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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River oh my god. That's just, well, there isn't any words for it. I'm so so sorry River. It's the single worst thing out there. Has it been confirmed if you don't mind me asking?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River I know you must be feeling absolutely destroyed at this time. Just know we're here for you, even if only online. And, just hold barney a little bit closer to you tonight friend. Your going to need him close by tonight, i imagine as it sinks in.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,942 Community Veteran
    She normally contacts me everyday saying “love you 3000 - I win” but a week ago she posted on instagram saying bye and I missed it by an hour so I messaged her but had no reply or anything but if she was here she would be doing “love you 3000 - I win” 😭💔

    @DonnerKebab
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River she might have just been quitting social media, or something else possibly like an extended hospital stay or something. It doesn't 100% mean that she's committed suicide. But I can understand why it might be possible. Is there any way you can reach out besides on instagram at all? Perhaps even looking through her followers list to see if they've put anything about it. Social media accounts close to a person who has passed tend to flood there insta's talking about resting in peace etc etc.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River It might also be possible she attempted it, and wasn't successful and is being sectioned in a hospital. There's a lot of different possibilities besides a successful attempt. It's not 100% certain is what i'm trying to say. But you must be feeling just devastated right now. I'm so so sorry.
    And with your exam tomorrow, and everything else going on, i can't imagine how hard it is for you.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,942 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab it definitely wasn’t her quitting social media, I have a screenshot of what she posted but I don’t want to trigger. I reached out to police in her country but they can’t even locate her, they’ve never heared of anyone with her name :(
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    Do you want to put it in the trigger edition venting thread maybe if your comfortable? @River , i'm so sorry. I wish i could say something to make things a little better or easier, or tell you something that would make it seem it wasn't true, but i just don't know. How are you feeling about it?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River And people online use fake names, and fake locations. It'll be hard to track them down.
    But i do just want to say, there's always the possibility if it was an attempt, there's always a chance it's a failed attempt. According to a DeepAI estimation, 90 - 95% of attempts are unsuccessful. There is still a lot of hope River. It's not a guarantee, but there is huge amount of possible hope.

    And tomorrow, you said you had a maths exam. Listen to me River, you are going to go there tomorrow, ace it, like you did with your practice exams, and make everybody proud. You have a huge weight on your shoulders, but please hold onto the possible hope, and secure your future tomorrow and make yourself proud.

    Sorry if i'm wording everything terribly or am talking the wrong way or out of term.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,942 Community Veteran
    Thank you @DonnerKebab but think I’m gonna end up sobbing the whole time so I’m definitely not putting mascara on tomorrow morning incase :lol: just hoping I don’t walk out ☹️
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River whatever happens, and however it goes, you've done yourself proud. You've done everybody proud, and i want to truly get that through to you. You've had more crap thrown your way than most, and this isn't just a spanner in the works, it's a tactical nuke just before. Do your best, and whatever happens, you've made everyone proud.

    If you do fail in a worst case scenario or walk out, you can always try and retake it at a later date a few weeks down the line i assume. I assume you've learnt the course materials so i think some places you can even just go in and just do the exam without a whole course attached to it. You can do it as a private candidate at an exam centre, or you can just resit. You have contingencies if it doesn't work out my friend. So try not to be scared, or worried, or feel ashamed if it doesn't work out or you sob during it. Easier said then done, but i just want to get across, it's not the end of the world if it doesn't work out for whatever reason.

    Good thinking with the mascara btw. The last thing you'll need is mascara dripping onto the damn paper. Imagine going to put a black dot on answer A and the mascara drips off and appears as a black dot on B. :'(
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,942 Community Veteran
    Thank you @DonnerKebab

    That last paragraph made me smile, if that happens I’ll be writing “sorry ignore the mascara blob I was crying in the exam” 😂😂😂
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @River I mean every word of it. I'm here if you want to talk some more.
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,680 Boards Guru
    @River im so sorry. You should hopefully be able to make some kind of mitigating circumstances claim if it does end up impacting your exam. Maybe ask someone at college about it
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,789 Master Poster
    hello <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    hi @eylah <3
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,679 Supreme Poster
    I'm having one of those days. Well idk if it's just a day. I can't find anything to do that I enjoy. Well I could but it's not simple things I can just do in the house. Just meh

    Ah well, just venting, dont expect replies so no pressure xx
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    I'm having one of those days. Well idk if it's just a day. I can't find anything to do that I enjoy. Well I could but it's not simple things I can just do in the house. Just meh

    Ah well, just venting, dont expect replies so no pressure xx

    i get that feeling. could you just like wash the dishes or something or did you already do that?
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,679 Supreme Poster
    @toffuna101 dishes are all done for now, I could do house jobs this afternoon and I probably will but i'm so done with just sitting about and not being able to find a single hobby I actually enjoy.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    @toffuna101 dishes are all done for now, I could do house jobs this afternoon and I probably will but i'm so done with just sitting about and not being able to find a single hobby I actually enjoy.

