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hugs!! so glad! have you got it plastered?
@eylah Yeah. They did an x-ray, saw it was a clean fracture, and had to realign it because it was a bit out, and then they plastered it all. I've got to go and get it checked on every now and then, until it's healed up, so that sucks, but the pain relief helps a lot 😂.
Even got called an idiot by the A&E doctor for leaving it for a few days though, which i think we can all agree on. I've done some impressively stupid things, but hopping around for a whole day with an unchecked broken leg takes the crown 😂😂😂.
And how are you doing my favourite twat?
im so glad you got it looked at bc it 100% sounded like you fractured it even without being a professional. im okay im very hot today and feeling unwell. hugs 🫂
@Redemption Sure thing Bro. Got my leg sorted today so i'm mostly out of pain now. How's things been for you.
@DonnerKebab glad you got your leg sorted that's great you're mostly out of pain. Been ok, just overwhemed and irratable like I had to leave te chat abruptly because I had to drive back from giving my cousin a lift from football, I shouldn't have to miss chat time for that and i wanted to send Iram some links to a YouTuber we both watch, I hate when I have to do that finish early when im chatting someone especially as by the time I got home chat was finished.
@Redemption it sucks having to leave early, especially when your enjoying it. But you'll see Iram in a different support chat and can tell her then, and hopefully it's not a regular issue of you having to drive him there.
@DonnerKebab definitely sucks, I guess stuff like this happens in life from time to time. Hahaha I think Iram is female 🤣 bro but the point still stands, I should see them next week and show the links then, maybe in general. It's not a regular issue, I'm trying to encourage if 1 of the guys from the group could give a lift, it won't get a regular issue like I'm a bit fed up with it all ready after 1 week, I used to have to do it a few times and I had to have a chat to family like we need to sort something out here, only have to do it now as family are on holiday for a couple of weeks, I dont really want to do it for them weeks tbh, I hope i don't sound tight or anything but I feel like I need to be assertive a bit too. That's definitely something I need to improve on, its something that has improved but still could do with improving more like my self esteem and getting into work it will happen its just been a bit of a long road. Got my meeting on Friday regarding my next steps what that organisation can do to help me, maybe make a plan, like they said they aren't there to hold my hand but can help to aj extent so got my meeting which I'm pretty nervous for, should be ok though. I'll get to where I want to be and so will you. Sorry this is long mate.
@Redemption you're not sounding tight at all mate. Everybody has there boundaries and you don't want this sort of thing becoming the norm. And yeah, self esteem is important. it'll be a long road, but at least your on it to getting where you want bro. Good luck with your meeting on friday. And don't apologise for it being long, i don't care if it's a whole novel worth, or a few lines, you deserve to have a place to vent and somebody to vent to.
@River typical of the Samaritans nowadays. I'm guessing they were rude and offered useless advice?
yes. but to others too.
Thanks so much @DonnerKebab hopefully things get better for both of us, can I ask how your self-esteem is atm? Really appreciate you bro.
@Redemption if i'm honest, it doesn't really exist to much. I have very little self worth, very little self esteem and view myself in a pretty bad light, and have since I was 4. I'm working on it, and have moments of confidence and good self worth and esteem, but 90% of the time, I see myself as nothing. These last few months I've improved a fair bit though, made friends for the first time, and am getting there slowly. It's just about holding on and treasuring those moments where I feel like I'm worth something, and gradually working towards feeling that way all the time.
It's not a sprint, it's a marathon to build up self esteem.
@River Day 2 of letting you know how awesome of a friend you are, and how cared about you are here. You matter, you're feelings matter, and screw the world for letting you down so much in the past. You don't have to worry about being let down here friend. We're all here for you.
@River bin laden doesn't want me here either. Fuck their opinions. They are little people who are so bitter and uncaring, that they shouldn't be given a minute of your time or thought. All that matters is your feelings and the fact that you deserve kindness and friendship and support. Don't let the cruel people of this world bring down the kind amazing person you are. There's every point, because every moment is another chance for you to have a few minutes of happiness here and there. Even if it's a fleeting moment of happiness. And the hope that things get better in future. These are reasons to keep going on
Samaritans say I can end my life since I’m 18 and can make my own decisions
Shout tell me to have a cup of tea to fix my insomnia 🙁
Calm tell me can’t speak to them if don’t have an active plan
KellysHeroes agree that I’m an attention seeker
I give up!!!
@DonnerKebab that sucks, I'm so so sorry to hear that, its something hard having low self-esteem like I think its like for me now, I don't know how to be confident, like I haven't got a job, not many achievements I feel are good enough etc and I have moments where my confidence is good but similar to you most of the time I feel inferior. Mines improved and maybe is slowly, a lot due to this community, the support I've had, progress being recognised, being reminded of any progress I've made or make, hearing "I'm proud of you". I agree fully its a marathon building self-esteem, even harder when you don't have a job its like a battle, the biggest boost for self esteem is feel will definitely be an ideal job, having a routine, purpose, working towards goals, earning, we'll both do that and our self-esteem will improve for both of us
@River I know it seems hopeless, and this encounter with Samaritans has felt like another guarantee that help isn't out there, but there is. Even people who have been through countless helplines and been given similar crap from them have found on rare occasions helpline workers who actually care about helping. They are rare, they are hard to come across, but 1 in every hundred helpline workers actually care and want to help you the best they can. How you've been treated by so many helpline workers has been abysmal and unfair. You deserve a lot better than these River, i can promise you that. You aren't alone in suffering from horrid helpline workers, nor alone in wanting to give up seeking help. I've seen so many people on here going through the same. Not as extreme as what Samaritans did, but calling people attention seekers, being rude, being nasty for no good reason. It's sadly common from many helplines. Btw, it goes without saying that your not an attention seeker, in the same way cups of tea's do not magically solve insomnia. It's all bullshit what there saying.
I know it's no consolation, and i'm not a helpline, and have all the personality of a dodo that's been deep fried at KFC and stuck in a 6 piece bargain bucket, but if you ever want a friend to talk to about things, i'm always here (except when my brothers having a meltdown). You're never alone friend.
@Redemption i can't sleep until my brother goes to sleep just in case he has violent headbanging meltdown and I have to respond quickly. Not that I can respond as quickly as usual with a broken fricking leg 😂
@River that's textbook insomnia. The need to sleep, but not being able to no matter how much you need it and try. Trust me, try talking to your local pharmacist, if they are crap, go to a different one, and they'll give you a variety of options for dealing with sleep issues. They are trained medical professionals. Though i say all this cause i've got good pharmacists myself. But they might be able to help you find options you hadn't thought of before, as your doctor doesn't seem to be offering any.
And i know it's not the same, but i'm exhausted right now too, but can't sleep till my brother does. It sucks needing to sleep but not being able to don't it?
On the plus side I contacted the book people so I figured out the stuff with that so that is good
@River awesome stuff. At least somethings going well, right?
My legs started hurting again though 😂