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Elizabeth
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Hi, I've been struggling a bit with my mental health. I've spoken to my friends about it although they have gone and sent a message to my parents. It has made everything worse and they promised they would never tell anyone, so I just feel like I have lost my trust with them. I really didn't want them to know, I quickly saw the message and deleted it so I'm just hoping my parents didn't see it in time. I'm just really scared that they have seen it cause I don't want to worry them, I was getting better and everything.
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I'm really sorry to hear they broke your trust like that
Do you want to share more about why you don't want to talk to them about it - am I understanding right that you just don't want to worry them?
For me, I used to hide my feelings from my parents too, but now have a relationship with them where I feel I can open up to them. Although they still worry about me, it's helped a lot to talk things through... A problem shared is a problem halved and all that. If you don't want to do that with your parents, that's what we're here for too
- Lucy
I have forgiven my friends for what they did, but still don't think I can trust them. Although they keep asking what my mum said, and I just feel bad lying to them cause I know they are going to be so angry if I tell them I saw the message before my mum. They keep telling me they have been through it before and felt it really helped when their parents could support them.
I just feel like I have failed myself, I’m not liking university and just feel unmotivated cause I’m doing a course which I didn’t even want to do cause I wasn’t good enough to do the course I applied for. I have a few friends at uni but I get upset to see my closer friends move on as they have found better people to be around then me.
Could you switch to a course you want to do? you say you didn't get into the course you applied for, maybe you could do the courses that will get you onto your desired course?
It can be hard to see friends moving on, I barely see my friends anymore as they've all moved away and have families now. but we try meet up as often as possible.
how do you feel about talking to your parents about how you're feeling? I know you don't want to worry them, but as I found out, my parents were more worried when I DIDNT tell them anything. maybe your friends jus sent the message cause they were worried about you?
i get the feeling of not wanting your parents to know. Sometimes you just want to speak about these things to people who arent your parents and they should of respected that and that you may not feel the same of your parents supported you. Personally for me i hate my parents knowing - it just feels like a weird vibe esp if MH & suicide stuff is on the tv i feel awkward. Its hard for other people to understand that though. And if you did ever wanna tell your parents that should be in your control. But it does sound like both your friends and parents care and would care.
What corse are you doing if dont mind me asking? It doesnt sound like youve failed in my point of view, sounds like you had a setback but keep trying either way and going to uni. I appercate may not feel that positive to you. But to an outside you sound strong and seeking help here is good too.
Take lots of care & keep posting here if youd like
I’m currently doing a foundation year, and then going onto biomed and then I really want to do medicine. It just seems like it’s impossible to reach cause I have been set back so much. I don’t even think I will be smart enough anyway to do it but I just keep hoping.
I have just caught up on your thread and wanted to say you did really well to open up about how you are feeling. I'm glad you felt able to share it here and we are all here to listen and support you
I'm also at university and can really relate to some of the feelings you are experiencing. Studying for a future career can feel so nerve-racking, and I can hear you are worried you won't be smart enough, but the way I see it is that it's really great that you have dreams and aspirations. That is something that will really help you in life, regardless of intelligence! Try and take everything a step at the time rather than focusing on the big end goal - and I really believe you will get to great places
It's really lovely of you to care so much about your parents, with not wanting them to worry about you or feel that they have done something wrong. But at the same time, they are there to support you and you really do deserve to feel supported. Saying that, we too are here to support you...you are important and we are here to listen no matter what
Take good care
I’ve spoken to some friends about how I feel, and I just feel like they think I’m looking for attention. They just ignore me even though I’m really struggling, it just makes me feel even more alone like no one even cares anyway.
Sending hugs, sorry to hear about your friends ignoring you, that doesn't sound very nice for you. We are always going to be here for you if you want to talk about things
"Like when I was down you just had that smile that made me feel like everything's worthwhile. Thinking of the day when you went away, what a life to take, what a bond to break, I'll be missing you"
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