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temporary, super unofficial, community support thread (for those looking for support after GC's)
DonnerKebab
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So, with no support chats this week, just wanted to make this short thread, where you can post about what you typically would, and get community support. If you aren't sure how to start a thread, or just want to chat support thread style. We're here.
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But I will try help where I can.
We care about you!
@Animalloverb Your plenty of support and plenty reliable mate. You should give yourself some more credit. And i want to let you know that you can get support on here as well mate. We all care about you too.
And thank you, at the moment I feel off my game ha, I'm usually so much more helpful to be honest.
@Animalloverb Your doing amazing in an impossibly difficult situation. That you're still taking the time to support others truly does speak about how good of a person you are.
I can't let my situation affect helping others you know, it's just the way I raised myself.
I'm doing good though, I mean I am doing as good as I can given the situation. It's scary and hard but I'm coping. Just like to hop on and chat and support people when I can.
@Animalloverb As i said, It really is amazing. And you really do make a huge impact on others with the support you give them, so thank you.
Your doing great too!
@Seb loneliness really does suck. I spent the first 23 years of my life, without making a single friend, completely isolated. It was only on here that i made my first friends a few months back. So i really do understand how much the loneliness hurts and the toll it can have, but even though we're only on here over the internet, we're here for you mate, to chat about anything you want.
It must feel scary feeling that way, but mate there is always a point to be here.
Each of us here care so deeply about you. If you feel comfortable sharing more I am happy to listen. Say as much as you want to.
I see you as human mate. Its hard connecting with people,some people just don't understand us and that's their problem it's not your fault.
I'm here for you mate. I may not reply as quick as you would like right now as something has come up, but I promise I will keep responding to you as soon as I can.
@Seb this is different for everybody, but when i went through that utter hell, for years it was just emotional numbness. Not feeling like anybody else, just, numb. And at the worst i ever felt, i couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. Just numbness.
But i want to clarify this point. It did get a bit better. Not overnight, but slowly, over time. There is always the chance things get better mate, and it's about holding on through that hell, until things get better. That is the point i think. Finding the smallest, most fleeting moments that put a smile on your face, and holding onto them for dear life, until those brighter times.
@Seb This feeling different. Feeling, unhuman. I really do relate to it at points. And the struggle to connect with others, i think that's very much a universal thing, but i can understand why it would be more challenging given that feeling.
What i will say mate, is that even when things feel impossible and hopeless with making connections, it's never impossible. It may take a while of trial and error, but you will get there bit by bit mate. As i mentioned, i didn't make my first friends till 23. It's a thing that people get wrong a lot of the time, make mistakes here and there, and is something that can be worked on. Connecting might be difficult, but with the right support and practice, i think it is something that is possibly doable.
@Seb that's a reasonable thing to do. Whatever gives you a moment of escape, or brief moment of happiness, however fleeting, hold onto that. Let it be like an anchor, holding you through a storm, until the storm passes. Existing is hard, but hold onto hope that one day, it becomes easier. Struggling to make connections, making mistakes in friendships, it's something that happens. But that doesn't mean it's impossible to make connections. It just means it might take some trial and error.
@Cutelivejazz that sounds like a really rough spot to be in. GCSE's are tricky, and Sixth form is going to be another tricky one. But here's the thing. You've already made it through your GCSE's, which means you've already overcome one major challenge. Think of it like this. For each challenge you overcome, it makes you stronger for the next one. Yes, it's exhausting and draining, and yes, it is going to be another battle. But you will make it through it. What's important is making sure that you look after your wellbeing through it all and that means taking steps to avoid burnout. I tried to ignore it when i was in college and it led to a mental breakdown (there was a decade of brutal stuff that contributed admittedly). So from time to time, take a break from things, and try to avoid letting things pile up. It's also worth looking at what wellbeing support your sixth form might provide for you. And also, take some time to look at what you've achieved, and be proud of it, and of yourself. You've done amazingly pushing through all the hardship to accomplish what you have.
And about the emotional numbness, for me, i suppose it was a protection mechanism. I had some rather dark stuff happen to me over the years, and each year was more struggles, so i started becoming numb to it. And that allowed me to survive day by day. I fully understand how you mean about it being a small comfort. Keeping yourself busy is really good advice too.
@Cutelivejazz no no no no. Not at all. You are in no way a burden Jazz. And you have nothing to be sorry about. This is a place to get support (just had to run out for a short while), and you 100% deserve support.
So, about the drowning feeling and your chest and stomach feeling that way, can you breathe properly right now? Just have to check. Sorry if it sounds like a silly question.