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Christmas day - hugs / support

independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
edited November 2023 in The subforum of Christmas Past
Hello all,

I can't see one of these, how are you all feeling today? I hope everyone is doing ok but if you're not, feel free to use this. I appreciate it's quite late but I figured better late than never
“Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    So Christmas dinner was stressful....sigh I dont feel like celebrating Christmas anymore.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Emma_Emma_ Posts: 601 Incredible Poster
    What a lovely idea @independent_ - I hope you've had a good day, sending hugs if you need them <3

    Sending big hugs your way @Amy22 , maybe you can do things a little differently next year, maybe spend it with friends?
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    edited December 2022
    Amy22 wrote: »
    So Christmas dinner was stressful....sigh I dont feel like celebrating Christmas anymore.

    That really sucks @Amy22 take some time for yourself this evening. Here if you'd like to talk about what made it so stressful?
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    Struggling.
    TW ed
    Christmas dinner was so so hard to get throughand now i just feel horrible about myself and body
    TW grief
    ive been acting ok for my family but i just feel so low. I miss my stepmom, nan and cat :disappointed: it feels wrong to celebrate without them 💔🕊

    I hear you @Chloe234 what a horrible situation to be in, I really feel for you and your family. Hugs <3
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    Thank you so much @independent_ its that my dad got stressed doing our christmas dinner and he shouted a bit. I know he didnt mean it, but I got upset as it frightend me a bit. But I feel like I ruined Christmas for all of us. Like whenever me or my mum try to help he seems to say he is okay but then complains that we arent helping out. The fact that my nan and bamp wernt able to come down wasnt too great. But at least it was the three of us. My nan struggles with her memory so if she did come down I know that my nan and bamp would be arguing over stuff.

    I kinda wished today didnt really happen in a way. I feel like not celebrating christmas anymore cause of how much stress it causes my family. The fact is that maybe next year I might celebrate it alone, as its less stress.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
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  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    Christmas doesn't really feel very festive.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • Emma_Emma_ Posts: 601 Incredible Poster
    I hope this helps @Dancer :p

    Sending super big hugs to you all <3
  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    edited December 2022
    Thank you. There were fireworks going off earlier and that really confused me. And I also don't like having to pretend to be happy when actually things just sometimes seem to suck. But at the same time, I don't want to seem like Scrooge. I love the presents that I got though. I have enough chocolate to last me until at least the end of February. Haha.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Amy22 wrote: »
    Thank you so much @independent_ its that my dad got stressed doing our christmas dinner and he shouted a bit. I know he didnt mean it, but I got upset as it frightend me a bit. But I feel like I ruined Christmas for all of us. Like whenever me or my mum try to help he seems to say he is okay but then complains that we arent helping out. The fact that my nan and bamp wernt able to come down wasnt too great. But at least it was the three of us. My nan struggles with her memory so if she did come down I know that my nan and bamp would be arguing over stuff.

    I kinda wished today didnt really happen in a way. I feel like not celebrating christmas anymore cause of how much stress it causes my family. The fact is that maybe next year I might celebrate it alone, as its less stress.

    Bless you @Amy22 it sounds so stressful. My dad does that too a bit, he has arthritis and when he’s in pain he won’t ask for help but instead he’ll complain we aren’t helping. So I get it. Remember it’s only one day and it doesn’t have to be perfect <3
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    Struggling.
    TW ed
    Christmas dinner was so so hard to get throughand now i just feel horrible about myself and body
    TW grief
    ive been acting ok for my family but i just feel so low. I miss my stepmom, nan and cat :disappointed: it feels wrong to celebrate without them 💔🕊

    I hear you @Chloe234 what a horrible situation to be in, I really feel for you and your family. Hugs <3

    Thankyou elle 🤍it's just got 100 times worse too but I'll live I think

    We’re all here if you’d like to talk anymore <3@Chloe234
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Dancer wrote: »
    Thank you. There were fireworks going off earlier and that really confused me. And I also don't like having to pretend to be happy when actually things just sometimes seem to suck. But at the same time, I don't want to seem like Scrooge. I love the presents that I got though. I have enough chocolate to last me until at least the end of February. Haha.

