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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @toffuna101 good morning. How are you?
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,245 Boards Champion
    that shift was not a vibe, and i also found out i think a situation is starting back up again which i can’t be bothered with - im gonna say about it to management and if they don’t wanna take it seriously then its cool, i can hand my notice in as i ain’t working somewhere that makes me feel unsafe i dont care
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @shannon_164 if you ever feel unsafe, then go. I know it's hard circumstances right now, but your safety is paramount. And you don't want to work for people who let you feel unsafe, despite knowing, because that's a lack of care from them. Sorry to hear about your crappy shift. Did you manage to make your doctors appointment if you don't mind me asking?
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,245 Boards Champion
    @DonnerKebab ive had a few jobs in the airport now and this first happened at my first job, i brought it up to management and was told “when something happens we’ll look into it” so i don’t wanna have that experience again:/

    i’m at the doctors now waiting for my appointment and im literally shaking because i feel so anxious rn ugh i hate me
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @shannon_164 i don't because your awesome
    ugh i hate me

    Glad to hear you made it. The doctors is always an anxious place to be. But you made it through your shift, and made it on time. The hard parts are mostly over now.

    It sucks to hear that you've been through this situation before where it wasn't taken seriously. That's shitty management. And it seems like they just want to dismiss it until it happens rather than taking action to prevent it happening. Definitely leave if they don't take it seriously this time, because every decent employer who cares about there employees wellbeing step in and prevent it in the first place.
    You deserve a lot better than this Shannon.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,769 Boards Guru
    @toffuna101 good morning. How are you?

    im ok you? @DonnerKebab
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @toffuna101 i'm doing fine thanks
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,769 Boards Guru
    @DonnerKebab its good to hear that youre doing alright today. today i have a camhs appointment and im going out with my carer. i hope my carer comes at 11:30am sharp as the drive to the town that we're going to is around 15 minutes. and my camhs appointment is at 12pm.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab its good to hear that youre doing alright today. today i have a camhs appointment and im going out with my carer. i hope my carer comes at 11:30am sharp as the drive to the town that we're going to is around 15 minutes. and my camhs appointment is at 12pm.

    @toffuna101 how are you feeling about that appointment?
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,245 Boards Champion
    thank you @DonnerKebab i appreciate it <3

    it’s just frustrating because of what the situation actually is - i don’t wanna trigger anybody tho

    i hope the doctors are actually helpful today, and that they hurry up too haha my appointment was meant to be 20 mins ago now, which i wouldn’t mind too much if i hadn’t been at work this morning as i’ve literally been up from 1am on like 2 ish hours sleep so i am absolutely exhausted right now!!!
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,900 Master Poster
    hi
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,769 Boards Guru
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab its good to hear that youre doing alright today. today i have a camhs appointment and im going out with my carer. i hope my carer comes at 11:30am sharp as the drive to the town that we're going to is around 15 minutes. and my camhs appointment is at 12pm.

    @toffuna101 how are you feeling about that appointment?

    im feeling great about the appointment. the people at camhs are chill.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,769 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    hi

    hello @eylah how's life?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    Good morning, oh god, I missed a lot here. I think I needed the small break tho.

    Started this morning off not so great, I saw a horribly triggering post on another site with a story very similar to mine. But I went downstairs to make a coffee after and there was a little parcel on the table for me. I hadn't ordered anything so I had no idea what it was. It was a little thank you note and present from my team that I work with at the support group i look after, they'd sent them out to say thank you to us all! It was so amazing.

    @independent_ happy to see you got recognition for being so kind and caring to your support group team. You are an awesome person and truly do deserve it. Sorry to hear about the triggering post, but i'm happy your back after taking a well deserved break hopefully feeling a bit recharged.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    thank you @DonnerKebab i appreciate it <3

    it’s just frustrating because of what the situation actually is - i don’t wanna trigger anybody tho

    i hope the doctors are actually helpful today, and that they hurry up too haha my appointment was meant to be 20 mins ago now, which i wouldn’t mind too much if i hadn’t been at work this morning as i’ve literally been up from 1am on like 2 ish hours sleep so i am absolutely exhausted right now!!!

