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People joking about suicide and Mental issues- *possible TW

LorryTruckLorryTruck Definition of a mental mess and a certified lost cause :)EnglandPosts: 1,191 Wise Owl
edited November 2020 in Health and Wellbeing
I don't know about you guys, but does it ever annoy you when you hear someone joking about suicide?
I've heard a lot in the past two years that, tbh, totally pisses me of. I remember this boy, who is also very racist, telling a girl to "go jump out of the window". How can someone even have that kind of mindset to even say that?

I do know some people joke about suicide to be able to talk about it though.

TW
I remember when one of my friends self harmed and I asked her how she did it and she told me But after that she kept showing people, and going on about it.

It just annoys me. That's not the only things I have heard. People randomly saying, I'm depressed.
Sometimes when I'm talking to someone, they'd be like, oh I want to die.
I'm there triggered and they don't even give a shit!
I understand they might be reaching out for help, but that's not the way to do it.

Comment if you have had similar situations.
And how am I supposed to deal with it?

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  • LorryTruckLorryTruck Definition of a mental mess and a certified lost cause :) EnglandPosts: 1,191 Wise Owl
    I'm sorry if I come across as rude
    Monsters don't sleep under your bed
    They scream inside of your head 
  • JamJarJamJar Posts: 263 Super Moderator
    Hey @LorryTruck

    You don't come across as rude. Your frustrations are completely natural and I have also heard a lot of people use those words. I suppose it's a difficult situation because ultimately those people just aren't thinking how those words will be received by some of the people around them. 

    As much as those words may come across as offensive, and they seem very personal, they are not intended to hurt. Instead, speaking honestly those words are usually said from a position of ignorance. And there isn't really any reasoning with ignorance unfortunately. 

    I know this maybe isn't that helpful of a response, but have you read/listened/watched anything to do with stoicism? This short video on stoicism may explain a bit about what I mean :)  

    Anyway, let me know if this is not what you were meaning or if you have different views. It's a reality that a lot of us have to deal with so this thread will hopefully create some interesting discussion <3
    LorryTruck
  • Emma_Emma_ 🥦🌻🌿 Vibing with plants and vegan food Posts: 283 Community Manager
    Hey @LorryTruck

    This sounds really tricky and you don't come across as rude at all! 

    You mentioned your friend had struggled in the past and that understandably it was triggering for you. It's hard because they are your friend so you want to help them right! But sometimes we need to protect ourselves first. When I'm speaking to friends about topics that might be triggering I let them know if I'm in the right mindset to be able to help them, and I ask them the same. Something like this:
    I want to talk about something that might be triggering, just wanted to check you are in an okay place to listen
    And it's okay to say to someone that what they are talking about is triggering, those sound like pretty deep topics so might trigger others in the room too! 

    I hope that helps a little <3
    LorryTruck
  • LorryTruckLorryTruck Definition of a mental mess and a certified lost cause :) EnglandPosts: 1,191 Wise Owl
    @Emma_ Thanks you!
    @JamJar It's kind of what I meant I guess. The person might find joking about the issue is the only way to convey and reach out. Yes, I think stoicism is what I meant.
    Monsters don't sleep under your bed
    They scream inside of your head 
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