    Like I said above @Dancer it’s one day out of the year so it’s ok if it doesn’t go exactly perfectly or you don’t feel 100% happy (what is that, by the way, what is 100% happy!) Fireworks suck. Have you got anything planned for the rest of the evening for yourself?
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    @independent_ thank you so much yeah same here. Yeah that is true that it is only one day and like tomorrow will be another day so we can start over fresh.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    The fact that I got a cold coming on isn't helping that much either
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Amy22 wrote: »
    The fact that I got a cold coming on isn't helping that much either

    I feel this, it really sucks being ill over christmas, made it through covid without getting ill but now I’ve had 4 colds since October!! I hope you feel better soon @Amy22
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    I've just had my dinner. Yum yum. But it was a lot and I feel a bit aghhh.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Dancer wrote: »
    I've just had my dinner. Yum yum. But it was a lot and I feel a bit aghhh.

    Ooh what did you have? It is a lot tbf for one day, hope you're ok @Dancer
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    independent_ wrote: »
    Dancer wrote: »
    I've just had my dinner. Yum yum. But it was a lot and I feel a bit aghhh.

    Ooh what did you have? It is a lot tbf for one day, hope you're ok @Dancer

    Beef, Turkey, Potatoes, Stuffing, Pigs in Blankets, Yorkshire Puddings, Carrots, Peas, Sweetcorn and Cauliflower.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 10,052 An Original Mixlorian
    Dancer wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    Dancer wrote: »
    I've just had my dinner. Yum yum. But it was a lot and I feel a bit aghhh.

    Ooh what did you have? It is a lot tbf for one day, hope you're ok @Dancer

    Beef, Turkey, Potatoes, Stuffing, Pigs in Blankets, Yorkshire Puddings, Carrots, Peas, Sweetcorn and Cauliflower.

    Oh we had similar. I'm very glad you had yorkshire puddings too or else we could not be friends. Yorkies are one of the best bits @Dancer
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,254 Boards Champion
    sending hugs to you all today and everyday
  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    independent_ wrote: »
    Dancer wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    Dancer wrote: »
    I've just had my dinner. Yum yum. But it was a lot and I feel a bit aghhh.

    Ooh what did you have? It is a lot tbf for one day, hope you're ok @Dancer

    Beef, Turkey, Potatoes, Stuffing, Pigs in Blankets, Yorkshire Puddings, Carrots, Peas, Sweetcorn and Cauliflower.

    Oh we had similar. I'm very glad you had yorkshire puddings too or else we could not be friends. Yorkies are one of the best bits @Dancer

    I very almost wasn't able to get them (through no fault of my own) but thankfully my mum was able to get some from someone today.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    Currently busy eating the Christmas decorations. Don't worry. I haven't gone completely insane. They're chocolate. Haha.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    Yeah having a cold really socks especially on a day which I love the most.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    edited December 2022
    Its boxing day tomorrow and I will be seeing my nan and bamp twice
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
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  • DancerDancer Community Connector Posts: 8,174 Legendary Poster
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    independent_ wrote: »
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    Struggling.
    TW ed
    Christmas dinner was so so hard to get throughand now i just feel horrible about myself and body
    TW grief
    ive been acting ok for my family but i just feel so low. I miss my stepmom, nan and cat :disappointed: it feels wrong to celebrate without them 💔🕊

    I hear you @Chloe234 what a horrible situation to be in, I really feel for you and your family. Hugs <3

    Thankyou elle 🤍it's just got 100 times worse too but I'll live I think

    We’re all here if you’d like to talk anymore <3@Chloe234

    Don't wanna ruin everyone's Christmas but I'll be fine ig

    You're not ruining anyone's Christmas.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    @Chloe234 If you need to talk or overload anything please feel free. I know it's easier said than done but all of us are here for you no matter what. You matter a lot to me and I want to make sure that you are okay. You don't have to apologise for reaching out, as sometimes the bravest thing we can do is ask for help.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
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