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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 11.08

LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 286 The Mix Regular
edited August 11 in Health & Wellbeing
This is a space to chat or vent about whatever might be on your mind right now, nothing is too big or small!

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  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 1,233 Wise Owl
    Hey @River and @Redemption - I saw you mentioned on the other thread before we closed it that you were both struggling a little.

    How are you both feeling today? We're here if you want to chat!
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,888 The Mix Elder
    edited August 11
    @Katie im not okay 🥺 saw a picture of my ex kissing another girl and being all nice with her and it made me feel sad because all i got was name calling :( he would call me a bastard and a twat and stuff :(
    ✨ ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝒶𝓋ℯ. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝓊𝒾𝓈ℯ𝒹. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝓌𝒽ℴ 𝒾𝓂 𝓂ℯ𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉ℴ 𝒷ℯ ✨

    ✨ 𝒯ℋℐ𝒮 ℐ𝒮 ℳℰ ✨
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 11
    Katie wrote: »
    Hey @Redemption - I saw you mentioned on the other thread before we closed it that you were both struggling a little.

    How are you both feeling today? We're here if you want to chat!

    @Katie Im a bit better thanks, I slept better, just want to get into work soon because I get super bored and lonely during the days etc. We have our day time chat here which is great, that will help.
  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 1,233 Wise Owl
    Oh that's awful @River I'm sorry you saw that! You also didn't deserve the name calling either but this is a reflection of him not you! How did you come across the picture if you feel comfy sharing?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,888 The Mix Elder
    @Katie my friend sent it me and then I started looking at this girls account who he cheated on me with and saw pictures and videos :(
    ✨ ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝒶𝓋ℯ. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝓊𝒾𝓈ℯ𝒹. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝓌𝒽ℴ 𝒾𝓂 𝓂ℯ𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉ℴ 𝒷ℯ ✨

    ✨ 𝒯ℋℐ𝒮 ℐ𝒮 ℳℰ ✨
  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 1,233 Wise Owl
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Katie Im a bit better thanks, I slept better, just want to get into work soon because I get super bored and lonely during the days etc. We have our day time chat here which is great, that will help.
    Glad to hear you're feeling better and have been sleeping better too @Redemption ! A better sleep can make a huge difference on how we're feeling. Do you have any more interviews or workshops lined up? You're working so hard to try and find a job so please know this doesn't go unnoticed!
  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 1,233 Wise Owl
    Him cheating on you doesn't define who you are @River and I know it's easier said than done but try and not compare yourself to her. You're dealing with both a break up and a betrayal right now and it's important you're kind with yourself. In a way you're grieving this relationship and you deserve proper care.

    I wonder how you'd feel asking your friend not to show you anything to do with them? Being able to see what they're up to probably won't make you feel any better and could hurt you more River. It's okay to put boundaries in place and protect yourself.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    Katie wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Katie Im a bit better thanks, I slept better, just want to get into work soon because I get super bored and lonely during the days etc. We have our day time chat here which is great, that will help.
    Glad to hear you're feeling better and have been sleeping better too @Redemption ! A better sleep can make a huge difference on how we're feeling. Do you have any more interviews or workshops lined up? You're working so hard to try and find a job so please know this doesn't go unnoticed!

    @Katie thank you, I have practice job interviews tomorrow , like an interview work shop in the morning then in the afternoon something in city centre with interviews again. Im glad what Im doing isn't unnoticed, I feel off line maybe it is unnoticed though so Im just so glad I have here.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,898 Supreme Poster
    Need to pull myself out of this unmotivated headspace, it’s nearly 12 and I’ve only just got ready and gonna take the dog out but idk if I’m just tired (possible but I did sleep better last night) or if it’s just a shitty start to the day. Wonderful adulty life stuff is worrying me so here I am I guess.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 1,233 Wise Owl
    edited August 11
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Katie thank you, I have practice job interviews tomorrow , like an interview work shop in the morning then in the afternoon something in city centre with interviews again. Im glad what Im doing isn't unnoticed, I feel off line maybe it is unnoticed though so Im just so glad I have here.
    How are you feeling about the practice job interviews @Redemption If I recall this isn't your first one right? Have you been finding them helpful?

    When you say you feel like offline it's unnoticed that sounds really tricky when you're putting in all of this hard work to go to different interview workshops and improve your skills. Have you been able to speak to people offline about it?
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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 11
    Katie wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Katie thank you, I have practice job interviews tomorrow , like an interview work shop in the morning then in the afternoon something in city centre with interviews again. Im glad what Im doing isn't unnoticed, I feel off line maybe it is unnoticed though so Im just so glad I have here.
    How are you feeling about the practice job interviews @Redemption If I recall this isn't your first one right? Have you been finding them helpful?

    When you say you feel like offline it's unnoticed that sounds really tricky when you're putting in all of this hard work to go to different interview workshops and improve your skills. Have you been able to speak to people offline about it?

