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Feeling like an outsider and struggling with rumination
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Ruminating on situations that made you feel criticized and isolated must be quite upsetting and exhausting
I'm really glad you were able to post about it here though, you've always got this community to lean on and chat to about anything.
I can totally understand it's quite tricky striking a balance between dating and doing what's right for yourself, i think it's important to try not put too much pressure on yourself in these situations too
Sending lots of hugs!!
From your post, it sounded like when you didn't check your letterbox you immediately felt guilty about it. But its okay to forget things sometimes. It sounded like you were beating yourself up about it a little instead of treating yourself with compassion
How are you doing now?
That makes sense, i understand why you'd feel guilty for forgetting things.
I'm sorry if i wasn't clear previously
I was not criticising you for feeling guilty but I can understand why you felt that way.
What I meant by compassion was to acknowledge how you are feeling and instead of ruminating about similar experiences, to accept the situation for what it is and try move on or improve for next time. As you mentioned ruminating I thought this might help but if I've misread the situation and that isn't helpful to you, that's okay.
You're always welcome to share how you feel here without judgement, apologies again if my response wasn't helpful.
Let me know how you get on