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Struggling to describe how past situations have made me feel

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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,474 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Creativeboy23 from what I've read it sounds like you are a great hard working student which is a good thing. I can understand the part where you mention about being hard on yourself. I too can relate to this in some ways as I have struggled with being hard on myself in the past. It sounds like your teachers think you are a wonderful and great person. I'm not sure if this helps but it could a bit of self doubt that you might be feeling. Self doubt is normal to experience as most of the time, a lot of people fear being judged or are worried that they might have not done their best. The truth is though is that as long as you have tried your best that is alright. We aren't all perfect and we shouldent self doubt ourselves or fear being judged, because we are human. I think you are a great person and as long as you try your best and enjoy what you do, you'll be okay. I'm not sure if this helps, but if you ever want to chat I'm always here <3


    Sending hugs,


    Amy22 <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,474 Part of The Furniture
    @Creativeboy23 Aw no worries, at least you have found the feeling that you were trying to find. Thank you though :)


    Amy22
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,171 Wise Owl
    Hi @Creativeboy23 a lot of what you are describing sounds like the people around you who are telling you these things appreciate you and perhaps they think you are modest or have self doubt (which I know you said you don’t 😊) so they think they are being helpful with this reassurance?

    When you say this has made you feel separate from other people, can you explain that a little more? Is that because you feel the special attention you’re getting is different to other people, or something else?

    Might be helpful to explore to better understand the feelings and to be able to articulate them to others - particularly if they are making you feel singled out.

    Lucy
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,171 Wise Owl
    Hi @Creativeboy23 in case it helps, it sounds like some of what people are telling you are quite ‘normal’ things people can say. Lots of people really enjoy getting reassurance, some people really need reassurance, and so I think others tend to give out reassurance thinking that it will be a positive and helpful thing. It sounds like you do not want or need reassurance, and that’s ok to say to others if it doesn’t work for you 😊

    Also pointing out the areas you need to work on - also might be people thinking they are being helpful? I certainly get feedback on areas I need to work on / could improve on quite regularly too.

    What I’m trying to say is, I don’t know if you’re the only person that hears these things, are you sure there are not others around you who hear similar things in private conversations? There may be no malice / negative intention, but your feelings are valid and it’s ok for you to there that it doesn’t make you feel good when they say these things
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