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Personal trainer

nemnem Posts: 460 Listening Ear
edited August 2025 in Health & Wellbeing
He is giving me Anxiety!! Like leave me alone!!!
Post edited by Sian321 on

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  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,561 An Original Mixlorian
    im sry hes given you anxiety but its ok to msg him back and say you dont want to talk rn. how are you doing @nem ?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • nemnem Posts: 460 Listening Ear
    Okay.
    Can I just not reply
    I hate replying to people so much
  • nemnem Posts: 460 Listening Ear
    I’m waiting for an appointment I hate how my life is just all about appointments that don’t actually go anywhere
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,561 An Original Mixlorian
    nem wrote: »
    Okay.
    Can I just not reply
    I hate replying to people so much

    if you’re not comfortable in replying to this person then that is okay! you shouldn’t have to reply if you’re not wanting to. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • nemnem Posts: 460 Listening Ear
    was it rude/ do I need to say something ? Going to the gym is perpetuating / maintaining / reinforcing my eating disorder and causing me stress and anxiety

    It’s my personal trainer


    I really don’t enjoy the sessions at all in any way at all
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Community Connector Posts: 1,143 Wise Owl
    Does your trainer know about your eating disorder? It might be something to bring up to him as he might be able to support you in away that doesnt reinforce the eating disorder..
    If you are not enjoying the sessions it is something to also bring up as well

    Hope your okay
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,818 Boards Guru
    If it’s making you feel worse, then don’t go. Tell him you need a break or want to stop or something. You don’t have to say why, or you could make something up.
  • nemnem Posts: 460 Listening Ear
    It’s had cus I overshared so much with him it makes me really anxious

    At this point I feel like he’s only making the eating disorder worse

    The focus on body
    And I gained fat which is destroying me a bit
    He’s a bit of a no pain no gain kind of guy
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,654 Community Veteran
    @nem , thank you for sharing this, and it sounds like you're feeling that your personal training sessions have been leaving you feeling worse about yourself, and very anxious in the lead-up too.

    As your peers have shared above, it is valid if you do not wish to reply to him or do not wish to continuing having sessions together, and you deserve to be able to do what feels best and safety for you here for your own wellbeing.

    I hear that coping with changes to your body has been distressing for you, and you're being really brave to share about this. Organizations such as BEAT may be able to offer you some further help in this area: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/, as well as the App Worth Warrior - https://worthwarrior.stem4.org.uk/, which supports with body-image struggles and low self-esteem.
    I have edited out your screenshot above as I see you've included your instructors name. Please note that The Mix Discussion Boards is a public website, therefore, anyone on the internet can read all that is posted here, and we realize that people might not have consented to having their text-messages shared.
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