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Why do I struggle with different partners.

Hello everybody. I have been struggling to have sex with different girls. I was married but was caught cheating about 3 months ago. My then wife wasn’t giving me attention at all so I decided to look else where. I’ve been trying to have sex with another girl and I can’t seem to get hard or stay hard long enough. I would like to think I like this girl and at times I do want to have sex but when it comes to it I’m not able to. Since my split I’ve had sex a couple times with my ex partner and had no issues what so ever. I’m just wondering what would be the reason for this? Am I not attracted to this other girl? Am I used to being with my ex partner? I really need help. Me and this other girl have tried multiple times and it the same thing all the time.
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We have a section on The Mix all about sex and relationships which may provide you with some useful info. This one here is specifically about impotence - maybe have a read and see if it helps:
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/having-sex/impotence-3954.html
yeah i agree with @Mike
im female but hopefully i could give some insight. But in past havent been stimualated from some people but do with others and i wouldnt know what would be the difference. But def was a mental thing of either mostly anxiety, whats already happened in the day, whats on my mind, and if they did something different before the sex ie being touched a lot before. rather then going straight to sex or something that was different. If makes sense.