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Struggling to describe how past situations have made me feel
Creativeboy23
Posts: 278 The Mix Regular
Hello. I have recently been remembering some situations. I have been told that I am so quiet, awesome, work hard, and am a lovely student but am too hard on myself sometimes. Staff members have reassured me that feedback is not given to criticise what I have done, and my friend reassured me when things have upset me. I have been reminded to take breaks. I have been told to not put pressure on myself when I was upset about not getting a task completed within a set time limit. A staff member offered me mock interview feedback, telling me that I did not mention some strengths he noticed I had. I was told that I should not have been worried about being judged for changing my progression plan, and that nobody will judge me about asking questions, as they may have the same questions as me but too afraid to ask that question. I have been told that I need to reword a description of my work experience placement to show that I have worked with my autism positively. A staff member at a youth club told me I should get involved more. It is like all the people that have told me these things have the same view of my personality when they do not know each other. These situations have elicited a particular feeling that I have been struggling to describe, but all I know is these situations have made me feel separate from other people. I would like some help in finding out what that particular feeling could be please.
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Sending hugs,
Amy22
Your are mistaken. It is not self doubt but thanks for helping me find the emotion it could be. I have realised now that I think I was trying to say that these past situations have made me feel singled out for special attention. I have been struggling with this feeling for quite a while.
Thanks I am always available if you would like to share things that have been troubling you .
Sending hugs to you too,
Creativeboy23 .
Amy22
When you say this has made you feel separate from other people, can you explain that a little more? Is that because you feel the special attention you’re getting is different to other people, or something else?
Might be helpful to explore to better understand the feelings and to be able to articulate them to others - particularly if they are making you feel singled out.
Lucy
Yes. I feel that the special attention I receive is different to other people. It is like the experience that people have of my personality is needing to give me frequent reassurance, and pointing out areas I need to work on (for e.g. needing to get involved more and talking about my autism positively). I just feel that I am the only person with these aspects to my personality.
Also pointing out the areas you need to work on - also might be people thinking they are being helpful? I certainly get feedback on areas I need to work on / could improve on quite regularly too.
What I’m trying to say is, I don’t know if you’re the only person that hears these things, are you sure there are not others around you who hear similar things in private conversations? There may be no malice / negative intention, but your feelings are valid and it’s ok for you to there that it doesn’t make you feel good when they say these things
Wise words.
I think there are others that hear similar things in private conversations, but I think that is only me because I have always struggled with taking things personally.
Thanks for your reassurance.