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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 28.07.25

LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 298 The Mix Regular
edited August 4 in Health & Wellbeing
This is a space to chat or vent about things which you think may be more triggering for the Community but still want to get off your chest.

Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's venting thread that isn't triggering, click here.
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  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,968 Legendary Poster
    got my mate telling me she’s gonna do something. im so fucking tired. selfish as that sounds but im trying my fucking best but it’s never enough. another sleepless night. :/
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,902 The Mix Elder
    @eylah we are here for you

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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,202 Part of The Furniture
    I got overwhelmed yesterday and think I drank because of it
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,968 Legendary Poster
    River wrote: »
    @eylah we are here for you

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    aww. thankyou @River . <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,830 Extreme Poster
    tw heart attack and health anxiety
    Mum had a heart attack this afternoon, i called 999, got her an ambulance, and i'm unsure about what her current state is, and my health anxiety has come back this last week, though it's been steadily building up for the last 6 months. A bugger of a day.
  • nemnem Posts: 355 Listening Ear
    Man who bit my lip I’m obsessed with him I think I see him everywhere I go
  • nemnem Posts: 355 Listening Ear
    I do loads of drawings about him and constantly listen to the music from his tinder and think about him and how we did it and what he said to me
  • nemnem Posts: 355 Listening Ear
    edited August 1


    TW: Violence
    He choked me a lot
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  • nemnem Posts: 355 Listening Ear
    edited July 30

    Image deleted and YP has been DMd
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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,202 Part of The Furniture
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    tw heart attack and health anxiety
    Mum had a heart attack this afternoon, i called 999, got her an ambulance, and i'm unsure about what her current state is, and my health anxiety has come back this last week, though it's been steadily building up for the last 6 months. A bugger of a day.

    @DonnerKebab I hope shes ok bro ❤️
  • nemnem Posts: 355 Listening Ear
    Dating makes me wanna die like it triggers me and I’m so scared ?
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,915 Supreme Poster
    @DonnerKebab oh my goodness, I hope your mum is ok. Please take care and try to look after yourself. It’s worrying, and health anxiety on top of that makes it 10 times worse.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,202 Part of The Furniture
    nem wrote: »
    Dating makes me wanna die like it triggers me and I’m so scared ?

    Are you safe @nem ?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,968 Legendary Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    tw heart attack and health anxiety
    Mum had a heart attack this afternoon, i called 999, got her an ambulance, and i'm unsure about what her current state is, and my health anxiety has come back this last week, though it's been steadily building up for the last 6 months. A bugger of a day.

    oh my goodness im so sry. im sending you all my love strength and hugs. <3 i hope shes ok and i rly hope you can look after yourself? <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,968 Legendary Poster
    nem wrote: »
    Dating makes me wanna die like it triggers me and I’m so scared ?

    are you safe rn @nem ??
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,202 Part of The Furniture
    Ive been drinking again today
  • Invisible_meInvisible_me Posts: 507 Incredible Poster
    @DonnerKebab I hope your mum is okay! Thats hard to be goung through and its understandable your feeling what you are. Health anxuryy will. Only add to this. I hop she getting the support she needs at hospital she's in the best place and you did the right thing.
    Be gentle with yourself. 🩵
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,968 Legendary Poster
    @DonnerKebab hru? im sending you hugs 🫂 <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,430 Part of The Furniture
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    tw heart attack and health anxiety
    Mum had a heart attack this afternoon, i called 999, got her an ambulance, and i'm unsure about what her current state is, and my health anxiety has come back this last week, though it's been steadily building up for the last 6 months. A bugger of a day.

    Oh gosh I hope she is doing okay right now and is receiving the best care that she can get. That sounds tough for you right now. <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,202 Part of The Furniture
    I've been drinking last night drank every night since Monday I need to stop
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Community Connector Posts: 910 Part of The Mix Family
    Trying not to cry whilst everyone is asleep right now. But ive fucked everything up, i cant seem to do anything right anymore
    I cant be bothered with living a life i keep screwing up in one way or another. I feel so done with everything now
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,478 Boards Champion
    @Lottie5433 , thank you for your post. It sounds like last night might have felt extremely hard, and I hear just how loud that self-blame was. Would it feel helpful to chat us through what happened? We're here to listen to you without any judgement. In what ways did you feel you'd 'fucked up'?

    I hear that it feels like you can't get anything right, and at the same time, it sounds to me like you have a huge amount of care for those around you - and in fact, you're trying really, really hard. And this is your first time on Planet Earth too! You're trying your very best, and it sounds exhausting to have to keep feeling like you've screwed up.
    I cant be bothered with living a life i keep screwing up in one way or another. I feel so done with everything now

    Can I ask if you feel physically safe right now, and if so, can you share with us how you're keeping safe?
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,478 Boards Champion
    @nem
    Dating makes me wanna die like it triggers me and I’m so scared ?

    Hey @nem , thank you for sharing this, and it sounds like dating had felt really deeply distressing for you at times. That is valid, and dating can bring up so much for us in terms of old wounds or fears. Can I ask, are you feeling physically able to keep yourself safe right now, and if so, can you also please let us know how you are able to do this?

    When you feel triggered by dating, what does this typically look like?

    I wonder how you've been looking after yourself through the dating process too, and whether you'd feel able to take a pause if dating was having a negative impact on your mental health? You deserve to take things at your own pace, and most certainly, to feel safe every single step of the way.

    We're here to listen and explore this with you.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,478 Boards Champion
    @Redemption , it sounds like you've noticed yourself drinking more recently, and you're wanting to cut back. What do you think is driving that wish to drink more right now?

    We're here to listen without any judgement!
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Community Connector Posts: 910 Part of The Mix Family
    Hi @Sian321, I dont see a point in talking anything through its not going to change how my mind is perceiving the situation.
    I fucked up because i caused my boyfriend to overthink and sit with his thoughts which he nearly cried with and then I made him think he made me uncomfortable which he didnt which made him overthink more. Then just work is so messed up right now and I cant do that anymore. Had a kooth counselling session and they are going to contact CEDT to see what support they can put in place etc.

    I've just been sat since early hours of this morning crying and thinking. Making plans, hurting myself just anything to take the mental pain away.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,478 Boards Champion
    @DonnerKebab , sounds like it has been an extremely difficult time too, and so frightening to see your mum go through that. It is valid that this has flared your own health anxiety. How are you feeling today? And how is she doing?

    Keep us posted if you wish to, and we're all here for you. Take so much care.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,478 Boards Champion
    @Lottie5433 , I hear you, and that sounds incredibly overwhelming. I hear just how much you desperately don't want your boyfriend to overthink or to be upset. I hear your care, and it can be so tough in close relationships sometimes when our actions impact the other person without us ever intending to.

    The staff team will be dropping you a DM to check in further.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,202 Part of The Furniture
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @Redemption , it sounds like you've noticed yourself drinking more recently, and you're wanting to cut back. What do you think is driving that wish to drink more right now?

    We're here to listen without any judgement!

    @Sian321 thanks for replying to this, I've been doing it because I was overwhelmed, I did it a few times this week when I usually wouldn't, I guess kind of border too.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,968 Legendary Poster
    being told to kill myself hurts.. noone understands how much im suffering then being told to kill myself rly rly hurts. that person is rly horrible to say such a disgusting thing to me. :/

    * im safe im just angry *
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
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