    @shannon_164 still looking out for other people, by trying to avoid triggering them. Kind as usual shannon. If you do want to vent and your worried about triggering people, i set up a seperate thread for venting about issues that are triggering and might trigger others, and put a tw on the whole thread. So you can post there if you feel comfortable. You deserve to vent as much as anybody else.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    eylah wrote: »
    hi

    @eylah hey eylah, how are you feeling today?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,158 Community Veteran
    Just woke up
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @toffuna101 glad to hear it. I hope you have a lovely meeting later with them.


    Everybody, got my first spam block . Right up there with the Victoria cross and George Cross in terms of achievements 🎖️
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    Just woke up

    @River morning river, are things any better for you now?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,158 Community Veteran
    There gone but still hearing whispers and people pacing @DonnerKebab
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,437 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab I saw earlier about stuff that has happened with you and all of that, I hope you are all OK. I'm so so sorry to hear it all then yesterday happened too. Sounds extremely hard. Is there anything you think we can do to help?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @Redemption thanks for kind words bro. I mean, everything i vented about here, plus the stuff in the men's chat, plus everything yesterday, it's a tricky time. But i've been through tricky times before, i'll go through one again and come as just as good. Yeah, just everybody's kind words has really had a massive impact on me, so you've all helped me more than you know. How are you doing today bro?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    There gone but still hearing whispers and people pacing @DonnerKebab

    @River have you spoken to anybody else about this River, because it sounds like living hell.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,713 Supreme Poster
    @DonnerKebab it’s nice to be recognised, sometimes i wonder if I’m actually helping but that bit of recognition helps.

    I’m starting on a mission to move around more today. I’ve bought myself a little exercise stepper, it’s a v basic one from aldi but basically it’s a little step with resistance bands on it. I’m starting with 5 minutes at a time, just a really short amount of time for now. Just stepping up and down and not using the bands too much. I plan to do more minutes as it gets easier but it’s something I can do from home to get me moving around a bit which I know helps me.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,158 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab no not rlly I doubt id be believed
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    @DonnerKebab it’s nice to be recognised, sometimes i wonder if I’m actually helping but that bit of recognition helps.

    I’m starting on a mission to move around more today. I’ve bought myself a little exercise stepper, it’s a v basic one from aldi but basically it’s a little step with resistance bands on it. I’m starting with 5 minutes at a time, just a really short amount of time for now. Just stepping up and down and not using the bands too much. I plan to do more minutes as it gets easier but it’s something I can do from home to get me moving around a bit which I know helps me.

    @independent_ awesome stuff. Remember with getting more active, rome wasn't built in a day and neither will results be. Results might not show up overnight, but if you keep at it, it will start to get easier over time. Proud of you for making progress with it.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,245 Boards Champion
    the doctors appointment was actually ok, she was really lovely & so patient which was nice (and very different compared to usual!!) so she said she’ll see me again in about 4 weeks to see how things are going and to let me think about her suggestions today too. i am really trying and always plan to open up properly but then i get there and have a complete panic:(
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,437 Community Veteran
    edited June 16
    @Redemption thanks for kind words bro. I mean, everything i vented about here, plus the stuff in the men's chat, plus everything yesterday, it's a tricky time. But i've been through tricky times before, i'll go through one again and come as just as good. Yeah, just everybody's kind words has really had a massive impact on me, so you've all helped me more than you know. How are you doing today bro?

    @DonnerKebab yh definitely is a hard time for you atm but we're all here for you and it's a new week too so maybe it will be bit better, how's your morning going so far? I'm just overthinking a lot still, like even in terms of here I just overthink a lot like now you're going through a really hard time but I'm just bringing up myself and stuff like that. I hope things get better for you though bro, they will. Men's support chat is on again today at 8pm so we could talk there too.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 837 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab no not rlly I doubt id be believed

    @River i know it doesn't count for a lot, but i believe you. And even if you can't think of exactly why it is happening on this day last year, and on the same day this year, and what makes it happen on this day in particular, it's understandable. Some mental trauma's are so bad, our brain has ways of shielding us from it, and making us forget some of it subconsciously. It's effects are still there just subconsciously. A psychological phenomenon called dissociative amnesia. Thus the gaps in my memory at certain ages which i think i mentioned a tiny bit last night. I believe you fully friend.
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