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Jobs and being a quiet person
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I'm also considered a "quiet person" by the world so I totally empathise with your experiences of being patronised/singled out and have it brought up when I didn't want it to or think it had any relevancy. I understand the fact that it feels like negative attention because unfortunately society often wants us to change. I was always told at school parent's evening's "she's a pleasure to teach but I wish she would contribute more in class/have more confidence" etc.
I would definitely recommend reading Quiet by Susan Cain if you're interested because it explores looking at quietness and introversion as a strength, which you don't often get to see and it has real life accounts of people, so it's quite uplifting if you've been put down a lot for stuff like that.
As for job searching I would genuinely advise that you do whatever your heart wants and try to filter out the noise from everyone else trying to sway you one way or the other. I think you definitely could do bartending if you wanted to, I don't see how you would be held back, but if you're end goal is definitely graphic design then I would definitely keep working towards that, even if it's in the background for now like volunteering etc. It really depends on what you want to do at the end of the day because that's all that really matters!
I've had a similar experience to you recently where I was speaking to someone I was hoping could be a reference for a job I was applying for and she was really convincing me not to do it, making up lots of excuses and general insinuations that I wasn't capable when she realised I was taking no interest in her unsolicited advice. The thing is if you don't try for the things you want to do and opportunities that arise you'll never know the outcome.
I've also been having to deal with toxic positivity from people from a weekly basis so I get how hurtful and frustrating that can be to have to endure. Unfortunately there won't always be people who understand but the good thing is we can choose who we want to listen to or ignore.
I hope this has helped a bit and once again I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this, I really hope things improve for you, I know that you're capable of great things so try to remember that!
And as for the job, do what you want to do. Although A LOT easier said than done, follow your heart on it and what you're passionate about.
Hope this at least provides some comfort in the fact that you're not alone in your feelings and that we are here to help.
Sending hugs
Sinead