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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 28.07.25
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@eylah whichever bastard said that is truly a horrific human being. And whatever crap they say, it should mean nothing. If all a person does is say horrid stuff to try and bring others down, especially to someone as amazing and kind hearted as you, then that tells you everything you need to know about that person. Their opinions don't count, what they say shouldn't count, it's just cruelty for the sake of being cruel. Obviously there words will still hurt, but try and remember, what they are saying is just nastiness for the sake of being nasty, and you are right to call them horrible. And it's understandable those words causing you hurt.
Please try and remind yourself, you are an amazing person. kind, caring and supportive of others, and you deserve the same kindness back, not nasty things like what was said to you, friend.
aww @DonnerKebab thankyou so so much for this.
a bit of background behind this but basically there’s shit going on with my friendship group of girls and her friends etc and basically i was sticking up for my best friend bc im not letting her get put down by this girl etc so i wasn’t being nasty of nothing i was just saying it’s nasty of her to be putting my best friend down abt her looks etc and she didn’t like what i said and said ‘ you should just go kill yourself eylah noone would care’ so i just cried after that but im just not gonna let it affect me. thankyou nathan
@eylah you did an amazing thing sticking up for your friend against bullies. it's incredibly brave standing up for others. You should be proud of yourself for it. I'm proud of you, and i'm certain your best friend really appreciates what you did for her too. As i said, that girl by the sounds of it, is a bully. She was bullying your friend's looks (which is just cruel), and then bullied you for sticking up for her, so she's clearly the kind of person i described who only tries to bring people down with nastiness for the sake of it, and to say that sort of thing to somebody who was just sticking up for a friend just tells you everything you need to know about that person. She's a bully whose words shouldn't mean anything.
It's a lot easier said than done not letting those words effect you, because they would hurt anybody, especially someone who's struggling and has a really kind soul like you do. But please try and be proud of yourself for standing up for others, and for being the amazing person that you are. Sending a virtual hug your way, my favourite twat
And for the record, I would care. You've had such a positive impact on people with your kindness, your support for them and you're general awesomeness, and we all would be devastated if we ever lost you friend.
ill reply in a min sry just eating my maccies. thankyou for replying again.
@eylah you don't have to apologise, and you don't need to reply at all. I just wanted to let you know all of this friend. And don't worry about me, I'm surviving at the minute
shes continuing to be a nasty nasty person. 😂 im not afraid of her, she lied abt it before so she probably wont. she’s pissing me off bc i don’t deserve to be told to kill myself when im going through enough shit rn and she just needs to leave me alone.
thankyou so much for being so kind ti me you’re the best.
i know things are rly difficult for you rn but i don’t want to pressure you into sharing stuff if you don’t want to. but i just wanted to say always know im a @ away. you’re deserving of support and to be listened to and that im always gonna be here for you. after all you’re my favourite twat and you mean everything to me. keep going
Part of me is dying and doesnt want to be here
Part of me want to crawl under a rock and die
Part of me wants to run away I cant be dealing with going home,
I dont want to go home, do I have to go home?
Me and mum will not be getting on
Yet again ive fucked something up
Im a fuckup and a screw up
@eylah Please Please please ignore that comment I'm begging you. We are here for you you're an incredible person and definitely so so so incredibly amazing.
its okay. im just tired from ppl saying such horrible things to me. but im trying to stop thinking abt it tbh
@eylah You deserve incredible people in your life, its disgusting and cruel them telling you to do that. I really do understand its hard to ignore ❤️ but you're definitely an amazing incredible person ❤️
I hope you're doing better now @Lottie5433 we are all here for you ❤️
hey @Lottie5433 . how are you doing today? are you feeling safe in yourself today? is there anything you can do to help your mind? we’re here for you you’re not alone.
thankyou @AnonymousToe means a lot to me. sending hugs 🫂
Hi @eylah um not foing great today but yeah. Not 100% feeling safe but thats fine too. Nothing i can do today just got to make it through till I have to go to work at 3pm.
Last night wasn't great but this morning was worse. Things cant get better though
Hi @Redemption thank you, im not doing any better but its fine
im sry to hear things are so bad atm lottie i rly am sry you deserve to be happy and to live a happy life and to feel safe. is there anything that might help you feel a little bit safer today? will work be a safe space for you? im here for you lottie.
Im not sure eylah, work might be safe: definitely safer than being at home. Thank you ❤️
sry for all the questions @Lottie5433 . i just want you to feel heard and listened to. hugs if ok
I wonder how often you have contact with that person? What do you feel you'd ideally like to happen next in the situation?
