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Weird sibling situation (confused vent)
AnonymousToe
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This is really complicated and I don’t know how to feel. Basically, one of my sister’s teachers referred her to the school counsellor. That makes me feel A LOT of things.
I’m incredibly reliant on a teacher from that school, we’ll call her Mrs A. She’s been listening to me and helping me through.. life 😂 for years now. But basically because of her job, Mrs A is gonna find out about my sister seeing this counsellor. I’m scared she’s gonna replace me. I don’t really know why I feel like that, but I’m scared Mrs A will end up close to my sister, closer than to me. I don’t wanna lose her. I don’t know where this whole thought of being replaced has come from. I guess because I’m a former student now, I’m worried my sister will be more important to Mrs A than I am, and that would hurt a lot.
I’m so confused why it bothers me this much though. I don’t know how to feel.
I’m worried about my sister and I feel like I’ve failed as her older sister. I let it reach this point. But also I don’t want Mrs A to forget all about me. I’m so confused.
I’m incredibly reliant on a teacher from that school, we’ll call her Mrs A. She’s been listening to me and helping me through.. life 😂 for years now. But basically because of her job, Mrs A is gonna find out about my sister seeing this counsellor. I’m scared she’s gonna replace me. I don’t really know why I feel like that, but I’m scared Mrs A will end up close to my sister, closer than to me. I don’t wanna lose her. I don’t know where this whole thought of being replaced has come from. I guess because I’m a former student now, I’m worried my sister will be more important to Mrs A than I am, and that would hurt a lot.
I’m so confused why it bothers me this much though. I don’t know how to feel.
I’m worried about my sister and I feel like I’ve failed as her older sister. I let it reach this point. But also I don’t want Mrs A to forget all about me. I’m so confused.
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I would suggest talking to your sister about your concerns and she might be able to reassure you. Also you have not failed as a sister, the fact that you care so much shows how you are such a kind a lovely person and I am sure she appreciates you very much.
Keep reaching out to us and remember you are never alone- we are always here for you
I know, and I feel so bad for being bothered by it. I dont know what’s wrong with me
Thanks for the response
Nothing to feel guilty about at all- it is perfectly reasonable to have an attachment to this teacher who helped you out so much. The important thing to remember though is that as a teacher it is part of her role to support and offer guidance to other students who are in a similar situation to yourself.