    @independent_ maybe its time to try something new
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,326 Community Veteran
    edited June 11
    I'm having one of those days. Well idk if it's just a day. I can't find anything to do that I enjoy. Well I could but it's not simple things I can just do in the house. Just meh

    Ah well, just venting, dont expect replies so no pressure xx

    I relate to not having anything I enjoy @independent_ like I have tried stuff but I don't really enjoy them like football I don't but didn't think I would. There's stuff I wanna do like travelling but it's hard as it's expensive. I find hotels and stuff super boring, I don't think I have had a chance to do stuff I enjoy. I'm skipping the family holiday this year which we usually have just because it's boring all we do is sit around the hotel plus I'm going to lose access to the here when I'm there. I'm just honestly not in the mood often too not having a job atm like I'm irratable and stuff. Anyway not to make it about me too much, sorry for rambling about me just saying I relate, you have your holiday soon you said so that should be something you look forward to and enjoy then after that it might suck after the holiday but you can the plan and look forward to your next one.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,679 Supreme Poster
    @toffuna101 problem being that I can’t think of anything that I’d even want to try because I feel like I’ve tried it all.

    @Redemption sorry to hear you relate. I personally don’t mind just sitting around when I’m on holiday, it’s about the only time I don’t feel guilty about doing that.

    I was meant to have something on this weekend but it’s cancelled because of the weather too and I feel kinda sad about that because I was looking forward to getting out and chatting to people
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    @toffuna101 problem being that I can’t think of anything that I’d even want to try because I feel like I’ve tried it all.

    @Redemption sorry to hear you relate. I personally don’t mind just sitting around when I’m on holiday, it’s about the only time I don’t feel guilty about doing that.

    I was meant to have something on this weekend but it’s cancelled because of the weather too and I feel kinda sad about that because I was looking forward to getting out and chatting to people

    oh i see. yeah british weather is quite inconsistent even in the summer so its unfortunate that its cancelled.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,326 Community Veteran

    @Redemption sorry to hear you relate. I personally don’t mind just sitting around when I’m on holiday, it’s about the only time I don’t feel guilty about doing that.

    I was meant to have something on this weekend but it’s cancelled because of the weather too and I feel kinda sad about that because I was looking forward to getting out and chatting to people

    @independent_ I relate to that too, like feeling guilty for sitting around and I feel useless for it. I was just mentioning it to a staff member on my course that after this course finishes in a few weeks I'll be sat back at home but he said about my next steps and also said focus on now basically. Understandable to be sad about something you were looking forward to, I relate to that too, I was on about on the chat last night about routine and how I can find it hard when that routine gets messed up. We could maybe talk on chat later about this where I could talk about more personal experiences because I feel like pottentially this is more public here. Definitely reasonable to be sad though, can be so fustrating etc things getting cancelled.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,704 Boards Guru
    i posted another ramble on the discussion boards cause why not lol
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,326 Community Veteran
    Thanks so much for your kind comment on the chat @DonnerKebab I'm sorry if I wasn't any support to you today, I feel a bit like I'm taking support but not giving it in general. Hopefully soon I could truly try to support others more.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 498 Listening Ear
    @Redemption you do give a lot of support mate. You don't give yourself enough credit for it. You really did help me in the men's support chat, and i really did mean what i said about you being an awesome person. You just need to give yourself some more credit bro. You give huge amounts of support.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,942 Community Veteran
    Hi
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,326 Community Veteran
    River wrote: »
    Hi

    Hi, you ok River?
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,326 Community Veteran
    @Redemption you do give a lot of support mate. You don't give yourself enough credit for it. You really did help me in the men's support chat, and i really did mean what i said about you being an awesome person. You just need to give yourself some more credit bro. You give huge amounts of support.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab likewise.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 3,942 Community Veteran
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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