I'm so glad that you're able to talk about this here, and we're all here for you.
Would it feel helpful to talk a bit about what's gone on with your mum and what this argument was about?
I hear you saying you're not quite safe, and we care a lot about your safety. I appreciate we're in contact via DM, so will keep messaging via there to check in.
While I appreciate it might not provide any total solutions, I wanted to share here a few different ideas of things you could lean on today if you're feeling angry and need a release -
Open your Notes app or grab some paper and just let rip! Swear, shout (in writing), don’t hold back. This space is just for you.
Go for a power walk or put on a loud playlist and move your body. This can help you to release the tension and anger.
Rip or crumple up paper, scream into a pillow, or squeeze a stress ball or ice cube to get some of that tension out.
Record a voice note of yourself venting. You don’t have to send it to anyone. Just say exactly what you need to say.
Get curious about what's underneath this anger? Are you feeling a bit hurt? Embarrassed? Overlooked? What are the needs underlying the anger? Do you just want to feel heard? Craving a bit more control? Naming these things (even just to yourself) can help.
Or feeling guilty / self-critical and need comfort -
Regardless of what has happened, you are a human being who is worthy of support and understanding. This is your first time on Planet Earth too! If you’re struggling with self-blame, you could try:
Tearing paper, holding ice, or gently throwing a pillow to release tension
Looking at a photo of younger-you: what do they need to hear right now?
Searching “5 min self-compassion meditation” on YouTube and give your brain a break
Open your Notes app on your phone and imagine you're writing a kind reply to a friend whose just texted you saying, "I'm so mad at myself right now". What supportive and kind words would you say to them?
Reach out on the Discussion Boards, or text someone who gets it
Check out SHOUT’s self-help resources - https://giveusashout.org/get-help/resources/
We're here for you, Lottie. We see just how hard this week has been, and we really want to listen and be here alongside you. You don't have to get through today alone.
hey @Sian321 nice to hear from you as always.
The argument:
*context* ~ i finish work at 9pm and my boyfriend (Z) finishes at 8pm. Yesterday he was mentally struggling as he got his hopes up about stuff happening at work and it fell through. He said he failed and that hes lost half his family because of this (that is not the case it was for other reasons) . He was mentally breaking down and started saying things like he shouldn't be here and doesnt deserve to be here etc.
Anyways so at about 7pm I messaged my mum to say ill ring her when I finish work so she could get my dog ready so I can take him out when I got home. From about 8:20pm Z was snapping me saying hes a failure because of this. He had started drinking as well to cope and was going to drive home. So I messaged my mum saying im still at work as i was helping Z out as he was struggling, this was at 9:40ish. Then at about 10.10 I messaged to say that Z asked if id stay at his as he didnt want to be alone and I wanted to be there for him. Then I get a call from my mum, moaning - saying she isn't happy and not very calm, there is no point in coming home to walk the dog just go straight to Z house, she said we'd talk in the morning when shes calmer as she might say something that will upset me or Z. Theb told me she will see me at home at 8am or there abouts at Z starts at about 8am.
02/98/2025 - Saturday (still happening)
So it drove Z to work, we got there at about 8:15am my mum then phoned me asking if I knew the time as she said i need to be home at 8am. I said I was leaving now, said id better be home at 8:30 thrn hung up on me. When i got home she told me I better have a good excuse for it all. Basically made out I concocted this master plan that I was always going to stay round his, she told me Im neglecting my responsibilities (hardly already walked my dog twice before work). She told me im inconsiderate of others feelings and dont care. She asked what Z was struggling with that made him breakdown and need me (didnt think it was my place 5o say he was feeling suicidal) she instead told me he should see a therapist because ive got my own mental health issues. She said have I not put then through enough in the last 2 years.
Like all this just made me get inside my head i ended up self harming, crying and begining to set my plan in stone. To a point where ive lied to Z and told him ive not hurt myself and that im fine only because I dont want him to worry about me. Ive gone to work now with my plan.
I dont want to go back home
Part of me wants to just go home, pack a bag and just live in my car and run away. The job im in allows me to go to sister companies so I can just so that as I wouldn't stay here as my sister works there too.
i know you said you have to do this alone but we’re here for you lottie. you don’t have to manage this all alone. you’re deserving support and kindness and im sry you’re having to go through this. is there anything you can do after work to keep yourself safe ?