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Over 25s guideline

SienaSiena Posts: 15,759 Skive's The Limit
edited February 23 in General Chat
I have realised a lot of users aren’t aware of the new changes of the over 25s rule and it was known by regular users that over 25s can stay if a few years over and they wasn’t that strict on it. And we also got told that they would make a post about this if this was to change with the new merge - the post hasn’t been made and no one’s been made aware well maybe just me cause I turn 26

So I just wanted to make others aware as I’ve always known it how everyone else has and ngl it felt slightly unfair to feel pushed out when we haven’t been made aware. It is what it is and understand. It would of just been nice to have a notice rather than feel like it’s just for me or something soo incase comes to shock for anyone else and think only for you (unless it is only me?)

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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,256 Supreme Poster
    edited February 22
    Seconded. I’m 22 so outwith the scope of this just now, but I feel it has changed without much information.

    Edit: by that I mean that many over 25s who I greatly respect, and who have grown to be my friends, have left recently and not through their own choice.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,256 Supreme Poster
    edited February 22
    For reference, I’m going to link the current (as far as we know) guidance for over 25s. https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/3598388/what-if-im-over-25

    And if this must change for whatever reason, I feel it really must be announced to us and that we are given detailed information, with the same level of detail as the post above, and the same level of open discussion.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 3,361 Boards Guru
    It does sound a bit unfair, and I can understand why you’re feeling unhappy about it. I get why it feels a bit disappointing, especially if you weren’t expecting it like its been changed due to the merge. I dont really see the point of the merge especially if people are unhappy and it makes changes for the worse. Hopefully, others are made aware too so no one else is caught off guard. It’s understandable to feel this way, and I’m sorry it’s been handled like this.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 605 Incredible Poster
    Hey @Siena , @independent_ , and @TheNightmare , thank you so much for your posts here, and for sharing your feelings on this. We take your feelings on board, and it is absolutely valid that things have felt unclear, confusing, and dissapointing when it comes to the ways we've been communicating / not communicating changes to our Age Remit policy here on Community.

    @independent_ , thank you for linking to that 2021 policy. You are right that this really highlights differences in how we are holding and thinking about the frame of our Age Remit now. And again, it is so valid that this might feel really frustrating because you're recieving contradictory information, and that's not good enough. You deserve clarity.

    As a wider organisation, The Mix & MHI are currently in the process of finalising the latest policy when it comes to supporting Community members who are over the age of 25 to transition away from this space. We can hear how urgent it feels that we update you on this as soon as we are able, and understand that it must be a priorty.

    In the meantime, if you do have any questions about your own process of moving on from Community, please DM us and we can get back to you promptly.

    I want to say I'm sorry you have each been made to feel this way. Its really hard to notice friends leaving as well as having to process say goodbye yourselves when it feels like expectations around what this looks like have changed. Thank you for speaking up. It is on us to be doing better to be clear, consistent, and support you on this.
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,256 Supreme Poster
    Thank you @Sian321 for your reply a taking accountability. I understand if there has to be a new policy, but it does feel unfair to start enforcing a new policy when that policy hasn’t even been finalised yet, if you get me. If it’s not been written up yet it’s bound to be inconsistent
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 3,361 Boards Guru
    edited February 23
    Sian321 wrote: »
    Hey, @TheNightmare , thank you so much for your posts here, and for sharing your feelings on this. We take your feelings on board, and it is absolutely valid that things have felt unclear, confusing, and dissapointing when it comes to the ways we've been communicating / not communicating changes to our Age Remit policy here on Community.

    @Sian321 appreciate you all taking accountability too for it, I don't want to be critising the community really because overall it's still an amazing and got me through tougher times, it's helped me a lot and still is. It just sucks to hear others being unhappy with stuff with the merge like mods and other members etc.
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,069 Part of The Furniture
    Thanks @Sian321 for confirming this with us all as there has been quite a bit of confusion to do with the age policy and what happens once you turn 25 and if you are still on the mix after 25 too. Eventhough I am kind of aware of some of the policies some of them havent been properly addressed and there hasnt been a proper offical thread to discuss this too so I can imagine how much confusion this could cause for a lot of users on here. Im glad though you reached out and mentioned about the age policy because as someone who is currently 22 right now it is nice to have an idea of what the maxium age is for the mix before I have to leave. I can totally understand the policy but at the time I feel like there could have been more clearance for the policy to be fair to avoid stress and confusion. I agree with what everyone else has said on this thread too because I think its important we users are aware and understand what is happening.
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,069 Part of The Furniture
    independent_ wrote: »
    Thank you @Sian321 for your reply a taking accountability. I understand if there has to be a new policy, but it does feel unfair to start enforcing a new policy when that policy hasn’t even been finalised yet, if you get me. If it’s not been written up yet it’s bound to be inconsistent

    Yeah especially because this policy hasn't been properly finalised yet so they can't really enforce it if it hasn't been finalised and properly discussed on here.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
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