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I have been finding family life tough

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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,017 Boards Champion
    I'm sorry you've had to go through this @Creativeboy23 - it sounds like your relationship with your brother isn't the easiest at the moment which can be quite challenging to get through.

    I just wanted to say that you aren't burdening people with your sensitivity or anything like that - if anything it's good that you can express your emotions with your family and don't feel the need to keep it in all the time. I'm also glad to hear you have support from your university counsellor when you feel you need it. Remember we are all here for you on here as well if you need any more support :smile:

    Sending lots of hugs and keep doing graphic design (I'm sure you're great at it)
    Sinead
  • JustVJustV Inactive Posts: 5,637 Part of The Furniture
    Creativeboy23 wrote:
    He said saying he worries about me in the future and something like, if someone says something to upset me, are you going run home crying to your mum and that I am supposed to be a man. He said that I am going to have to deal with it. Then, he turned on my mum, saying that she has made me like this and that I have feminine traits because I am expressing my emotions as a man.
    Man, screw this. Heaven forbid you express your emotions and process them in a healthy way, rather than seething over something for 6 months and then punching someone like a 'real' man. You're doing the right thing to have those 'feminine traits' dude - they'll make you happier and you'll have more meaningful relationships than whoever your brother is trying to be.

    Honestly though, reading your post, I couldn't help but wonder why your brother cares about all these things? This feels more like a him problem than a you problem. Relentlessly putting someone down or criticising them is something people only tend to do if they feel insecure themselves or they have unmet emotional needs or something.
    Creativeboy23 wrote:
    Then, he said that what he said was true and that he is going to express his opinion, and it is not his problem if I am upset about it.
    I don't know about this, either. It's true that receiving criticism and feedback is part of life, and as long as it's delivered responsibly and fairly, it can be really valuable. But this isn't what your brother is doing - it seems like he's being needlessly critical and unkind, and it's fair to feel upset about that. I'm sure if the situation was reversed he'd change his tune.

    Feel what you feel @Creativeboy23 and make no apologies for expressing your emotions or taking life at your own pace. :) Is it possible for you to move out now or in the future? Getting your own space away from family is a real game changer for issues like this.
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