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Really not okay ๐Ÿ’”

RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,883 The Mix Elder
in Health & Wellbeing
Iโ€™m really struggling tonight and coping alone just so I donโ€™t burden people, think Iโ€™ve burned myself out, just want to support people but canโ€™t even do that cos I just get frustrated and overwhelmed if I feel like Iโ€™m not supporting enough and other stuff.

Itโ€™s nearly midnight which means itโ€™ll be the 9thโ€ฆ5 days till my birthday ๐Ÿ’” the count down is just torture but also I canโ€™t help it because my birthday just bothers me so much

Sorry ๐Ÿ’”
โœจ โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐’ท๐“‡๐’ถ๐“‹โ„ฏ. โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐’ท๐“‡๐“Š๐’พ๐“ˆโ„ฏ๐’น. โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐“Œ๐’ฝโ„ด ๐’พ๐“‚ ๐“‚โ„ฏ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐“‰โ„ด ๐’ทโ„ฏ โœจ

โœจ ๐’ฏโ„‹โ„๐’ฎ โ„๐’ฎ โ„ณโ„ฐ โœจ

Comments

  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,883 The Mix Elder
    In tears
    โœจ โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐’ท๐“‡๐’ถ๐“‹โ„ฏ. โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐’ท๐“‡๐“Š๐’พ๐“ˆโ„ฏ๐’น. โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐“Œ๐’ฝโ„ด ๐’พ๐“‚ ๐“‚โ„ฏ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐“‰โ„ด ๐’ทโ„ฏ โœจ

    โœจ ๐’ฏโ„‹โ„๐’ฎ โ„๐’ฎ โ„ณโ„ฐ โœจ
  • AoifeAoife Posts: 3,222 Boards Guru
    You've been really brave to open up @rose113 :)

    Feeling burned out is such a challenging place to be, I'm sorry you're going through that at the moment. Youโ€™re always so kind and warm with your support, but itโ€™s completely understandable to hear it's sometimes feeling overwhelming You're not alone in feeling that way and it can be harder to help others when we're struggling ourselves. I'm a big believer of the quote 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and that's all about doing what you can to look after yourself first before helping others. And sometimes when you are helping others, your cup can become empty again and takes a bit of time to refill. Have you heard of that quote before?

    Birthdays can be really difficult, especially the build up to them and it sounds like it's feeling that way for you which is understandable. Do you feel comfy sharing more with us about how you're feeling about your birthday?
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating tooย โค
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,883 The Mix Elder
    Hey @Aoife

    Iโ€™ve heared that a little bit but not much.

    I really hate my birthday, Iโ€™ll never like it, itโ€™s like Christmas a day of pure horridness :/
    โœจ โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐’ท๐“‡๐’ถ๐“‹โ„ฏ. โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐’ท๐“‡๐“Š๐’พ๐“ˆโ„ฏ๐’น. โ„ ๐’ถ๐“‚ ๐“Œ๐’ฝโ„ด ๐’พ๐“‚ ๐“‚โ„ฏ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐“‰โ„ด ๐’ทโ„ฏ โœจ

    โœจ ๐’ฏโ„‹โ„๐’ฎ โ„๐’ฎ โ„ณโ„ฐ โœจ
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,079 Boards Champion
    hey @Rose113 hope you're feeling a bit better today - sending you hugs

    just wanted to say pretty much the same as Aoife, in that sometimes whilst we want to give other people the support they look for, it can be hard for us to do it when we ourselves are struggling. remember that your mental wellbeing matters to, and there'll always be someone willing to support you - all of us here definitely are.

    and as for your birthday, it's completely okay to not enjoy it. some people do, others don't for whatever reasons they have. so you're definitely not alone in that. is there anything you do around the time of your birthday to help you feel any better about the day being near?

    sending hugs
    Sinead
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