Really not okay 💔

Rose113

I’m really struggling tonight and coping alone just so I don’t burden people, think I’ve burned myself out, just want to support people but can’t even do that cos I just get frustrated and overwhelmed if I feel like I’m not supporting enough and other stuff.

It’s nearly midnight which means it’ll be the 9th…5 days till my birthday 💔 the count down is just torture but also I can’t help it because my birthday just bothers me so much

Sorry 💔

Rose113

In tears

Aoife

You've been really brave to open up @rose113

Feeling burned out is such a challenging place to be, I'm sorry you're going through that at the moment. You’re always so kind and warm with your support, but it’s completely understandable to hear it's sometimes feeling overwhelming You're not alone in feeling that way and it can be harder to help others when we're struggling ourselves. I'm a big believer of the quote 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and that's all about doing what you can to look after yourself first before helping others. And sometimes when you are helping others, your cup can become empty again and takes a bit of time to refill. Have you heard of that quote before?

Birthdays can be really difficult, especially the build up to them and it sounds like it's feeling that way for you which is understandable. Do you feel comfy sharing more with us about how you're feeling about your birthday?

Rose113

Hey @Aoife

I’ve heared that a little bit but not much.

I really hate my birthday, I’ll never like it, it’s like Christmas a day of pure horridness

sinead276

hey @Rose113 hope you're feeling a bit better today - sending you hugs

just wanted to say pretty much the same as Aoife, in that sometimes whilst we want to give other people the support they look for, it can be hard for us to do it when we ourselves are struggling. remember that your mental wellbeing matters to, and there'll always be someone willing to support you - all of us here definitely are.

and as for your birthday, it's completely okay to not enjoy it. some people do, others don't for whatever reasons they have. so you're definitely not alone in that. is there anything you do around the time of your birthday to help you feel any better about the day being near?

sending hugs
Sinead