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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition)

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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah It's entirely normal to let it get to you. Anybody would be afraid in that situation and it will have left an impact. But i'm glad your safe right now.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    idek why im even here tbh i should just go. :/
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah No, not at all. You deserve a place here to be able to openly vent and talk about your frustrations and worries and fears. You are loved on here, and always have a place here. Same as @Rose113 has too. Both of you.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    i just feel like im taking up so much space on here. i keep complaining abt how shit my life is when ppl have it worse than me :(. i hate myself i hate my life i should just shut up abt how shit everything is for me. it’s so shit :( im so sry
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah It's not about who has it worse, or who has a harder time, it's about the fact that you need a place to vent, to have people in your corner even if only online. It's what you deserve. What somebody else might have gone through or whether they have had it worse, doesn't diminish that this is a space that you deserve to be able to vent in. Nothing changes that. Never be sorry for how you feel, you are worth all the time and the effort in the world to support, and what others have been through will never diminish that. It's hard to convince yourself not to hate yourself, believe me i know, but from an outsider's point of view, you are not hated, you are loved. Remember that.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah It's not about who has it worse, or who has a harder time, it's about the fact that you need a place to vent, to have people in your corner even if only online. It's what you deserve. What somebody else might have gone through or whether they have had it worse, doesn't diminish that this is a space that you deserve to be able to vent in. Nothing changes that. Never be sorry for how you feel, you are worth all the time and the effort in the world to support, and what others have been through will never diminish that. It's hard to convince yourself not to hate yourself, believe me i know, but from an outsider's point of view, you are not hated, you are loved. Remember that.

    this rly opened my eyes! i just feel like i complain every day so it might piss ppl off that im reaching out 24/7. but thankyou so so much <3

    i feel like the mix is my only ‘support’ place that i feel rly comfortable sharing how i feel. bc i have no parents at home to talk to abt how i feel so i am on my own irl but here at the mix i can share abt how i feel and help others too. :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    First off I think this is a really amazing and kind idea but this could really trigger some people so TRIGGER WARNING i was at my aunties the other day and out of nowhere I can’t remember how the conversation started but I was there my auntie my uncle and my uncles brother my uncle and brother were talking about organ donation as I said I have no idea where this conversation came from I can’t remember who said it but they said they are fine giving their organs away when they pass away then they said which is completely as long as they don’t go to predators which is 100% understandable then coincidently yesterday I had a letter about organ donation my mum said it’s because I was turning 18 soon but now I just got that thought stuck in my head what if my organs helps pedophiles I would quite happily kill them not save them but I don’t have a choice who my organs are donated to and I know it’s silly but it’s just stuck in the back of my head and I shouldn’t think to deep about it as memories will come I don’t want to think about but I can’t help it
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    Summerjune15 wrote: »
    First off I think this is a really amazing and kind idea but this could really trigger some people so TRIGGER WARNING i was at my aunties the other day and out of nowhere I can’t remember how the conversation started but I was there my auntie my uncle and my uncles brother my uncle and brother were talking about organ donation as I said I have no idea where this conversation came from I can’t remember who said it but they said they are fine giving their organs away when they pass away then they said which is completely as long as they don’t go to predators which is 100% understandable then coincidently yesterday I had a letter about organ donation my mum said it’s because I was turning 18 soon but now I just got that thought stuck in my head what if my organs helps pedophiles I would quite happily kill them not save them but I don’t have a choice who my organs are donated to and I know it’s silly but it’s just stuck in the back of my head and I shouldn’t think to deep about it as memories will come I don’t want to think about but I can’t help it

    i don’t rly know what to say but i hear you. of course it’s entirely up to you. but im sending you gentle hugs 🫂
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    i just want to fucking cry 😭
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    im so done with helplines and them calling police 😭😭
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    im safe. im at home safe :)!
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah Sorry, i've missed the last like 10 hours. Do you want to vent a bit about what's bothering you right now? I'm glad to hear your safe and sound as well.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah Sorry, i've missed the last like 10 hours. Do you want to vent a bit about what's bothering you right now? I'm glad to hear your safe and sound as well.

    are you still awake? sry had to call police back.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah Yeah, i'm here friend. What happened.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah Yeah, i'm here friend. What happened.

    just pissed off i rly am. im never reaching out again :(
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah they called the police on you?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah they called the police on you?

    yes and i told them not to :( but they never listened to me and im just fuming. :/ bc im safe but when they called the police they had no reason to and they broke my trust.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah that's gut wrenching. It takes an insane amount of courage and effort to reach out and for them to have done that is just dodgy of them. I think they will have done it out of concern and worry, but it doesn't change the impact of it does it or the refusal to listen?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah that's gut wrenching. It takes an insane amount of courage and effort to reach out and for them to have done that is just dodgy of them. I think they will have done it out of concern and worry, but it doesn't change the impact of it does it or the refusal to listen?

    the place i used they was so judgy to me and it rly fuckinf annoyed me bc i was just looking for someone to talk to and 1) they broke my trust 2) they was rude as fuck. it’s horrible it rly is. im not in crisis but they say they support ppl in crisis but they never cared abt me.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah That's the one thing helplines should never be. Judging people is not right, especially ones in crisis, who have gone through things that none of the people judging have. You're right to be annoyed. I'd be raging, me. Can i ask which helpline it was?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    @DonnerKebab im not comfortable sharing bc i dont want to make it out to be a bad place just in case others reach out to that helpline. bc they have been kind to me before but idk why but they was so rude this time round and disrespectful. im to scared to fall asleep too so im just stuck awake.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    i spoke to the police who were rly kind tonight so im glad abt that but i feel much much better since earlier. :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah that's perfectly okay. You don't have to justify it.
    None of what happened there was right. You shouldn't have been spoken to rudely, dismissed, disrespected and ignored. I can only assume they might have been overworked, tired, and exhausted to make whoever it was act like that.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah that's perfectly okay. You don't have to justify it.
    None of what happened there was right. You shouldn't have been spoken to rudely, dismissed, disrespected and ignored. I can only assume they might have been overworked, tired, and exhausted to make whoever it was act like that.

    i mean they was supposed to be a supervisor so i would hope they aren’t like that all the time. but im feeling better now :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah i just want to say again, that sometimes, things don't work as they are meant to. That people behave differently, act differently, and sometimes let others down hugely. And that's what's happened here. But it won't mean every helpline would be the same.
    it'll be scary reaching out again if you ever do i'm guessing, and you might get nervous of a repeat, but chances are, this was a one of failure from them. Never happened before i'm guessing? I know this just sounds like rambling, but i'm glad to see your feeling better.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah i just want to say again, that sometimes, things don't work as they are meant to. That people behave differently, act differently, and sometimes let others down hugely. And that's what's happened here. But it won't mean every helpline would be the same.
    it'll be scary reaching out again if you ever do i'm guessing, and you might get nervous of a repeat, but chances are, this was a one of failure from them. Never happened before i'm guessing? I know this just sounds like rambling, but i'm glad to see your feeling better.

    i mean im hoping i never have to reach out to anyone! but if i do i definitely will not be using them!
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 864 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah that's fully understandable and reasonable given everything. Just know that we are on here to vent to and talk to always, whenever you want. it's not the best alternative to a helpline, but it beats nothing.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah that's fully understandable and reasonable given everything. Just know that we are on here to vent to and talk to always, whenever you want. it's not the best alternative to a helpline, but it beats nothing.

    i prefer venting here then to a helpline bc least here im not judged by ppl here and you guys actually care abt me. :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    just had a phone call from police and its rly made me feel like shit
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,168 Community Veteran
    What’s happened @eylah is that because of last night
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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