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Hurtful comments from my brother and work issues

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Doc Posts: 20 Boards Initiate
    Regardless of what the motivation was, if someone's comments hurt you they hurt you . If they are ambiguous enough to be misread - which it seems like these remarks were - then your feelings are completely valid . Although getting over past negative experiences is something everyone should work on, it is also difficult to do something that should be understood by those around you

    Lack of support for autistic people especially at work, is unfortunately nothing new . It's O.K to feel resentful, since you've done all you can trying to get said support, to no avail .

    For myself it's a tough thing to navigate, do I keep fighting the good fight; asking for more support and carrying on with my job in the meantime, risking my mental health ? Or do I quit ? That would be best for my mental health, but in doing so am I enforcing the status quo ? Not sure what the answer is, but I do know you should let yourself feel your emotions regardless of what others say . You seem like a considerate person as well as a skilled employee . The idea that needing support negates these qualities, or makes you less of a man, is bogus and it's good that you recognise that .
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  • PetiteQuarkPetiteQuark Posts: 97 Budding Regular
    What your brother said wasn't nice at all, and he wasn't being very considerate towards your issues. Your feelings are valid, and don't let anyone make you think otherwise.

    I get very irritated by loud noises sometimes (some doctors say that i might be neurodivergent because of that), what helps me is headphones, sometimes I listen to soft, slow piano music sometimes (im a fan of the pianist Erik Satie) , noise cancelling headphones are also quite helpful.

    Its okay to get upset, we all get upset. And that's fine. I think its best to ignore what your brother said, because getting upset doesn't 'make you a woman' men can express emotions, and not all women express emotions easily. Anyone can be mardy or emotional, regardless of gender. And thats ok.
  • anna0012anna0012 Staff Posts: 18 Settling in

    Hello @Creativeboy23 you've done really well reaching out to us. Your feelings are valid, and I believe that a man able to express his feelings is a more honest, kinder and understanding human being altogether.

    You are right, there will be people out there who will appreciate you for who you are. Lots of them!
    And well done for stacking those cups evenly! It's not an easy task!
    Sending you hugs <3
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