how much studying you do. Unfortunately though she did pass away as I didn't get to her quick enough and that has stuck with me, so even now I still turn up for people no matter what time it is that is why I am not always active on here on an evening when you need the most support because I have other people needing my help that I am trying to support.
It is awful the way that you do all that for others and when you want to talk they never show up for you and lie and say they are tired or were sleeping when you know they weren't at all.
I am so sorry you are going through all of this and I do apologise that I am not much help for you. You deserve so much more. Thank you for opening up though, you are doing great.
I can chat for now, but if I do start taking longer to respond I do apologise.
I hear how much you’re going through right now. It sounds incredibly overwhelming. Dealing with pain, exhaustion, anxiety, and the pressure of school starting tomorrow all at once. I want you to know that it is okay to let it all out here and you do not need to apologize for talking about what you’re going through.
The severe pain and dizziness/faintness really doesn't sound good at all and it sounds quite scary to be experiencing. It is quite concerning that standing makes you dizzy and makes you feel like everything spins, especially with your history of low iron. I have also got a history of low iron and the supplements I was given helped, but it can be scary.
The Pain that is spreading to your back, legs, and chest sounds so awful for you and it must be so annoying that the prescription painkillers not helping and personally to me that suggests this isn’t just “normal cramps.” I would recommend trying to get another opinion on that.
These things Impacting on daily life and mental health missing school, losing appetite, and feeling hopeless is such a heavy load to carry. And I am so sorry that you are experiencing and going through all of this.
Because your symptoms are this intense and aren’t improving, I would recommend you to see a docto or even try and go to a&e if you’re struggling to stand, feeling faint, or your pain is unbearable. You shouldn’t have to wait 20 weeks in this state as that just isn't fair. I know it may not be possible though, I know how awful are healthcare systems can be sometimes.
If your chest tightness gets worse, or if you faint, can’t breathe properly, or the pain becomes unbearable I would say call emergency services.
For school tomorrow: If you’re too unwell, it might be best to let the school know and not force yourself they may not be happy with it but your health has to come first. Even one more day of rest might make a difference. If that's not possible I totally understand but please look after yourself.
Keep hydrating and eating small, foods like soups, smoothies, rice, crackers are things you could try and eat if full meals feel impossible. Low iron plus blood loss can worsen dizziness.
For cramps, sometimes combining heat so maybe a heating pad or hot water bottle on your abdomen/back with gentle stretching can help alongside the medication though I know you have tried so much already.
And about your mental health, feeling like this constantly can wear anyone down. You don’t have to go through it alone. If you ever feel like you can’t cope or like you don’t want to keep going, please reach out right away whether that’s calling a crisis line, talking to a trusted friend/family member, or letting a teacher know what’s happening. You don't deserve to be alone. There are services you can call. And you have us here.
You are not weak for struggling with this, your body is putting you through an enormous amount, and it makes total sense you’re feeling the way you do.
Doctors can be like that unfortunately, it shouldn't be like that but it is the way our broken system is. From my opinion I would keep fighting with them, it may feel awful to do but it will help you get somewhere as I have had to do it for so many different reasons, like for example I have epilepsy but they weren't even going to look into anything when I started having seizures, they told me it was stress or trauma induced but I fought back and ended up having epilepsy and being diagnosed with severe epilepsy.
I know someone who is having a similar problem to you regarding the bleeding and they actually have a condition and she had to fight for so many years for them to even put her on the waiting list to get checked. It's awful.
It does sound really fustrating and I am so sorry about that. I do really hope things get sorted for you though.
@Cutelivejazz just writing a response now, it might take a short while
@Cutelivejazz sorry for the long response time.
Nothing beats having a decent teacher as a form tutor. I remember having one, my physics teacher, who was awesome, and another year, having a different one, who should be in the waxworks musuem next to the bad guys from ww2 so evil was she. At least that's one decent thing you don't have to worry about thankfully, and one person who you can go to for support when you need it.
Now, about the difficult topics you mentioned, it is entirely reasonable to want to avoid discussing those sensitive topics. Usually, they should at least offer you the option of whether you want to participate in that sort of discussion or not, but at least you weren't made to.
Now, about the argument, by the sounds of it, neither E nor K sound like friends to you. E sounds based on that, like a bully, and quite frankly, a scummy human being. Only the lowest of the low tells another person to do that to themselves. And from the sounds of it, K doesn't sound like a friend either. A friend wouldn't ignore you, or have anything to do with somebody who told you to do that to yourself. Neither of them sound like good people. Maybe the situation with E and K is more complicated, but nothing can justify E telling you to do that to yourself, and K for staying friends with somebody who said that to you. Complicated or not, that's a pair of nasty people no matter how you look at it. The stuff about her being bitchy as usual, muttering stuff under her breath, and ignoring your existence, that sort of stuff is to be expected by that sort of person, and K, i assume, is guilty by association. What i will say is don't expect anything good from either of them, neither support, or proper friendship. It's good that your speaking to your one decent teacher to make new friendships instead of those, because quite honestly, friendships shouldn't be that toxic, and shouldn't leave you feeling worse.
And about the login situation, It sounds like a incredibly anxiety inducing thing. Worrying what had gone wrong, and that's only going to have been made worse by your unhelpful teacher. I can understand how it must have got you close to crying. I wish i had some advice for such extremely stressful situations but i don't really have any.
So, one of things that helped me with fear of speaking to lecturers, and certain ones was instead of going to teachers and lecturer's in person, i would email them, and converse over email when i could. That way, i could sit at home, write up what i needed to get across, think everything through properly, without being on the spot having to think of it, and got major issues resolved that way.
But, i wouldn't say your situation is "fucked". I completely understand how being alone might be scary, but being alone is better than being in bad company who might abandon you again. Your form tutor might be able to help you with introductions to new friends, so there is always that. Hope isn't lost.