(TW suicide and self harm) the type of men I’m attracted to is fucked

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• Orchid059 Posts: 390 Listening Ear

  February 16

  First of all, I want to say that it’s really brave of you to recognize and acknowledge these feelings—it’s not easy to confront the pain and patterns we’ve internalized, especially when it comes to something as personal as how we envision relationships. The fact that you are processing and reflecting on all of this shows a lot of strength.
  
  The way you’ve been treated in the past absolutely impacts how you might view love and relationships. Sometimes, we create patterns in our minds that feel familiar, even if they’re not healthy. When you’ve faced bullying and mistreatment, those experiences can influence how you expect to be treated, even in relationships that should be built on respect, trust, and care. You deserve a relationship where you feel safe, valued, and truly loved without having to endure emotional pain to get to that point.
  
  It’s completely okay to feel conflicted, and you don’t need to feel ashamed for having these thoughts- what you’ve experienced has shaped how you process relationships, and healing is a gradual process.
  
  The fact that you’re aware of this dynamic is already a huge step. You don’t have to navigate this on your own. You are worthy of love that isn’t tied to suffering or emotional manipulation, and you deserve to heal so that you can build relationships that bring you joy and peace, not pain

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