    @Katie Im feeling ok about them, they probably will be helpful. I have done them before a few times, it just takes practice. I find interviews hard so practicing will make perfect.
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  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 1,233 Wise Owl
    edited August 11
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Katie Im feeling ok about them, they probably will be helpful. I have done them before a few times, it just takes practice. I find interviews hard so practicing will make perfect.
    Ah I get you @Redemption and only ever share what you feel comfortable sharing! I can edit our comments if you like?

    Are you finding with each interview you're getting a little better? You're right that practice makes perfect and you're doing really well to try stay motivated and you keep picking yourself back up.

    Do you feel comfortable sharing what life is like for you offline other than these interviews?
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 11
    Katie wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Katie Im feeling ok about them, they probably will be helpful. I have done them before a few times, it just takes practice. I find interviews hard so practicing will make perfect.
    Ah I get you @Redemption and only ever share what you feel comfortable sharing! I can edit our comments if you like?

    Are you finding with each interview you're getting a little better? You're right that practice makes perfect and you're doing really well to try stay motivated and you keep picking yourself back up.

    Do you feel comfortable sharing what life is like for you offline other than these interviews?

    @Katie yes please that will be great. Maybe like I know what to expect more and that eye contact is important but still find them hard, ive not done too much. It's tough, like now I'm feeling lonely, things are a bit hectic at home as we speak and I feel not the best about myself. I need a shower and want to go for a drive. I feel guilty a bit about going for a drive because everyone else is working and Im out going for a drive but when I come back go on general chat so that will help with my loneliness and all this feelings. I just often want time to pass quickly so I can go on online services like here and seek support and feel listened to.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 11
    Im struggling a bit, I feel stuck a little, I have a couple of options but don't have a pathway
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 11
    Im feeling lonely after chat 😪
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    I can't sleep as usual
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    Im a failure
  • AnimalloverbAnimalloverb Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    Your not a failure @Redemption , it doesn't make you a failure that things are harder for you, not everyone can get into a job that easily. Your trying your best and doing what your capable of and most people don't do that as they just rush into things to be like everyone else, so actually your doing so well. Don't keep putting yourself down about it, I know it's hard but your trying your best and that's the most you could ever do for yourself.

    I'm here for you
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 12
    Animalloverb wrote: »
    Your not a failure @Redemption , it doesn't make you a failure that things are harder for you, not everyone can get into a job that easily. Your trying your best and doing what your capable of and most people don't do that as they just rush into things to be like everyone else, so actually your doing so well. Don't keep putting yourself down about it, I know it's hard but your trying your best and that's the most you could ever do for yourself.

    I'm here for you

    Thank you @Animalloverb that means a lot. I managed to eventually get some sleep but got to be up for this interview thing and tired for it. Got kinda a busy day, got an interview practice then come home for a bit then got to get the bus into city centre which isn't fun but gotta do it. Hope you slept ok
  • SebSeb Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    I’m bored. I’m going to my writing club today but it’s in a new place and I’m a bit nervous. I haven’t been in at least a month. Anyone wanna talk for a bit?
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    Seb wrote: »
    I’m bored. I’m going to my writing club today but it’s in a new place and I’m a bit nervous. I haven’t been in at least a month. Anyone wanna talk for a bit?

    I can talk for a bit @Seb I might be slow replying though
  • SebSeb Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    That’s okay. Me too lol
  • SebSeb Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    That’s okay @Redemption. Sorry I’m new so I’m still figuring out how this works lol
  • AnimalloverbAnimalloverb Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    @Redemption
    I'm so glad you managed to get some sleep, it can be really hard when you know you have something the next day that your feeling nervous for.
  • AnimalloverbAnimalloverb Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    @Seb
    It's okay to be nervous about your writing club being in a different place, but hopefully once you get there and settle in you may feel better. Its also scary going to places even if it's just going to a different setting for the club you go to.

  • SebSeb Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    @Animalloverb Yeah, I’m nervous but I’m gonna be so proud of myself for going. And then I’m going to the cinema tomorrow! I’m so excited!
  • AnimalloverbAnimalloverb Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    edited August 12
    @Seb That's brilliant to hear, its always good to be proud of yourself when doing something scary.

    Ooo, that sounds like a nice plan for tomorrow, what are going going to watch?
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    Seb wrote: »
    That’s okay @Redemption. Sorry I’m new so I’m still figuring out how this works lol

    @Seb no worries, a new site can definitely take getting used to. Hope you're ok today.
  • SebSeb Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    I’m pretty good today. I hope you’re doing good today. Good luck. I’m just finishing my lucky paper origami stars. I’ve got plans until Friday. I’ve just got to pick what film to go watch tomorrow. @Redemption
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,123 Part of The Furniture
    Animalloverb wrote: »
    @Redemption
    I'm so glad you managed to get some sleep, it can be really hard when you know you have something the next day that your feeling nervous for.

    @Animalloverb its not that I been nervous for things today, maybe just a bit but I struggle to sleep stressing about my situation, the heat, other things etc. It's hard
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